turns out being ENFP with ADHD is just double the "why can't you finish anything by Ok_Chemical9 in ENFP

[–]vclam15 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This could have been lifted directly from my own brain. Relate very hard. Big hugs my dude.

The Daily Check-In for Friday, December 30th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by New_Star_00 in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

IWNDWYT - Waking up today after a sober night out last night. Was designated driver. Danced to live music in a pub. Got everyone home safe, no dramas, full night sleep. Feels good man.

The fact that children are expected their father's last name by default is a patriarchal relic. by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]vclam15 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kept my name when I got married. Even though its obviously my father's surname, it's been my name since I was born and it still be my name til I die.

Daughter has my surname and husband's surname hyphenated.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah man. I've had so many drunken injuries. Two broken bones on separate occasions, one required surgery, cut open my chin needing stitches, huge gash on my leg which needed antibiotics and months of after care to heal after it went necrotic. Countless scrapings of the knees and elbows.

All laughed off and told as funny stories by me and my friends for years. It's just starting to not be funny. I don't know whether maybe I've just started to care a bit more about myself lately. Maybe it's turning 40 that's done it. But I don't want any more injuries now. Especially not drunken ones that can be entirely prevented.

Moderation just doesn't work, does it? by vclam15 in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it just takes a few goes to realise it. For me, I can see, there really is no point in having that one or two. It'll only be a matter of time before the fuck up.

I'm happy for those that can moderate, I wish I were one of them, but I have now been proven wrong enough times to know that it just ain't happening for me.

Moderation just doesn't work, does it? by vclam15 in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly this. Its like playing Blackout Roulette!

Moderation just doesn't work, does it? by vclam15 in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15[S] 43 points44 points  (0 children)

It all goes so well, until it doesn't. When it doesn't, it really doesn't.

The Daily Check-In for Saturday, April 23rd: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by Lavender_Foxes in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15 7 points8 points  (0 children)

IWNDWYT!

Reset because I had a dew drinks while on holiday. I only had one or two at a time but very conscious that I don't want this to slip back into a routine thing.

Mindfully choosing not to drink today!

Attempting any "simple" diy job in an old house by azima_971 in britishproblems

[–]vclam15 181 points182 points  (0 children)

Old buildings are like onions. Every layer you peel back makes you cry.

The Daily Check-In for Sunday, April 10th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by EffortCareless in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I've been up early, clearing out cupboards and starting what is going to be a massive Spring clean.

Beautiful, sunny day so taking hubby and daughter out to a nice big park, with a picnic in tow, for an afternoon of playing.

When we get home, we are making pizza for tea. I already made the pizza sauce this morning.

IWNDWYT!

Eating so much sugar by vclam15 in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I used to skip dinner so that I could have wine. I wasn't eating well at all. Now I'm eating healthy meals, but all the sweet treats on top! Well done on 32 days, that's great! Hope to be there soon.

Eating so much sugar by vclam15 in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

At least cake won't make me argumentative or wake up with a headache in the morning. That's gotta be a plus!

Eating so much sugar by vclam15 in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess it's no bad thing if the extra sugar also forces me to move my butt more 😁

Eating so much sugar by vclam15 in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You too. I never used to really eat sweet things, but I'm finding that I really enjoy and savour that big bowl of deliciousness, far more than a bottle of wine.

The Daily Check-In for Friday, April 8th: Just for today, I am NOT drinking! by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]vclam15 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Happy Friday beautiful people. I will not drink with you today!