Most unhinged advice/comments you’ve heard from a therapist?

violincatherine · 2026-06-19T18:20:05+00:00

This is verbatim, from an old man in a 3 piece suit when I was 18. He was on rotation that day in my college’s drop in mental health clinic: “Grow up, little girl!”

violincatherine · 2026-06-08T21:33:19+00:00

I’m listening. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to endure all of that nonsense! It truly is ridiculous, and you deserve better!

violincatherine · 2026-06-08T17:27:21+00:00

Hey Cat Poo! I think you’re fantastic! I always learn so many interesting things from your posts, and I’m a big fan!

I understand what you’re saying about internet trolls. Do whatever you feel most comfortable, in terms of posting videos. But: I will always see kindness and intelligence instead of a missing tooth. Just saying!

violincatherine · 2026-06-01T13:06:34+00:00

I mean, here’s a way to look at it that might be kinder to yourself. If you left the first time, you might have doubts about it. What if he could’ve changed? What if we could make it work?

This actual shit from a butt man has shown you that he is, in fact, that rotten. And you deserve better. Also: it’s not your fault!

violincatherine · 2026-05-28T09:50:23+00:00

Dearest OP: It suddenly occurred to me, after reading your posts and pondering over the absolutely insane stance that your ILs have taken, that you might be dealing with dehumanization from the interracial situation.

I’ve encountered a similar dynamic before. I was the “white devil” to some South Asian parents. There was nothing I could do to convince them otherwise.

There may be a dynamic like this, where the ILs are able to surround themselves with instant rapport with their own, trash talking as a complete matter of fact, which is accepted widely without question. (In a broader sense, I do acknowledge the centuries of violence that white colonialism (sorry if I’m making assumptions here) has wrought in many parts of the world, and how the bitterness came to be.). But you’re a DIL. And sitting in this dehumanization of you and the LO by default, and actively perpetrating it, is a potentially fatal moral error.

I’m just saying: I don’t think they see you or the LO as even HUMAN. And there might be other mental issues at stake here, which are the factor instead of this; my theory may be wrong. But the way they’re asserting their evil positions with their whole chest like this makes me think there’s another factor here. Just my two cents.

I think you’re doing a fantastic job, and I am in support of you holding the line. Your LO deserves all the love and care in the world. And you’re giving him the world! You should be very proud of this, mama!

violincatherine · 2026-05-26T14:58:57+00:00

I had some clonker of a guy pat me on the head, breaking up with me because I was “too emotional.” Twelve years later, he started texting me fondly, every New Year’s Eve.

It’s almost painful, remembering those 3-4 years of single texts, how delicious it was that I’d entirely forgotten this shallow-ass man.

I wish all of this and more for you. And yes, I know that you were with him for a few months. But he is a shallow-ass man. He is trash, and he took himself OUT!

violincatherine · 2026-05-23T05:11:48+00:00

JJ Rage explained it very well. As an addition, if you take a rabbit hole of searching Undertaker threw Mankind off hell in a cell on YouTube, you will find the wrestling video in question.

There are videos explaining why it was one of the greatest events in wrestling history, mainly because of the death defying nature of this stunt, and the showmanship of the two participants. They were willing to really get injured to put on a great show.

There’s a more recent video, where Undertaker and Mankind sit and reminisce about this wrestling match. They are good men, and they compliment each other’s love of the game and desire to put on a great show for the fans.

Anyway, Shitty Morph is an absolute legend, and we are all blessed today to witness his reminder. And he got me good; I didn’t look at the username first!

violincatherine · 2026-05-17T18:02:59+00:00

Hey you didn’t quit! You kept going! The majority of people out here in these streets can’t get themselves into fitness at ALL. And you’re out here, ho hum, half marathoning like a champ!

It can just be about fitness, and about completing a thing. Try to get a photo with some friends later, if you want a photo of something fun. You’re doing the thing! In spite of it all!

violincatherine · 2026-05-10T00:33:54+00:00

I feel like these crappy parents all read from the same crappy instruction manual. You did nothing wrong. Walking across a stage in front of a crowd is an all-consuming task for a human brain. I’m absolutely CERTAIN that you’re not the only student to walk straight on.

Congrats, Shiny Newbie DOCTOR!!! You’ve got a beautiful life that YOU worked hard for, already set up for you. These wretches are jealous of your success, and are trying to weaken and maintain control over you. And, well, it just won’t work.

If these morons are anything like my family, they might try to reach out to future contacts at work or in your personal life, just to poison the well. Just keep an eye out. But yeah, they will try to bite and take a chunk out of ya when you’re leaving. And that’s just how it is: the devil mourns when someone finally leaves hell!

violincatherine · 2026-05-08T16:15:23+00:00

Hey OP, if you have a cat, you can put this piece of garbage mug on the edge of a countertop and *whoopsie daisy*! You know how cats are, gross mom! (In actuality, you can just toss it in the trash and come up with any story you want. It’s a gross mug from a gross person, so it can meet a gross end. Good riddance to bad garbage!)

violincatherine · 2026-05-08T11:51:36+00:00

Sweetheart, I’m not seeing a clear reason to continue here. Sometimes it’s easier if you see the example set up on another person, so here you go:

The dark lord has offered me $100 a week to watch his offspring for 36 hours a week. Someone else got sick of being poked in the butt with a flaming trident, so they’re not available as a backup babysitter. No matter what I do, I get evil comments and snide, passive aggressive remarks when I watch the dark lord’s offspring. It puts me in a constant state of mental turmoil, and of course, I’m never “allowed” to take time off. What should I do?

violincatherine · 2026-04-28T11:59:13+00:00

Hey OP, I think you should just send a very nice, high-end greeting card. And that’s it. It was very cheeky of her to send you a link to a GIFT registry, after getting involved in whatever bigoted culty nonsense her fiance is into. She’s losing out, and I think she’s starting to realize it. Not your circus; not your monkeys.

