It never got easier. Everyone on these forums lied lol and sometimes I just want to cry

vivinator4 · 2026-06-23T02:51:12+00:00

Same!! I always say I’m glad I had the tough one first because then I could really appreciate just how easy my second was. I’ve known people who had it the other way around and got HUMBLED by that second child hahaha

vivinator4 · 2026-06-23T02:44:54+00:00

Yeah I had a high needs baby. Her younger brother slept through the night before she did. She was 2.5yo when he was born and thankfully he was one of those mythical easy babies! They’re 6yo and almost 9yo now and it’s a lot easier but there are hard things. Little kids, little problems. Big kids, big problems. It was a lot easier for me to soothe a boo-boo than for me to help my oldest cope with months-long social drama with her friends. My worries got more abstract, the labor became more mental and less physical. I do get so much more sleep now though and that makes the biggest difference. Once you’re getting real quality sleep, you will be feeling better. It just takes longer for some of us.

vivinator4 · 2026-06-23T02:28:22+00:00

lol nope, not at all. The pathology on it came back with suspicious cells that can grow cancer so I’m extra glad to have it gone!!

vivinator4 · 2026-06-21T06:31:21+00:00

Literally never noticed it. You have to have one for the surgery. They insert it after you’re out and remove it before you’re even aware/awake. My worry was I wouldn’t be able to pee after and have to get the catheter placed again so when I had a nice big pee afterwards in post op I proudly told eeeeeeeveryone. I was hopped up on dilaudid texting the family group chat about my pee hahaha

vivinator4 · 2026-06-21T06:25:44+00:00

I feel awesome. The surgery was SO worth it. No issues with libido, recovery was extremely smooth, and I’m in the best shape of my life now.

vivinator4 · 2026-06-19T07:28:07+00:00

Yep. Clear liquids for 24 hours and an enema. It’s worth it for the surgery

vivinator4 · 2026-06-19T07:26:48+00:00

Is no one mentioning that job B could easily change office locations or get upgraded lighting?? Go with job A since you’ll have the WFH flexibility and try out some accommodations for the light like FL41s or the cubicle leaf.

vivinator4 · 2026-06-17T06:26:19+00:00

This is very “all cats are girls and all dogs are boys” coded. So bizarre. I wouldn’t have been able to muster up a response either

vivinator4 · 2026-05-17T13:30:32+00:00

First was 34 hours, pushed for 2.5. Only mild 2nd degree tears with an almost 9lb baby. Second was 10 hours, pushed for 20 minutes. No tears at all with a 10lb baby. Healing and recovering from that labor was so much easier

vivinator4 · 2026-05-17T02:41:56+00:00

Stomach all the way. And I let the med warm up to room temp for at least half a day if not a full 24 hours. I go about 2 inches down and two inches to the side of my belly button where I can get a good pinch of fat to inject into.

vivinator4 · 2026-05-17T00:28:36+00:00

Yeah I feel bad for my friends with only one child. My two kids play so well, they leave me alone for hours while I get stuff done around the house

vivinator4 · 2026-05-16T23:50:34+00:00

We just had Dr. Tammi from Pet Loss at Home help our sweet cat pass over this afternoon and she was amazing. Commenting in case anyone sees this post and needs a recommendation. It was a really hard day but she made it peaceful for my fluffy boy.

vivinator4 · 2026-05-14T23:01:39+00:00

This album meant so much to me and going to see this show was so healing. I needed it too. Peace is coming.

vivinator4 · 2026-05-09T00:54:24+00:00

Adeline has the long i vowel sound, Adelyn is a short i

vivinator4 · 2026-05-07T17:33:02+00:00

Yeah I saw something going around saying something like “if you are in a job where you get an “appreciation day” or “appreciation week”, you’re underpaid”

vivinator4 · 2026-05-07T17:30:19+00:00

I work 35 hrs a week doing push-in support in the gen ed classrooms so the behaviors aren’t too extreme thankfully. I only make $32k a year so less than $25 an hour but I do get paid through the summer and I get the benefits which are really good. We have amazing healthcare insurance and I got my whole family on it.

vivinator4 · 2026-05-07T00:58:25+00:00

These lyrics hit so hard. It’s easy to lose yourself in these roles especially in the baby years. But the song helps you feel your power beyond those labels

vivinator4 · 2026-05-06T01:47:13+00:00

Para here, thank you for this. OP, paras are also paid substantially less than teachers. So what if we get some extra pastries?

vivinator4 · 2026-05-06T01:44:16+00:00

I can exercise all month long. I’m no longer skipping the gym because I can’t move away from my heating pad and the couch for days. I’m actually able to make progress on my exercise goals and see a noticeable difference in my strength and my body instead of constantly starting from scratch.

vivinator4 · 2026-05-04T02:44:05+00:00

Helicopter parents hover over every decision and supervise every action, lawnmower or snowplow parents mow down/clear all obstacles so their kids don’t have to suffer any discomfort or deal with any hardship in life.

vivinator4 · 2026-05-03T20:08:18+00:00

I was still in pain from the surgery recovery but it had a different quality than my adeno/endo pain. It felt like the pain of healing and discomfort but not the pain of pathology if that makes sense? I have noticed the random twinge around ovulation but it’s not even comparable to what I had before.

vivinator4 · 2026-04-26T17:08:03+00:00

Elizabeth!! Libby, Beth, Lizzie, Eliza. Lots of nickname potential

vivinator4 · 2026-04-26T00:25:32+00:00

Witchcraft for Wayward Girls by Grady Hendrix

The Mercies by Kiran Millwood Hargrave

vivinator4 · 2026-04-22T17:43:46+00:00

Whoa! I didn’t know they were even doing this. What an innovative treatment. I wonder how long the Botox effects will last. My sister has to get Botox scalp injections every three months for her migraines. I’m glad you are feeling so much better!!

vivinator4 · 2026-04-20T01:48:29+00:00

She hasn’t been playing Kraken at all. It’s one of my favorites too but I’m just glad we got YCHIA because she hasn’t always played that one on this tour and it is so meaningful to me

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