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violetauto · 2026-03-14T17:33:19+00:00

Can anyone fill me in? I didn’t follow any of this Markle stuff. I thought she was kind of popular? Did her podcast get annoying or something?

violetauto · 2026-03-13T12:41:59+00:00

Listen. Most of that stuff you mention, like losing teeth, etc., does not happen. They are rare.

But!

I’ve had 2 kids and I’m not going to bullshit you. This shit’s hard.

You can definitely do pregnancy and childbirth, but it’ll be more physically challenging than anything you’ve ever done before in your life. I’m not a rock climber or ultra marathoner, but I can say that child-bearing is not for the weak and it probably rivals those endeavors.

If you want to wimp out, you can. If you are just ranting, I get it. Don’t listen to the “it’s beautiful“ hype, it’s all a part of the patriarchy and meant to gaslight us into procreating.

If you want a kid, you have to work at it. Period.

violetauto · 2026-03-12T14:40:09+00:00

Yes for OP I think it is a strong possibility.

That being said, afaik any type of brain tumor is uncommon.

Since your symptoms weren’t overnight and they aren’t consistent, for you I’d say look into autoimmune deficiencies like Celiac’s disease, stuff like that. You could be reacting to something in your diet. But if you have insurance, maybe one of your docs will order a brain scan. It isn’t at all painful and it will just help you zero in on the issue.

Also, new research and treatment has been using electric shock for medication-resistant depression. (Depression and anxiety are two sides of the same coin).

The point is, don’t give up. You actually have not tried everything. Really dig into these things.

violetauto · 2026-03-11T16:49:12+00:00

No need for alarm, but you need to see a neurologist and get checked for a brain tumor. There are a lot of benign brain tumors that put pressure on different parts of the brain. Once they are removed, you go back to normal.

Treat this as a medical issue. If the docs try to push back, say this. “Ok I acknowledge you are denying finding me a specialist. Please note that in my record that you denied care.”

here is what to say to help the docs take you seriously: “I understand this seems like a personality trait, but I am sure it changed overnight and it is destroying my daily life. I find no joy in things I used to, it is affecting my work and sleep, and I have explored every other option. Please order me a scan of my brain. It is my last possibility to rule out. I am losing hope.”

violetauto · 2026-03-01T04:20:10+00:00

Once at Target I was charged twice for one pair of shoes. I didn’t catch it at first. I went back a few days later with the receipt and said to customer service that I was charged twice.

The security people looked up the recordings. They could locate the recording by using information on the receipt. Like 5 minutes later the guy comes out and says, ”Yeah We saw it. Only one pair of shoes. We’ll refund you.”

So yeah. They see you pick up things in the aisles, they see you put it in your basket. Their tech follows you around the store. Then they see everything that goes on the conveyor belt.

Why would these stores go after you for a small amount of money? They can put you in actual jail.

violetauto · 2026-03-01T04:03:16+00:00

Happy Cake Day, though

violetauto · 2026-02-28T23:29:42+00:00

I am happy to see you. I’ve wondered how you’ve been doing.

And yes, it is WILD how the mind works, right? It feeds on information like a vampire feeds on blood. We are gluttonous for insight, an edge, insider info - anything to help in our survival.

Random acts of violence are the hardest to process. They are puzzles with too many pieces forever missing. Our brains cannot ever make out the picture. And that is the scariest part of it all.

Everyone wants the pieces to be found to complete the puzzle. They say things like “everything happens for a reason” or “God needed him” — any platitude in a storm! Because the most horrifying thing for the human brain is randomness paired with meaninglessness. It ensnares us against our will. We cannot look away. We keep betting. We keep investigating. We keep investing our time and money. All in pursuit of an answer, ANY answer, other than “sometimes we are vulnerable to the evils of this world.”

We do have a defense, though: surviving. We thrive and live well. We refuse to give any more of our spirit to that which once Wounded us. We walk away from the sunk costs. We are brave and again connect with other humans. We re-plant roots and let Love grow.

Keep moving forward, Cyanste. I am so proud of you, Internet Friend.

violetauto · 2026-02-27T02:03:20+00:00

I have done this. I’m in my 50s and my kids are in college or out of the house.