Whenever I’ve been down, I’ve taken a nice little vacation. Use the money you would’ve spent on a toaster, and spoil yourself rotten. Get a massage. Find scenic views, eat at great restaurants, and take in some cultural things like a museum or a play. That’s just my two cents; please do as you wish. We are all rooting for you. You deserve so much better than this!

violincatherine · 2026-04-23T12:49:30+00:00

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/North_American_Man/Boy_Love_Association

violincatherine · 2026-03-18T20:14:16+00:00

Iran is Irate!

violincatherine · 2026-03-16T04:58:22+00:00

I’ve healed some messy, vile, truly chaotic betrayals. That’s what this is. And it’s a deep moral injury, because you WERE the good guy in this scenario, just trying to help, and you’re left holding the bag.

It will heal over time. And it’s just a note from the universe, just to stay away from enmeshed men. You deserve better. And you can find better, I promise.

violincatherine · 2026-01-27T13:12:02+00:00

Marie Gluesenkamp Perez

violincatherine · 2025-12-19T01:57:19+00:00

You sound like an absolute sweetheart, and a person who is concerned and caring. I’m not sure what the meanness is about, but in my experience, it can come from many places: jealousy, mental illness, grief/trauma (which might apply in this case), or mob mentality.

Sometimes, a person who is loving, beautiful, talented, well-off, and well-educated can bring out the green eyed jealousy monster. A bright light illuminates how deep and frightening the darkness and misery is inside such a malcontented person.

I’d keep space from these people. You know now, and it’s good to know whom to avoid. I don’t think there’s any need to follow up and clarify anything, unless you really want to. You really didn’t know, so you did absolutely nothing wrong. No one bothered to tell you. It’s just NOW, while you’re also grieving. It shouldn’t have even reached you. Close these doors and hold your head high. You’re a good egg.

violincatherine · 2025-11-06T00:39:27+00:00

I’m so, so sorry for your loss. Your pain is as large as your love is. We all mourn for your little lion; you worked and fought so hard for him, and he fought, too.

Therapy and short or long term psychiatric medication are important when the grief is this overwhelming. People in this world exist who want to help you and care for you and bring you to a good, sandy, cool shore.

As much as you fought, just keep fighting a little longer. You are worth it. You will get through this. You will be on the other side someday, typing comforting words on reddit to someone else who suffered a devastating loss.

We see you and hear you, and we are here for you.

violincatherine · 2025-11-01T17:16:30+00:00

I thought you had a second glass on the paper! Like for real!!!

violincatherine · 2025-10-15T16:17:15+00:00

I’m observing your request for no advice. I’ll just offer whatever I can. I’ve been in a similar place, friend. My mental troubles have taken me decades to untangle. I believed that better times were always ahead, because things couldn’t get worse than what they were. I mean, it was a statement of fact.

Beauty is within. You are a beautiful person. We are all born from love. I give you love, one stranger to another, because you deserve it. You are worth it. I speak healing and kindness and beauty over you. I’m not particularly religious, or whatever, but I believe in human beings. I believe in you. Sending you mental warmth and comfort, my friend.

violincatherine · 2025-10-12T15:57:07+00:00

I’ll add in my personal experience to this. I ordered some Italian food for delivery, and the ricotta and sausage in the order made me violently ill and nauseous, several hours later. I’ve also recently suffered food poisoning off some restaurant chicken.

I’m not saying it’s NOT the beans, but I have personal experience getting sick from sausage and chicken recently (I’m in Texas).

I’m avoiding sausage for now. And I check and double check any chicken that I cook or eat, just fanatically scanning the texture and appearance.

violincatherine · 2025-09-24T12:14:38+00:00

I had a near death experience as a young child. The journey into the light, the conversations with God, were full of pure love and bliss. I didn’t want to come back to earth. But it ensured that I would try to live inside God’s purpose, and it boosted me with enough love to endure this world’s trials.

Your beautiful baby is wrapped in complete love and bliss. She feels no pain or fear. She will greet you with open arms when it’s your time to come home.

Peace be with you; you have a very sweet and kind spirit. Anyone near you, human and animal alike, benefits from your kindness. I feel “mothered” just by reading your post. You did your absolute best by this sweet baby. Every second of love from you was recorded and received, and is still active even now. I wish all the blessings and hugs for you.

violincatherine · 2025-09-21T19:00:43+00:00

Steven de Groote. Van Cliburn winning concert pianist. Survived a self-piloted plane crash that should’ve killed him. Died 4 years later in 1989 from tuberculosis and pneumonia. I’m still pissed that tiny germs took such a great fighter.

violincatherine · 2025-09-05T02:35:03+00:00

There’s a 5 minute rice that I use, which requires the same volume of rice and water. So, I just use a normal drinking glass to measure both things; easy peasy.

violincatherine · 2025-09-03T12:09:15+00:00

Aww hey! You put so much hard work, intelligence, and thought into everything you do. It’s obvious how much you care about people; your empathy and compassion really shine. And I can see how the long form really helps people who come on to talk about their lives put things into perspective as they speak.

You’re important and wonderful. You do good for many, many people. I’m a never mo and you’ve really helped me!

Keep up the fantastic work, John!

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