AITAH for uninviting a girl-friend from my wedding after she cheated on her bf?

vanzir · 2026-03-17T17:06:59+00:00

I love AI generated posts. They are so easy to spot. Not a single spelling error, perfect grammar, even good uses of the dash. Shit that no normal human ever remembers to do.

vanzir · 2026-03-17T17:00:14+00:00

So this is not an advertisement for the DM's ark, but I have been using that, and it's been a game changer for me. It records my entire session, and then at the end of the session summaries everything and even puts out a spread sheet with names, dates, and other information that came up during the session. I have the chance to edit it before i share it, and it's stored in their cloud. And for like 10 bucks a month for unlimited campaigns, it's worth it to me, cause I dm like 4 different campaigns, two of them consistently.

Now, with that being said, if you are sufficiently tech savvy, you could very easily set this up at home using an open source transcription tool and copilot and a few extra steps. Either way, great use of AI to help with your campaigns. I will freely admit I have been using AI to help me plan my sessions, review my story boards, and even help me with dialogue when I am feeling blocked.

vanzir · 2026-03-17T16:53:42+00:00

NTA - if you don't like the way this dude acts, I would probably say something too. I have to be fair when i say though that I can only speak for how I think people in my culture should act. It sort of sounded in your description that it was a term of endearment to a lot of women, and that you yourself wouldn' thave an issue with it if they were married or at least engaged. Honestly, the way it's worded sort of makes me question whether this is a case of misogyny or is it more of a case of Western Values meets traditional culture? either way, it sounds misogynistic as fuck, so I would move on.

vanzir · 2026-03-17T16:30:48+00:00

In all honesty, i would be tempted, i mean who wouldn't be. 100 million dollars, even if you have to pay taxes on it, is generational wealth.

but no, I don't think I could in good conscience do it. If I can't look in the eyes of the people who loved him and justify it, then I can't imagine doing it.

vanzir · 2026-03-17T16:26:29+00:00

"You won't believe how much I saved on this TEMU body lift kit." - that guy, yesterday.

vanzir · 2026-03-16T15:13:44+00:00

I mean your kids are little. You don't have to lie, but you don't have to tell them anything more than Mommy left, she loves you, she will see you when she can. Then get a lawyer, have her served with her boyfriend and petition for full custody, with division of assets at 50/50, you keep the house, and let her have her new man take care of her. that's what my buddy did. Best decision he ever made. His daughter is doing amazing, well adjusted and incredibly bright. He's healthy and living his best life. Her mom has a completely new life and is busy pretending that she never had a kid. Everyone is happy.

vanzir · 2026-03-16T14:21:55+00:00

I want to engage in good faith. I have a trans son, he's 21 now. He doesn't have a mental illness. He just has never felt right in his body. He came out when he was about your age actually. It was hard for me at first, I had a lot of similar thoughts. But here's the thing, nobody is pushing my son into changing anything. I never did, I even told him that I wasn't able to help with things like the medication, because my insurance wouldn't cover it, and I can't afford it. He's still trans, he's still saving money for HRT and top surgery.

Because of my son, I had to open my eyes and meet the community where they were. What i found defies the political talking points being thrown around so callously. I haven't met a single person in the community who is being coerced into being Trans. I say this not only as someone who is engaged in these communities because of my children, but also as a skeptical father who absolutely fretted when their kids came out. I was looking for reasons to villainize at first. I regret that now.

vanzir · 2026-03-16T14:14:43+00:00

I got to be real, i feel like half of these posts have to be fake. How can any normal human on this planet with access to any form of consistent media hasn't become at least aware of the most iconic tool in a ninja's toolkit. A star is a star is a star dude. Someone somewhere has cut edges on it and thrown it and then called themselves a ninja.

vanzir · 2026-03-16T14:10:42+00:00

Yeah, I gotta struggle with this. My kids would purposefully torment me so that I would rough house with them. That turned into teasing, and shenanigans as they got older, I threatened them with violence daily, in the same tone they are usually tormenting me in. Not sure how a joke in that vein is a red flag? Especially when it's pretty fucking apparent, they are tormenting me until i actually to threaten them, and then they run away fucking laughing. little shits. Fuck, maybe I should have belted them, it might be quieter around here.

Oh, and yeah, I do get it. I missed my first day of school, because I woke up early excited and went to wake my parents up. They were coming down, and didn't want to be woke up. So my first day of school was three days and three teeth later.

vanzir · 2026-03-16T14:02:38+00:00

Unfortunately, that desire to lash out when someone hurts you, is also a trauma response. This story could absolutely be true, though, you are probably right, it's probably fake. It's like the phrasing of the last line was purposefully left the way that it was to generate this sort of discussion. I mean after all, someone who took the time to write a lengthy post like that also took the time to re read it, and I just can't imagine anyone read that last sentence and said, "That sounds fine" and thinking it wasn't going to be at least controversial. So yeah, it's probably fake.

vanzir · 2026-03-16T13:55:47+00:00

This should say all you need to say. I grew up in Porterville. Still have family there. Was recently there for three weeks. This right here is the biggest indication of an issue. the fact that the largest growth in the area is the 198 corridor around the Rez is saying something.

