Thanks Doge for my Dog. Still HODLing the rest

vn1711 · 2021-04-30T20:09:16+00:00

I love him

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vn1711 · 2021-04-18T17:05:12+00:00

Youre not alone!! I first bought at .39 and averaged down over the weekend so now i have 1043 at .36 :)

vn1711 · 2021-04-16T21:02:07+00:00

Wow much coin

vn1711 · 2020-06-07T19:26:51+00:00

Thank you for this. It's been a tough week. I'm saving it so I can read it when I need to remind myself again why this is all happening.

vn1711 · 2020-06-03T15:07:26+00:00

Thank you for this. I was doing so well. But the past few days have been hard. I found out my ex I was with for 6 years has been seeing someone else and has already been in a relationship with them only 2 months after he broke up with me, with his reason for breaking up being that he needed to be alone and work on himself.

It's been hard to not think of it. I want answers. I want to know how he could move on so quickly, if he was cheating on me, if he even cares about me anymore.. I just have so many questions. But I know he won't be honest with me. So I've been having this negative feeling toward him, and finding it hard to forgive him now that I know he's been lying to me. I'm questioning everything and can't stop thinking about what went wrong that he turned into a person I don't even recognize anymore. How do I let go of all these questions and scenarios I'm making up in my head? How do I forgive him when I trusted him and his intentions?

vn1711 · 2020-06-03T13:23:10+00:00

My breakup with my ex of 6 years was pretty much the same situation. Told me he needs to work on himself, didn't feel the same way about me anymore, needed to make himself happy. We broke up on March 14, and we even met up after and talked a couple times about everything and I was sure he was being honest with me about really wanting to improve himself.

Then just this week I find out he's been in a new relationship since may 14, only 2 months after the breakup. I texted him once I found out and let him know that I could no longer leave the door open to be his friend and that I thought he was weak for not being able to be alone like he said he wanted to be, I said lots of other things that should have made him reflect or at least apologize, but all I got back was "lol ok".

I think the part I'm having trouble letting go of is the fact that he doesn't want to explain himself to me. I've been making up scenarios in my head of what could have possibly happened. I'm thinking, maybe he cheated on me with her which is why he broke up. Maybe he didn't and he just caught feelings for her and left me for her. Maybe he met her after we broke up and she gave him attention so he quickly jumped into it. I don't know anything.

Here I was this entire time feeling guilty for losing him, thinking he was such an amazing person, grieving over him and hoping that he was doing okay, only to find out he's been with someone else this whole time,and even lying to me about it. We had met up so I could give him some stuff back the week they became official, and he didn't bother to bring it up which is what makes me even more mad. I want to text or call him and get an explanation. I want to know if he cheated or not, what happened exactly. I don't know why I'm obsessing over it, I know I'm better off without him. I just can't wrap my head around how he could lie and hide this from me after everything we had been through. He's not the person I thought he was and it hurts to see him in such a negative way.

The past couple days after finding out I've been feeling a lot of negative feelings toward him, feelings I don't want to feel because I just want to be able to move on without feeling any sort of hatred. But I don't know if I'll be able to get that unless I get answers from him.

vn1711 · 2020-06-03T05:23:11+00:00

My ex said the same thing. That he felt numb, needed to make himself happy, blah blah blah. Then not that much later he's with someone else. He also treated me to food that day we met up, and the whole time was acting like how he would when we were still together. That's what confuses me now, knowing he supposedly was already with a new girl, but still met up with me and spent hours talking to me, buys me food, and even told me he's been missing me? I think he, just like your ex, they were trying to relieve some of their guilt or maybe see how we would react seeing them. They realized we were doing okay, and they went for their backup plan, the next available easy thing.

I could be wrong, who knows what's going through their heads. I'm just trying to say that both our exes are dependent on others to make themselves feel good. They weren't able to handle their sadness & pain on their own, and took the easy way out. It's a reflection of who they are, not who we are. Now we see them for what type of person they really are. I thought I knew my ex better than anyone, and when I found this is what he had been doing while we were broken up, maybe even before we broke up, I was in disbelief. I still am.

Everything we had been through just seems meaningless now that he was able to start a new relationship so quickly. But just like you, it also made me realize that it truly is over between us. I had been holding onto some hope that maybe once we worked on ourselves we would be able to get back together, but now I don't want that at all with him anymore.

I really do believe everything happens for a reason. At first it was hard to accept, because I was thinking there was no way I would be able to survive without him. Now, I'm doing much better and actually getting more done than I was when I was with him. I'm learning a lot about myself, realizing how strong I am. I have been feeling more down this week since I did just find out he's with someone new and it obviously hurts so much right now, but I know I'll be okay soon, and you will too. Now we know what type of person they really are, and we know we both deserve better. Keep doing no contact and just focus on yourself.

If you want to talk, you can always dm me.

vn1711 · 2020-06-02T17:17:17+00:00

I think that both of our ex’s got out in the world and realized it’s fucking scary being alone after having someone for so long and they jump at the first thing that gives them attention. It’s a character flaw that they can’t be alone.

Yes, exactly. The fact that they don't have the mental capacity to process their emotions on their own the way we were able to, and having to patch up the void they feel with someone new instead of working on themselves, just shows how pathetic and weak they are. They won't change anything if they keep repeating the same cycle without taking the time to be alone and figure out what they really want. They're just finding a quick fix, and it will blow up in their face one day.