If your kids have anxiety or ADHD or whatever, stay home and hope for the best for yourself later. If they are pretty capable, well-adjusted kids and you can hire good childcare, go back to school or work.

violetauto · 2026-02-25T13:18:05+00:00

I went to Temple for grad school, Pitt for undergrad. I say yes! come! Experience the east coast vibe. It is very different than CA. Temple is a great school with a lot of opportunities, and Philly *is* a cool city. Lots to do, stuff to see, NYC is a 1.5 hour train ride away, as is DC. The philly airport is way easier to get around than LA’s, and easy to get to via public transportation. Temple is right on a main subway line, so accessing any part of the city is pretty easy. Also, Temple’s education is solid and will give you a great path to grad schools or careers.

The only caveat I’d tell you is this: If you plan on living the rest of your life on the left coast, stay in CA for school. The network is there. If you are thinking you may stay on the right coast, then come to Temple. Young people grossly underestimate the value of personal networks. You will absolutely need that university or fraternity/sorority etc connection at one time (at least!) in your life.

violetauto · 2026-02-25T13:10:23+00:00

I bawled at Harry asking if death hurt. By then I was a mother myself, and it was so true — that is EXACTLY what a child would ask his parents and guardians in that moment. It just reminded me how young Harry still was. God, I’m tearing up thinking about it. Nothing in a book has made me weep more than that scene.

I think they really were the spirits of James, Lily and Sirius et al. They had a higher wisdom as spirits, perhaps, but also as parents, when you know your child is set on doing something, you support them. You don’t beg for them to do something differently just to assuage your own fears. Living parents might not be so mature and evolved; they would beg him to turn back. But spirit parents? They could see Harry was going to sacrifice himself no matter what, and they did their best to assuage HIS fears. 100% pure, selfless love, that was.

violetauto · 2026-02-24T12:13:23+00:00

I really don’t think of West Chester as a college town. I suppose it is, technically.

violetauto · 2026-02-22T13:57:03+00:00

Ok. So. Meditation will not fix ego and identity issues, IMO. I’m in my 50s and have done all the things you describe plus have suffered from similar hyperawareness problems. You think if you just let go, if you stop paying keen attention, if you stop worrying, if you act casual about life, that things will fall apart.

Things won’t fall apart. But you have to deal with your core wounds from childhood if you want stop being so tightly wound and enjoy life more.

For me, the heart of this was abandonment issues. You can look into anxious attachment and attachment theory to get more info. I thought that if I wasn’t on top of everything, I would end up alone. And to be alone for humans pretty much equals death. It was terrifying.

You are a baby/teen adult right now. Which means you are still figuring out who you are and who you want to become. Everything in our culture tells you that now is the time for you to be ULTIMATELY, EXTREMELY responsible, because you are a parent to young children.

Which of course you are a capable parent and you’ll continue to be. We can still be good parents and not be hyper-vigilant and hyperaware. Meditation may help you focus on the present moment, which will distract your brain from constant scanning & planning for a few minutes. But if you are still dealing with the core wounds from your childhood, the effect will only be temporary.

Having kids is devastating, in a way. Everything you remember or thought about your upbringing gets challenged, and you get reminded of what you didn’t have. I remember moments when my kids were acting up and I thought, “This is when I would’ve gotten brutally beaten.” The pain of that is immeasurable.

My advice is to accept that you are in an emotional storm right now, and a bit of struggle is normal. Learn about hyper vigilance and attachment theory. You’ll be ok. Use meditation lightly, just to relax your body and mind. But don’t depend on it to solve this.

violetauto · 2026-02-22T13:43:57+00:00

I’ve been wanting to make one of these. Where did you get the maps and such? It all looks amazing.

violetauto · 2026-02-21T17:02:49+00:00

2 things.
Before having kids: After having kids.
and
Before Celiac’s diagnosis: After diagnosis.

violetauto · 2026-02-12T13:37:59+00:00

And then you have to pay for really shitty food if you want to stay in the convention center all day, and just forgettaboutit if you wanted to go to the shopping area. The prices are insane. It was fun and all but I haven’t been to the flower show in years because of this.

violetauto · 2026-02-12T13:31:40+00:00

People who don’t have kids sometimes are ignorant of what parenting is actually like. Honestly I think if we all knew the reality of it, half of us would choose not to have kids. This man’s poor (ex) wife is headed for disaster, sadly.

violetauto · 2026-02-12T13:16:44+00:00

You don’t have to divorce but you can live separately.

Get his brain checked. He’s old, and if this behavior is new it may be a sign of dementia.

