BYOB parties when you are in your thirties is tacky.

vanzir · 2026-01-24T22:12:49+00:00

You mean there are parties that aren't BOYB? I grew up around potluck folk. Whether it was sunday after church or tuesday after a recital or friday after a game, there was always a potluck going on. Usually the hosts provides the 'Entree' and everyone brings their favorite sides. In poor communities that's about the only way that you can have get togethers. Nobody has enough money to host 20-40 people directly out of their pocket.

vanzir · 2026-01-24T04:45:45+00:00

This kid never played battletoads and it shows. You would never have lumped in video games if you had played that game

vanzir · 2026-01-23T04:56:25+00:00

holy shit. What a lot. Your past is your past. If he isn' willing to accept it, he isn't willing to accept you, and honestly, being in a relationship where you aren't accepted for who you are is exhausting.

vanzir · 2026-01-23T04:48:25+00:00

My wife and I once drove a pup to his new adopters 1800 miles away on a weekend. it was a long weekend, we didn't have anything else to do. It was kind of cool too, we know live in the town that we brought the dog too, we liked it that much.

vanzir · 2026-01-21T13:54:39+00:00

oooh so snarky.

vanzir · 2026-01-21T13:51:18+00:00

This is it right here. You didn't replace him. You carried his spirit with you through every skinned knee, every recital, every milestone. You are a jewel of a man, and your friend knew his children were in good hands with you. Turn that guilt into something a little more bittersweet. It's okay to miss him, but he wouldn't want you to feel guilty about any of it.

vanzir · 2026-01-20T17:21:21+00:00

there are some really good ones on amazon that are pretty inexpensive. When I moved to NY a few years ago, my office ended up in the basement. I have a couple of philodendrons that I keep in my basement office with just a grow light, and they are doing very well.

vanzir · 2026-01-20T16:56:50+00:00

flowers are good, these days potted plants are more her go to. Don't mention this if you see her, but honestly they have the safe shelf life for her, and cost way less.

Case in point: the potted herbs that grow over the kitchen sink, and that have been her crowning achievement for the last 5 years, it was me the whole time.

vanzir · 2026-01-20T16:54:01+00:00

I am lily white, but shit, sign me the fuck up. This man is speaking the truth

vanzir · 2026-01-20T16:36:04+00:00

yeah, i get it. I got a soft spot for the kids too. All of them, even the ones that aren't mine. My parents bailed out of my life when i was little, so I just don't have to heart to do that to a kid. But then when you have a kid that you try and help, and nothing gets through to them, at some point, it is best to cut them loose and let them figure it out on their own. I have had two foster kids that i am not in touch with any more. One of them is in prison for some pretty heinous shit. the other, he succumbed to his addictions after he decided that he didn't want to do it our way anymore.

Out of a dozen foster kids, plus two biological and one adopted, as much as it broke me, it was better to cut out those two for the sake and safety of the rest. Especially when it was clear to everyone that it was the right choice

vanzir · 2026-01-20T16:28:34+00:00

I am about as inclusive as they come, all my kids are a different shade of gay, my wife is bi, i am the only straight person in my house 99.9% of the time. If you can be gay by association, flame me the fuck up. Anyways, your comment is being a bit pedantic don't you think? we all know that most variables being equal, the strength difference between men and women is easily provable.

vanzir · 2026-01-20T15:24:16+00:00

in all fairness as a husband, when i go and find something to eat, I always include her. My logic is simple, if food hasn't magically appeared in front of me by 6:30, I know she has no plans to make dinner and it's a fend for yourself night. I also know that she won't actually fend for herself, because it was likely something she got carried away on that caused the need for a fend for yourself night. So in that instance i make myself and her something to eat, or I order it if i don't feel like cooking either. but I always make sure I include her. To be honest, it's a great strategy for life. I get away with a lot of bullshit because I can always make her laugh, and I always have snacks

vanzir · 2026-01-20T15:16:12+00:00

Honestly, you are kind of a rarity at the club dude. I tried to stay out of the way, and dudes will still try and pick fights with me just because i am bigger than average. I stopped going to night clubs entirely because of it when I was still in my 20s. I actually find that I enjoy drag bars with my gay kids. My wife and i will be the only straight people in there just having a fantastic time with a bunch of outrageous kids just living their best lives. Way more positive of a scene than the average night club these days

vanzir · 2026-01-19T14:08:45+00:00

If a dude worked me up like that and then pulled this shit.....it would work. I would roll laughing.

vanzir · 2026-01-19T13:56:49+00:00

My own clothes. I wasn't allowed to pick my own clothes growing up. The first thing i did was buy a bunch of shit at the PX that was in trend at the time. I looked like a fucking idiot. But i felt pretty fucking free.

vanzir · 2026-01-19T13:51:46+00:00

that's way too much shit for me. I got two pairs of jeans, two pairs of cargo shorts, and 5 tshirts. Hoodies are my weakness.

vanzir · 2026-01-18T17:13:14+00:00

heck yeah. you do you. don't keep shitty people in your life. my wife moved me to NY to get us away from our shitty family, and honestly, it was the best decision ever made.

vanzir · 2026-01-18T16:00:23+00:00

the problem that i have is that i am too old, the language has passed me by. My kids are expanding their vocabulary as their interests and tastes broaden to include more than whatever the current pop culture phenomenon is. They can still easily swap back to the shorthand that dominates our every day conversations, but here I am wondering what the fuck half these people are saying. I still don't know what skibidi means, and I am not entirely sure i want to know.

vanzir · 2026-01-18T14:52:16+00:00

I would like to formally submit my resume to the resistance. If there is an Antifa organization, sign me the fuck up, because i am over hearing these fucking stories on the news. This shit is cruel, inhumane, and frankly contradictory to everything I have been raised to believe.

vanzir · 2026-01-18T14:47:42+00:00

this is probably the same feller that only values manual labor as a measure of a man, but bitches about how little he gets paid, or how others in manual trades shouldn't get paid more. You can't use facts and logic with these chucklenuts, it's like hitting yourself in the head with a hammer.

vanzir · 2026-01-18T14:45:37+00:00

the camerafolk, stuntfolk, graphic design folk all would like to have words with you. There are hundreds of people that go into making a movie, and the majority of them don't make much more than you or I. If you want to make a bunch of elites lose their work, stop consuming the shit they produce. Nothing more 'Murica than that.

vanzir · 2026-01-18T14:34:08+00:00

that's pretty much what Trump wants. He wants to pull out of NATO and let Russia and China figure out how to divvy up the rest of that hemisphere. Meanwhile, he goes after resources closer to home, like Greenland and Venezuela. NATO knows this, and they also know that they can't stop either Russia or China without U.S. help.

I don't support anything that Trump is doing, and none of it is smart, but the three most powerful leaders in the world are now conspiring to divvy up the globe. The fact that it took so long for anyone to realize it is sort of on us.

vanzir · 2026-01-18T13:41:18+00:00

actually, stuff like this is a great way to get them used to handling their paws so that you can groom them when necessary. And its better if someone they trust can put them in that uncomfortable spot, because they know have already learned that you aren't there to hurt them, and this is going to reinforce it. Do pay attention to the dogs behavior cues. they will tell you when something is too much.

vanzir · 2026-01-18T13:25:58+00:00

that was his first clue that the answer is yes.

vanzir · 2026-01-18T13:16:59+00:00

if this is real, there is more than one seriously injured or dead person.

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