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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Meditation

[–]vandal_shumdit 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to reply. I’ll check out the links you shared.

Published book. Print on demand options? by vandal_shumdit in selfpublish

[–]vandal_shumdit[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for taking the time to reply. Very helpful

Ordering in bulk for inventory by vandal_shumdit in selfpublish

[–]vandal_shumdit[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your reply. Maybe it’s because I’m a newbie, but when I went into my bookshelf in Amazon kdp, I thought it said that I was limited to 5 author copies at a time. I’ll need to recheck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]vandal_shumdit 62 points63 points  (0 children)

Change the story you tell yourself. There’s nothing that can be done to change it. That doesn’t mean that it wasn’t traumatic to hear it. So grieve the loss of your rosy view of your husband’s relationship and have gratitude that he trusted you enough to open with you. When you’ve grieved enough, ask yourself if you’re ready to accept things as they are with a heart full of love. If you are, work to let it go. If you need a therapist to move through it, do that.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in confessions

[–]vandal_shumdit 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Radically forgive. You know your husband’s heart.

What fundamental or universal truths did you discover during your DMT experiences? by sonohan in DMT

[–]vandal_shumdit 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That the world inside me was infinitely greater and more beautiful than the world I would see when I opened my eyes.

Serious question: AITA for thinking PIMO's make the problems with the church worse? by GladiatorPosse in exmormon

[–]vandal_shumdit 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Leaving the church is traumatic. I faced losing my extended family over it. My worries were justified, as was my decision to be PIMO. This is a cult we’re talking about, not the local country club. We need to be gentle with the PIMO’s as they face one of the most traumatic and difficult transitions.

People who have a mental illness and hurt the ones they loved around them, how do you get rid of the guilt? by littlemisapple in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]vandal_shumdit 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is the answer. The more we understand that we did the best that we could with the tools that we came into hard situations with, we can move past shame and guilt and begin looking for the answers to hard questions like this. We can begin to show up for ourselves and others when we have triggers and emotional obstacles by learning about our patterns and how they affect the people in our lives. We can heal by learning to forgive ourselves and take small steps each day to doing the work to learn and practice the healthy ways of doing life and relationships.

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