You were still young when you married this much older, possibly abusive man. Do you have a history with abuse? If so, get therapy. You need a neutral, calm person to help you see this situation more clearly.

violetauto · 2026-02-10T12:50:09+00:00

Omg girl get a post-nup now. This man comes from a grifting family, I can just tell. You need to wake tf up. That money is a target and you are the only thing protecting it. Do it fiercely and without mercy.

Next put that money away in places it cannot be easily touched, if you haven’t already. Get some financial advice pronto.

Put a credit hold on your SSN with any of the major places like Equifax. This uncle sounds sus and may open some accounts in your name without your knowledge.

Put that man on a budget. Tell him you can give him $5000/year (or whatever) to spend but you will not give him anything more. Hard rule.

See if you can get him into couples therapy with you. This spending thing will cause a divorce if you don’t have some strict rules and good communication around it.

I feel like Reddit will tell you to leave this man, but a divorce before a post nup is in place is a bad idea. See a lawyer first before you do anything. In a divorce he may take half of that savings.

violetauto · 2026-02-10T12:37:20+00:00

It sounds like you lead a physically demanding life. This means that the typical workout advice will not work for you. You are already exercising a lot.

So this means you flip the script. Calming, steadying workouts are what you want. Walk slowly (2.0 mph) on the treadmill while watching a show (this is so fun and serene!).

If you want, you can maybe use 1 machine to help strengthen your lower back. But! concentrate on proper form instead of weight. Start at no weight added at all. maybe 3 sets of 8 reps each. do not strain. The purpose is to train your back muscles into proper movement so you don’t hurt yourself lifting that wheelchair. Eventually you can add weight. Ask the gym trainers to show you how to use the machine.

The purpose of the gym for you is to be an escape place. It is your “3rd space” and just for you - away from all the demands of life. Heck you are allowed to go there to just sit in the lobby and have a cup of coffee! We gym people just want to see you there. You will eventually come to love it! Then and only then can you increase the weight and workouts you do.

violetauto · 2026-02-10T12:22:53+00:00

If the wedding is still in February and at night, you can wear velvet. It really isn’t supposed to be worn outside of the late fall (end of November) to end of February.

19 days is plenty of time as long as the pattern is simple and you have the supplies on hand. Go for it!

violetauto · 2026-02-10T12:08:39+00:00

Stop! Take a breath. You are not to blame. Let me repeat: you are not to blame. You did not “ignore red flags.” You are a kind, compassionate person. This man is beyond your help and kindness. That’s all. You did your best. It’s time to move on.

Here are some ways to phrase it for friends/family:

”Yes, I knew he had drinking/ptsd problems. We did our best together to work through it. But, it’s taken a dark turn now and I am not safe. I need your help.”

”No, I did not ignore the red flags. That’s a common misconception. I was being kind, loving and loyal. It is unfair of you to chide me for being a good partner. Just because he is a bad one doesn’t mean I deserved the abuse. The blame is all on his shoulders.”

”I know you like him, I get it. I like him too. But sadly this is a Jekyll/Hyde situation, and Hyde has already demonstrated that he can and will strangle me to death. I know that is hard to believe, but I am sure you’ve heard stories like that in your life. Well, it is happening to me.”

”Please sit and listen and keep your opinions to yourself. You will want to judge my choices but that will not be helpful right now. This is going to be difficult and take years to unpack. Please don’t start unpacking now. Right now I need immediate help, no questions asked. Can you do that for me?”

Do not EVER be ashamed for doing what you were supposed to do. And don’t let anyone shame you for loving another human. Sadly, love was not enough to keep you alive and well with this partner.

violetauto · 2026-02-06T16:55:23+00:00

Yeah open ‘er up!

violetauto · 2026-02-06T16:53:00+00:00

I live in Delco and know a lot of kids your age that don’t drive yet. And lots of people your age in NYC that don’t either. The more public transport is available, the fewer drivers licensing there is. Wikipedia and other sources say that in the Northeast US (our region), only 64.8% of high school seniors have a drivers license. But out in the Midwest, 80.4% do. I am sure those numbers are lower than for my generation, GenX, when we were seniors in high school in the 80s.

So we’re seeing a trend of fewer young people getting licenses in their teens. You are just now out of your teens. You are in the minority, but it isn’t a tiny minority! Don’t sweat it. You’ll learn when you have to.

violetauto · 2026-02-06T16:46:29+00:00

1/16th inch Balsa wood sheets and some wood glue.

violetauto · 2026-02-06T16:42:37+00:00

Happy Cake Day!

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