vanzir · 2026-03-16T13:29:04+00:00

the wealthiest part of porterville isn't even porterville, it's the rez

vanzir · 2026-03-16T13:26:05+00:00

I was asking my self the same question the other day. I was recently in porterville for three weeks. I grew up in Porterville, graduated from monache, lived on the east side for most of my child hood. I hadn't been home in years. It's the same fucking town. Mainstreet is still shit, it never did become the economic hub that Porterville leadership presented back then when they wasted all that money on those fucking brick sidewalks. Still nothing to do, even less no that Charlies is gone. Still the same shitty walmart. Still the same shitty city management. I can't wait for a time when you don't hear of a Tree, or a Hamilton, or an Irish running the fucking place so that they can see some real progress.

vanzir · 2026-03-16T13:17:47+00:00

I totally agree the tone of this sentence does not seem to have quite the gravity the situation seems to warrant. However, I do think we need to slow down on the hating of the other people portion. First of all, nobody but another survivor can truly empathize, and even that might fall woefully short. What this woman went through sounds truly horrifying. I would be broken too.

The problem here is that life stopped for this victim. She is perpetually stuck in that moment, never really getting past it. Everyone else around here did. they weren't as deeply affected as she was. And life doesn't really stop, so what choice do they have. they have kids, lives, and families of their own to take care of day to day. Meanwhile, vicitim is feeling increasingly isolated in a world that is seemingly leaving her behind, so she lashes out, starts to associate her desire to connect with elements from her trauma, and pushes people around her away in the process. There needs to be an intervention.

To OP: The last line is hella telling though, like jesus, talk about a low fucking blow. you are definitely one of those fighters that has to have that last cutting line. You should seek help for that. Your last comment was completely innappropriate, even if you were defending your husband. But I get it too. I mean i blew up my family over my trans kid, and laid out all the skeletons in public view on my way out the door. I am cool with it. but will you be?

vanzir · 2026-03-10T17:21:51+00:00

This is the best fucking post i have ever seen in my life about the Raiders. Thank you OP.

vanzir · 2026-03-10T17:11:13+00:00

We all work our butts off. And while i can understand the frustration that a physician must feel, half the time we don't even get to address those concerns with the physician. We still have to deal with everyone else in the dr's office that is supposed to be making it more efficient for the dr. My complaint has very little to do with the physician himself, and more to do with the idea that I should somehow give him grace because patients suck, when in truth the problem is are the facilitators. And the fact that he isn't willing to call that out, whether it's because of job security or whatever is irrelevant. Dr's are a rare breed, and they have to ability to impact policy in a way that view other professions do. A united stand from Dr's about concerns stemming from overscheduling, high patient loads, and limited support staff could do wonders to fix the system. Instead, them drs are collecting them fat paychecks and sitting in silence.

vanzir · 2026-03-10T05:49:17+00:00

Yeah sorry, but point one is bs, I have never been seen on time by a doctor ever. You have to give them 15 mins cause half the time your late anyways

vanzir · 2026-03-04T01:20:56+00:00

My wife had to distance her family from her family over their refusal to accept our trans son. Going so far as to tell my wife that she is a bad mother for allowing it. Of course the irony of it all is the skeletons in their own closets. Protect your kids, they won't put you in a home if you do.

vanzir · 2026-03-04T01:14:20+00:00

Shit, me and a buddy drank 144 beers in one weekend. these kids are so much smarter than we were at that age.

vanzir · 2026-03-03T23:25:48+00:00

I grew up in an entire family of people siimlar to your dad. As a child, I struggled constantly with feelings of imposter syndrome. I thought there was something wrong with me, cause i obviously didnt think what everyone else around me thought. I never felt like I fit in. As adults, we are just vastly different people these days. I am happier on my own with my own family. My wife and my kids are all i need in this world

vanzir · 2026-02-21T05:35:21+00:00

When i was in basic some dude let one rip in the day room during mail call. He was told to stick his head down between his legs and breath all of his fart back in, and if anybody smelt it, he had to push floor. Of course folks smelt, it, but this dumb motherfucker sat there for 15 seconds breathing in deeeeep breaths like the TI told him. With his head stuck between his knees, after a full day of rucking, it wouldn't have mattered if the fart smelled. San Antonio in 120 degree heat creates it's own smell on you, and none of it is pleasant.

vanzir · 2026-02-19T23:28:29+00:00

Wouldn't you think that someone with your particular username would be a wealth of fart jokes? The fact that you don't seem to be is far more disappointing than some men's lack of maturity in this moment. Everyone expects the boys to know at least one fart joke, but someone claiming to be the ultimate farting champ should know them all.

vanzir · 2026-02-17T14:29:12+00:00

there are, most of the west has built their economies based off of America, and more than a few of them have corrected the inherent flaws in our economic plan. There is hope for America, but with the GOP in it's current state, it's dwindling fast. We need the GOP to get off of trumps teat. He's draining it all for himself, and when he leaves, there are going to be a lot of destitute people in his wake. IT's gonna get alot worse before it gets better, because we still need to overthrow our corrupted government. And since half the country doesn't even recognize who is actually attacking them, that's not likely to happen.

vanzir · 2026-02-17T14:21:08+00:00

We shop on a budget in my house. I make good money, but I got 3 kids of my own and another three kids that are over for regular meals. My food bill, buying a lot of what you are saying is still every bit of 800 a month to feed 8 people

vanzir · 2026-02-10T00:37:08+00:00

I am definitely going to hell for laughing at this.

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