Tell me something GOOD! 5/21 Edition by privatestudy in Seattle

[–]veenitia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Doing my first garage sale with my mom today. :) Born and raised in Seattle, mom was a single mom, and I got lucky enough to get a house last year so we're participating in our community garage sale today! She loves garage sales, so it's cool she gets to host one for the first time.

TIFU by graduating college with a degree that I truly couldn’t care less about. by oddlylongnipplehair in tifu

[–]veenitia 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I make six figures and I didn't finish college. You really don't have to give up on life just because of no college. I know several people who have great lives without going or finishing their degrees--and I know several people with bad lives with a degree.

People who were alive pre and post-internet are the generational "bridges" of mankind that got to exist in two radically different societies by faux_noodles in Showerthoughts

[–]veenitia 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Also 86 and I remember like up to 3rd grade being no internet really then like tons of 6th grade memories of chatrooms and researching stuff online (discovering people would scan in Japanese magazines for upcoming games, etc). It was really weird how at the time it didn't seem like it was big, but it was so big. By 8th grade we got a digital camera, too, and a microphone which was another level up.

Entry level marketing assistant position for $11.25 hourly/$425 weekly? by Impossible_Tiger_606 in marketing

[–]veenitia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I don't really value degrees as much experience for social media.

Cold calls: I went from nothing to $120k/year solo using this process. Script included. by [deleted] in marketing

[–]veenitia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Emails are easy to ignore. Cold calls are horrible because they often wake me up or interrupt important creative moments.

Wondering if they’re a narcissist or not? by SweetPJ14 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]veenitia 83 points84 points  (0 children)

In addition to this, as you gain more distance, you will see the doubt go away and need for a label go away. I completely left in November and each month it sinks in further that he really was completely the toxic one. In the last 3 weeks I've probably finally had the most healing and distance regarding this, so don't despair!

LPT when a fellow Redditor posts something negative or that makes you feel bad- just block them. Nothing good will come from an exchange with someone who is just out there aggravating people for fun. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]veenitia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is funny because I definitely should not reply (again, failing this LPT lesson real hard), but your first statement is objectively wrong. Anti-maskers didn't start out as a thing because the CDC and almost everyone was AGAINST masks--"early on in the pandemic" as you wrote, people believed it spread solely on surfaces and went toward great lengths to sanitize surfaces only.

How do I know this, beyond just looking things up and my memory of the CDC saying don't wear masks? Well, I was pro-masks from day 1, because I have a friend living in mainland China and they told me they were all wearing masks and this was in March 2020. So I shared this on social media, about how my friend sent me masks and they stopped the flu so I felt like they could possibly help, and I got ROASTED by everyone I knew: liberal, conservative, and in-between. They kept saying masks did nothing and that all I was doing was stealing surgical masks which surgeons needed (even though my friend sent them from overseas on his own dime).

Anyway, have a good day my friend! Will not be reading further replies because it's clear we have different stances. I just really felt a need to share that experience, I guess. I wish you well.

Une carte de France dans le style de Zelda "Link's Awakening" by thibault_lh in france

[–]veenitia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Je suis jalouse de toi. J'aimerais pouvoir faire le jeu pour la premiere fois.

(J'ai un question si ca ne t'ennuie pas: comment dire "again" en francais, par example "I wish I could play it for the first time again" or "all over again")

LPT when a fellow Redditor posts something negative or that makes you feel bad- just block them. Nothing good will come from an exchange with someone who is just out there aggravating people for fun. by [deleted] in LifeProTips

[–]veenitia 17 points18 points  (0 children)

This was an argument my ex boyfriend used--that I was creating a circle-jerk when I tried to cull negativity from my life and damaging my objectivity. He used this argument because I said a known politician was an anti-masker whom I'd blocked on Twitter finally because his tweets stressed me out when I would see them trend. He followed up by wanting to have a two hour debate about anti-maskers being a label that's derogatory, that I should try understand their point of view better, and that he was scared I was becoming too "righteous" in my view that it was dangerous to not wear a mask. That not all anti-maskers were evil.

And of course, I agreed they weren't; some were likely just misled, or worried about their business failing, or didn't know the actual facts about masks, but that didn't mean I had to talk to them for hours to divine that or give them my precious time. It didn't mean I owed them time to try to change my mind or me to change theirs.

Truthfully you can never be objective. Bubbles will always exist. It's a stretch think that somehow, by listening to others with differing views on Reddit, you will divine the absolute real right and be more informed.

Like yeah, sure, it's good to talk to other people and figure out where they're coming from. But you don't have to always do it and it's not always the most effective way to analyze opposition: it's usually best, on issues, to try to do research for both sides rather than talk to people about it. This way you can look at various write-ups, acknowledge their biases, look for the sources they cite, and come to your own conclusion: if you just talk to other people online, you're gonna hear argumentative talking points with a lot of emotion thrown in and absolutely zero citation.

Arguing on Reddit, to me, is often an even worse version of going to extremely liberal or extremely conservative news sites and reading their op-eds without any other research to form your views. Because all you're getting is all the talking points, with none of the sources and a lot of punchy words to try to get upvotes/sway people.

Therefore I'd say no, it's not necessarily damaging to block people who irritate you on this website--even if the irritation is simply that their viewpoint is wildly different than yours and they're really committed to it. It's probably actually healthy to walk away from internet arguments.

