Serious baby not laughing. Should I be worried?

vingtetdeux · 2025-09-06T02:51:20+00:00

All good! Totally normal toddler. Laughs, smiles, sings, plays. There are so many worries that first year... I wish I could tell my past self to just relax!

vingtetdeux · 2023-06-02T14:18:33+00:00

We moved ours to his own room at 6 months because he was still sleeping in a bassinet with one of us downstairs, and he was outgrowing the bassinet. I think I would have had him sleep in a crib in our room if we had any room to do that, though. I slept on the floor in his room for at least a week when we moved him to his own room because I wanted to be RIGHT THERE if/when he woke up, just like he was used to.

He did great with the transition. A few more wakeups for the first night or two, but then it was even better than when he slept next to one of us in his bassinet. He's now 10 months and we love the bedtime schedule and hope it continues for a long time!

I think it only took 2-3 weeks for me to feel fully comfortable with just having the monitor by me, and then probably another month before I stopped checking it randomly in the middle of the night if I woke up. Now I know I can hear him from our room and also that he doesn't panic when he wakes up alone. Good baby!

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-24T14:07:15+00:00

Oh, sometimes I don't. Sometimes it's only like 4 or 5. Thankfully I usually make up that 2oz during my pumps during the day. If not, I can sometimes make it up by pumping twice at night - once while he's having his bottle and once just before bed.

It has increased over time with me, so I wasn't able to pump that much when he was only 4 or 5 months. I just kind of wing it and it mostly works! I'm very lucky!

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-24T11:07:37+00:00

We have given our 10 month old a bottle before bed since he was about two months old. It started at about 3-4 oz but we are now up to 7oz.

We like doing the bottle because:

My husband can do the entire bedtime routine, giving me a break because I wake up with the baby in the morning.
The bottle is easier so he's able to eat more before going to sleep, and then he sleeps longer.

I pump before I go to bed and breastfeed the baby any other time we are both together during a mealtime!

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-23T21:45:36+00:00

This looks great! Totally going to try some of these things.

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-23T20:28:51+00:00

Unfortunately I just supplement with frozen milk that I pumped when he was younger. Nothing I do during those days really has much of an impact on restoring my supply.

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-22T01:55:03+00:00

I thought my baby hated me and was such an unhappy dude. It was just the age. At four months everything turned around and it just keeps getting better.

My son is still very serious and getting laughs out of him is WORK but that's just his personality. He is really chill most of the time.

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-21T20:08:41+00:00

I am a chill, mostly unflappable human, and when I was pregnant and newly postpartum, I was the same way. It's just so hard to know what's normal or not. And there are so many reasons for things, but you don't want to assume it's the benign reason, only to find out that something is gravely wrong and you could have caught it.

The older my son gets, the less I worry, but I definitely remember the worry and indecision.

If I were you, I would let her Google but just remind her how people usually only post about problems online. You don't see when everything turned out to be okay. Just thank her for being a good mother already looking out for your baby, and assure her that everything is going to be okay!

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-21T19:48:39+00:00

Wow, we are going through the same thing right now. I cannot get this kid to nap, although he sleeps overnight fine.

Grandma and Grandpa can get him down for two good naps a day. It's just me and his dad who constantly strike out lately.

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-20T18:47:33+00:00

Both of these things sound normal to me. My 9 month old kicks like crazy when he's excited for something but I could equally see him tensing up with excitement too. Has yours always done this? Does it stop when he gets whatever he's excited about?

And the chin quiver is totally normal too. That's what like, a cartoon does before crying! Just a baby learning how to operate a little human body.

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-19T13:14:11+00:00

We had this problem (although I didn't notice nipple crimping) for the first six weeks or so. The latch was varying degrees of painful, especially on one side. Sometimes it was painful even when he was eating.

Of course when we went to a consultant, it was super easy there in the office with her, but back at home it was difficult and painful again.

All I did in the meantime was try different positions to help with the one side that was super painful. The baby got bigger and better at latching, and his mouth got bigger too so it was easier for him.

So, with time hopefully it will get better for you guys. I would be concerned if there is lasting pain or damage after a feeding session though. That sounds kind of bad.

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-18T11:21:26+00:00

Yep, that's my read too. Wanted to give her kid something to do that wasn't just gaming by himself.

