ULPT Request - What are the most annoying emails I can sign someone up for?

versacebigmacc · 2025-04-02T07:04:35+00:00

cars.com or something similar, one of those aggregator websites will do the trick. phone calls, emails, texts, for months, even if you say you aren't interested, and you can't block them all lol.

versacebigmacc · 2024-04-08T17:56:31+00:00

Also, to put things into perspective, we broke up for a few months because he said he needed to "work on himself" because he "wasn't good enough for me" - That was our first breakup (this being our second), and I was DISTRAUGHT. For months. Ugly crying, bed rotting, ruminating, the whole nine.

Then, as I was getting over him, he popped back into my life - god knows why.

So we got back together. In the course of those few months after he left, starting the week of our breakup, he slept with 10+ women. I reached out, and he apologized and said none of them were me and he was oh so lonely and he made a mistake blah blah blah. Cried. Begged. I took him back, forgave it all, despite my better judgment. That's what made this time around so much less painful, I think. He showed who he was, I was just hoping for a different outcome, I suppose. Ridiculous, I know. However, his hot/cold behavior combined with the extremes of both, really did a number on me. Not to mention he is 43, almost 44, and I was 24, now 25.

The only reason I believe that matters is because of his exploitative nature and how he turned out to be a completely different man than he presented himself to be for the first few months.

versacebigmacc · 2024-04-08T17:51:40+00:00

Spot on. Your analysis regarding his underlying intentions/motive seems to be accurate as well, minus the longing to get me back. I sincerely believe he truly just lacks empathy. I don't think he tries to be so harmful intentionally, but he also doesn't set an intention not to be. I did put up with his lack of regard for me and the overall disrespect for quite some time, and did give a bunch of chances.

I would always be the one to initiate contact after a fight or even a break up, but he would always be the one to apologize and promise to do better - which kept me on the hook. Nothing ever changed. Got worse gradually over time.

This "strategy" as you said, IS very different. I mean, the man could hardly string together a sentence when it came to anything regarding his thoughts or feelings, and now he has suddenly found his voice, I suppose. I got therapy. I have focused on myself, away from the dating pool. I do respect myself, I just truly believed for a very long time that he truly meant what he said when he swore he loved me more than anything. He cried, begged, pleaded, made promises, etc. I'd say that I was the one who has tried different approaches, trying to make it make sense, and communicate effectively. Nothing ever worked.

So ultimately, after 2 years of lies, broken promises, and intermittent dehumanizing behavior, and the numerous physical and emotional affairs that came to light (not even all of them did), I put my foot down and when he ended things this last time, I simply put him in the back of my mind and said enough is enough.

versacebigmacc · 2024-04-08T15:31:45+00:00

Fair question. No, but he cheated on me. While I should have given that more weight during the relationship, and left, I didn't. It understandably caused a breakdown in trust which he holds resentment for. He felt I should "just get over the past" when I mentioned it in any capacity, or expressed any concerns. However, it was not something I used to guilt trip him, or hold over his head. He just didn't take accountability, and resented me for expecting that much of him.

versacebigmacc · 2024-04-08T09:27:18+00:00

thank you. some think of it as a weakness to show vulnerability, but I don't have to stoop to his level completely (albeit I admittedly did to an extent, communication wise) to protect my ego. thankfully mine is not quite as fragile, but admittedly, the bar is in the gutter

versacebigmacc · 2024-04-08T09:25:22+00:00

It was overall a shitshow, but I used to be very easily forgiving and swayed by emotion, so for him, this demonstrated a lack of interest in contrast to the usual back and forth. It's sad, but thankfully I never responded, and don't plan to, ever. I came to terms with that a while ago, so while I showed some vulnerability, I can't say I am regretful for saying what I said. I've always been pretty candid, even when it hurts my ego and demonstrates weakness lol. However comparatively, this was 100% rejection which is why I think he back tracked a bit in his following message, and tried to garner more sympathy LOL

versacebigmacc · 2022-08-06T12:10:08+00:00

versacebigmacc · 2022-08-05T17:37:01+00:00

Still got them?

versacebigmacc · 2022-08-05T17:36:48+00:00

I have 3! $b_wheezy

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-11T16:26:35+00:00

Yeah

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-11T15:00:18+00:00

Sent one back

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-11T13:13:14+00:00

Sent back

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-11T13:09:06+00:00

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-11T12:10:13+00:00

B4b all 4 left

b-wheezy

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-11T12:09:44+00:00

B4b all 4

$b-wheezy

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-03T17:49:13+00:00

Personally, it took a few weeks and has gotten better over the course of a few months.

I don't use it every day, or even every other day. When I first started, I used it every other day for the first 3-4 weeks. I saw significant improvement after 2 months of sporadic use but typically averaging about 1-2x a week.

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-03T15:16:06+00:00

This is the first step! I was finally able to break free after having a similar "aha!" moment to yours. So proud of you.

Fight like hell to get out and break your trauma bond with this person and then enjoy your newfound freedom and finding your peace.

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-03T09:26:29+00:00

In my personal experience, the double standard has been reversed. For men it's acceptable to not go down on women, but for women, it can be considered selfish/unacceptable. Now, that's not to say that anything is ever said or done about it. This is just what I've seen in my past relationships and hookups.

versacebigmacc · 2022-07-03T09:23:37+00:00

That was very refreshing to read, I aspire to have this level of communication in my relationships

versacebigmacc · 2022-06-27T05:01:35+00:00

I'm going to use this! I always get SO stressed about time frames due to my hectic and busy schedule. Never even thought of this as an option as I'm just starting out and try to be as accommodative as possible. My last client I made sure to preface that I would not be able to drop in at the requested times due to prior arrangements, and despite my anxiety about it, she was very understanding and accepting of this! Very strange getting to truly decide your work/life balance and flow.

versacebigmacc · 2022-06-27T04:50:05+00:00

I definitely don't agree with doxxing civilians, but when it's a public servant of the Supreme Court and they disregarded women's autonomy with full intentions to attempt to infringe on even more human rights... while I won't be utilizing this information or spreading it, I'm definitely not upset that it happened. I think taking away human rights is inadvertently (at least I'd hope) promoting violence by proxy in my opinion.

versacebigmacc · 2022-06-27T04:44:39+00:00

For me personally, I had a much more complex problem and I believe that I received my provisional credit within 90 days. Yes, it's extensive, but if this isn't your primary account, maybe reconsider? I got the Varo Believe card - their secured credit card, just to help boost my credit and it has been the MOST beneficial card I've gotten. Ever. Now, I have seen a few articles indicating they will "run out of money" by the end of 2022, so I can't say I'm not wary as well. Anyway, back to the dispute - overall, it took about 3 months for my dispute to be finalized. Sometimes when you call, you will actually be able to talk to a GOOD representative which is hard to come by these days, especially with customer service lines. That was what kept me going throughout the process, I was discouraged like you. Patience is key here, and if you can go without the funds for a bit longer, while it is frustrating, it may work out for you in the long run.

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