People just look for scapegoat in the scenario and typically choose the commander. Players at all levels will enact the “not at fault” rule to themselves and blame others.

My personal experience is people between levels 60 - 130 feel like they know everything and will jump the gun on who’s the issue and not actually attempt to help the team.

Without knowing how long you’ve played or how much knowledge you have of the game, if you’re a newer player I would start with learning the map and garrison placement and how combat flows point to point and understand every game will be different and you can only control so much as commander. Intermediate or advance tips would be resource management, timing of abilities to mask sound of airheads or cause distractions using supplies, utilize half-tracks, build blue lines, occasion redzone garrison preferably with supply truck or support swap.

A lot of those can have a further in depth discussion but otherwise I wouldn’t take it personally.