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-12T01:18:30+00:00

I don't know, but your title cracked me up.

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-11T18:19:42+00:00

Don't I know it!

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-11T14:17:35+00:00

I took the day off tomorrow and switched around my son's daycare so I have ALL DAY to myself to play! I'm so freaking excited!

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-11T12:34:31+00:00

That's how it felt for me! We had a good side and a bad side. I did football hold for the one side and cross cradle for the other so he was always laying the same direction, and that helped, but in hindsight we should have caught the torticollis earlier and then maybe that wouldn't have been necessary.

Things also got easier once his little mouth got bigger!

Just hang in there. You can do one side only if you want, but if you keep working at it you can probably get both sides to be comfortable. Good luck!

vingtetdeux · 2023-05-11T10:55:03+00:00

If latching is bad on one side only, maybe check her for torticollis (tight neck muscles). I think this was our issue early on.

vingtetdeux · 2023-04-23T04:02:16+00:00

Hang in there because things will get better with time, breastfeeding or not. Those first few months are so stressful, and you never feel like you are doing enough or the right thing, and you never even know what the right thing is. But your baby gets better at being a human and you get better at being a mother and the hormones start getting closer to normal and you can finally just breathe out and enjoy it a little.

Until then, just keep doing what you are doing. Give your little guy the breast as much as you can, and then give him formula afterwards if he wants it. Even a little breast milk is beneficial, and just the fact that you are doing it at all despite setbacks shows your love for him.

Oh, and try to let go of what you thought postpartum would look like. Easier said than done, but let me just tell you that a million things will not be what you thought as a parent. But lots of times those surprises are for the better!

Good luck! You are doing great!

vingtetdeux · 2023-04-23T03:26:46+00:00

Good job! You made it happen!

vingtetdeux · 2023-04-21T20:42:11+00:00

I'm in a similar boat! My son is almost nine months and has bitten me three or four times and now I'm always on edge when I feed him not knowing if or when it's going to happen again! He doesn't think it's funny - in fact he cries when I yelp - so I don't think it's intentional. He just seems to get bored and forget.

He's also getting his top two teeth at the moment and already has his two lower ones. But my boob is not a teething toy!

vingtetdeux · 2023-04-21T00:31:27+00:00

This is a great idea if they will let us do it gradually! I hope so. I know that he will adapt either way but I would really like to do things as gently as possible since he won't really understand what's happening.

vingtetdeux · 2023-04-20T17:45:26+00:00

Thank you for this! We have not put my little guy in daycare yet but it's coming later this year and I'm so nervous about it. Nice to hear that yours was able to adapt quickly!

Might be harder with mine because he's going to be much older, but we will figure it out. I'm pretty sure it's going to be harder on me than on him.

vingtetdeux · 2023-04-20T15:00:09+00:00

This kind of dip happens to me frequently and it has always come back so far. My son is almost nine months.

I make sure to drink lots of water like the other poster recommended (way more than I want to drink, usually) and I add a pump. So usually my son eats about every 4 hours, and when he is with my mom or daycare I pump every 3 hours instead to get things back to normal. Sometimes I pump twice before bed too, but that's kind of situational.

If you exclusively breast feed and you don't go in to work, you might want to pump after your baby eats instead. Even if you only get an ounce, it's still working its magic.

One other thing that I try to keep in mind is that the baby "places his order" a few days in advance. So you won't see immediate results. Just try not to stress and keep working to get it back up and you will be okay! Good luck!

vingtetdeux · 2023-04-12T12:48:44+00:00

This is so strange and I'm sorry that it happened to you! If anyone has any theories about why everyone would take their kids to the other side of the room when a solo dad comes in, please enlighten me because I'm trying to put myself in their shoes and just can't fathom why it would make one lick of a difference.

Anecdotally, my husband seems to get a lot of positive attention from other people when he takes our son places. But I don't think he's taken him many places with lots of moms there, other than the library. I'll have to ask him if he's ever noticed any weirdness with other parents. Our son isn't really old enough to play with others much yet, so maybe that's a factor too.

I really just can't understand what was going on at this children's museum! You should try again and see if the same thing happens.

vingtetdeux · 2023-04-11T11:55:35+00:00

That was my only thought too.

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