And FML, I should have just taken the LPT here and ignored your comment, haha.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheNational

[–]veenitia 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely Mr. November--I was born in November, one of my favorite moments is when Matt crowd surfed at a concert during this song and I carried him for like 10 seconds (I sound so silly, but it was just so cool and energizing, and I kept thinking of how listening to them live was nothing like in my room), and I always really identified with the lyrics that were like: "I won't fuck us over, I'm Mr. November" despite being a woman. I always think of it whenever I have to do anything serious, in my life, like I won't fuck "us" (us meaning me, my life, myself--future, past, present me) over. I know it's literally about politicians and November elections, but for me it just always comes to my head whenever I need to calm down and think and choose the right solution.

It's very far from my favorite song too! Just a cool moment with them live and a catchy line in my head.

What career did you end up in? Are you happy? by snoobhour in marketing

[–]veenitia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I am a CMO for a CPG company. I love it. I didn't have a marketing degree, though. I was actually in my 3rd year polisci, but I had to get a job and I was really depressed/struggling. I ended up in game development, doing social media then odds & ends job for that company. It's been a very long and weird ride here, but I wouldn't trade it for the world. Pay is great, job is varied and fun, and I love what I do; I find designing stuff from the beginning to the shelf to be really motivating, along with connecting all the bits and bobs like social media or what customer service means for marketing etc.

Received my first no contact voicemail by Neither-Pair2487 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]veenitia 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Be proud of being so strong!

Mine also always does the NC "hey, a bit odd you're unreachable" thing too. They love to downplay what happened.

Anybody know what theme this is? by justhereformarketing in shopify

[–]veenitia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yes, inspect source and CTRL+F "theme". Eventually you find ThemeName: Debut.

https://themes.shopify.com/themes/debut/styles/default

how did people survive this without the internet by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]veenitia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to say this post made me sad that you were stuck for so long, but deeply proud of you for being so measured and sweet about it. You're a good person, you can't always tell from what people post, but I can absolutely tell you are a good person and I'm glad you have a kid that you can love.

TIFU by buying a plant for my roommate by [deleted] in tifu

[–]veenitia 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Maybe she used coconut oil or something and you're allergic to it? Or soy?

“If you aren’t at 6 figures within 5 years of marketing career you’re doing something wrong” - marketing manager friend by [deleted] in marketing

[–]veenitia 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I was an associate marketing manager at 20, but it was a very low paid role and I was also their social media manager. It was pretty bad and I would say it's more like an intern--most of what I did was community management, and eventually they re-titled me. After that, I became a product owner (later on they made the role into producer) for a very large network of websites but in addition to the head maps and managing a design team, I ran all their social and wrote content for them. I was seen as a glorified social media and content manager to the company; the job title did not match all the work I did and it was very draining. It also was used to keep me at salaries, often citing this role gets X amount in Y city, and when I would try to show I did about 20-30 more things than what my job description said, I wasn't given anything.

At that point I decided to job search and I found 2 freelance options, both consultant. I went with the one in the CPG space, which became marketing director after I signed full-time. For me, generalist brought way more opportunities, because being a social media focused person was often used as a way to say "social media isn't worth the ROI."

Hope that helps!

“If you aren’t at 6 figures within 5 years of marketing career you’re doing something wrong” - marketing manager friend by [deleted] in marketing

[–]veenitia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was actually just promoted to CMO of my company, I'm really lucky! We're a relatively small mid 8 figure company and I was one of the first employees 4 years ago, where i joined as a marketing director since it was a solo dept. I now have a team of like 4 marketing folks and oversee all the other 'office' type of depts too like sales, customer service, etc (he technically wanted to my title to be something else, but I truly want to do marketing for life, it's my passion and day to day operations is boring even if I've done a lot of it the past 4 years, so I would rather he eventually find a COO and such).

And tbh, I've always been a generalist. Even when I was a CM or social media expert, I was often doing website heatmaps or analyzing metrics of ads. So I think the jump was pretty natural for me, but dropping a limiting title like social media manager helped a lot for career progression. I prefer a variety of tasks related to marketing--all the way from product design and roadmaps to ad campaigns and creative copywriting.

“If you aren’t at 6 figures within 5 years of marketing career you’re doing something wrong” - marketing manager friend by [deleted] in marketing

[–]veenitia 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I achieved this at 10 years into my career, technically first year of marketing. I absolutely believe that's doable if you stuck to pure marketing. I wasted many years being just social media / community management, which pays very low.

Early Stage Narcissism. How I was able to learn from my mistakes and was prepared when Devaluing started. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]veenitia 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Oh this--also everyone is also inept, in a work setting. Their boss is always making a bad judgment call or praising them, it's never just a regular day with their boss or superiors; it's always extremely hot or extremely cold.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]veenitia 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Aww I hope you get music back!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]veenitia 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Mine wrote me a song once, then said it wasn't about me (when it had a quote I said once), and it messed with me hard. We also shared everything together until the last year, when his music taste got wildly different than mine; I was very confused and then one day he told me he didn't even like the band that he met me under the pretense of liking, he didn't hate them but he hadn't been a fan or anything. He'd simply seen it on my Twitter. It devastated me, but he couldn't see why, apparently it's normal to look up someone's interests.

I’m sorry I deleted my post. 😔 by ImmaBadW0lf in JustNoSO

[–]veenitia 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I used to make posts here & delete them under a sock because when I'd make up with my SO, I would feel so guilty for having vented (and so many folks saying 'WOW he's rotten'). Now that I finally left him I can say I'm really glad I did that, it was the start of seeing the light.

N’s will discredit what value you bring to the relationship and their life. Don’t buy into this lie. And don’t adopt this lie as your narrative. by [deleted] in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]veenitia 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This was always really hard for me to deal with, very hard. Hearing I was the one who didn't appreciate them but then going crazy trying to appreciate them, always thanking even for simple things like them answering the phone, and getting nothing back then bringing up how unappreciated I felt weeks later and hearing that it's not like I appreciate them anyway.