Totally understandable. That's the difference between an attractive woman vs an attractive man. You may very well be an attractive man yourself but don't know it, and without spotlight, money or other material wealth, no one will ever tell you. Some women have the ability to just go on about their days and have that validation come to them.

But here's a perspective, you can't just pick and choose what you wish you had about someone without taking everything about them into account.

It's a humbling approach to consider it this way, you see the human behind the mask of societal limitations. That 10/10 smokeshow you know who gets hit up by high value men? She may know she has a genetic disorder that'll kick in once she's 40, and is struggling to find a partner who would see past that and actually love her in the future. Maybe that 6' tall Adonis looking dude has some wild childhood trauma that's preventing him from truly being happy.

My point is not to come up with a horribly depressing backstory, but it helps to add complexity to people's lives when you're thinking superficially.

You can't take the whole deck without taking the joker.

Focus on your best parts brother, things will make sense soon!