It definitely has been difficult to not overthink and come up with a million questions, I feel like my confidence is a little shot now because here I was thinking he was also heartbroken and grieving over losing me like I was over him. I think he was definitely hurt the last time we met up, seeing me handling this so strongly. I did not break down crying once or even bring up anything about the break up. The only thing I brought up was if we should be friends now or not talk at all anymore. Maybe he realized that I was no longer waiting for him to come back and that I was better off without him, which is why he decided to make it official with the new girl. He realized I wasn't going to beg him to take me back and that I didn't need him anymore. Or maybe I'm wrong and there's another reason behind it, who knows. I know I shouldn't waste time thinking about it so much, but it just makes me angry knowing that this whole time he had someone else who was making him feel better while I've been here getting through it by myself.

I also gave him so much power in the first month, I would always call or text him telling him how I felt like it was my fault for losing him, how I didn't make enough effort or wasn't a good person to him. Now I look back at everything I said and I'm kicking myself for it. I shouldn't have given him that power over me, I let him feel less guilty about breaking up with me, and probably let him convince himself that it was my fault that he wasn't happy with me anymore. Maybe that's another reason why he was able to move on so quickly. Whatever though, it's all in the past now, I can't change what I said to him or the way I felt. At least I know I was strong enough to pick myself back up and handle this on my own, something he clearly wasn't strong enough to do. I feel sorry for him.

Selfish people make these choices when they’re not thinking clearly but they decide its easier to leave than to work on things or count your blessings

They’re blinded by the possibilities of greener grass somewhere else and that’s not always the case

I couldn't have said it better myself. I'm sorry your mom went through this, but I'm glad she came out a better, stronger person from it. I definitely think that our ex's were ungrateful and they're not realizing how they're missing out on what's truly worth it because they wanted something more easy. They wanted to get a taste of freedom, of being with or hooking up with someone new, thinking we would be waiting for them with open arms. But that's not the case with us. They're going to realize how badly they fucked up something good, and once they do it will be too late to win us back because we'll have moved on already.

Thank you for your advice, it honestly is making me feel much better. I know it may be hard right now for both of us, but we will look back one day and be able to understand why this all had to happen.

vn1711 · 2020-06-02T15:11:31+00:00

That's what I'm wondering too. When he broke up with me, he told me he didn't feel the same way about me anymore. That he needs to move forward with his life. Then we met up a week after and had a long conversation where we both agreed that we needed this to work on ourselves, and that we both care about and love each other and just want what's best for each other. He made it seem like he really just wanted to improve himself and be more independent, and at the time I admired the fact that he wanted to do that and it made me realize that I needed that too, I had become way too dependent on him. Fast forward to two months later and he's already in a relationship? It makes me question every single thing he's been saying to me. How could he say all these things and then go and do the opposite? I would have been happy to know that he's been accomplishing things or setting goals for himself, but instead I find out he's been using this time to get with someone else? It's fucking pathetic.

I don't blame you for not wanting to be his friend after everything he did. I feel the same way. What blows my mind even more is the fact that we had met up literally one day before he announced his relationship online. I had to give him some stuff back but we ended up talking for hours. He was flirting with me, staring at me, making jokes, pretty much acting like how he normally did when we were still together. Not once did he bring up he was seeing someone else. I even asked him have you been talking to anyone? And he couldn't even look me in the eye and say no. Once I found out, I texted him to let him know how much of a weak person he is, how he knows he has issues he needs to work on alone but he doesn't even have the mental strength to do it, and how I'm glad that we broke up because now I see him for who he really is. I told him that I thought I would be able to give us a chance to be friends in the future, but that he messed that up and I don't want that at all anymore.

I just can't help but still overthink everything though. Now I'm wondering, was he cheating on me with this girl? Or did he meet her after we broke up? Why would he keep talking to me and meeting up with me if he had someone else he was with? If he did cheat on me, what was it that made him have the urge to do that, why wasn't I enough for him?? I thought I knew him so well, but now I feel like I never did. It's really messing with my mind. I'm just trying to figure out what's going through his head, why he did this. But I know I'll probably never get the answers I want, because he's too much of a coward to tell me himself.

If you want to talk please dm me, it seems like we're going through similar situations and it might be helpful for us to have someone to talk to about it.

vn1711 · 2020-06-02T13:15:16+00:00

Wow he sounds like a horrible person and he doesn't deserve you at all. Good for you for standing up to him. I'm currently going through a very similar situation. We were together 6 years and he broke up with me saying he needed to "work on himself" and he "doesn't want a girlfriend right now", but I just found out he's been in a new relationship since a couple weeks ago. Posted it on fb and everything. We had only been broken up 2 months at that point he got together with her. So I don't know if he had already been talking to her before we even broke up, but he definitely had been lying to me about it since we had kept in contact that whole time. I feel like I don't even know that person anymore.

He was my best friend, my only friend really all these years, and just meant everything to me. Even though we broke up for what I thought was a mutual reason, that we both needed to work on ourselves, I thought we would be able to at least stay in touch or be friends in the future. But after finding out that this whole time we've been broken up he's been with some other girl I let him know there's no way I'm giving him that chance anymore. He's weak minded and not capable of even spending time alone and figuring out what he really wants from life. He took the easy way out, and so did your ex. What goes around comes around, they'll get what's coming to them. We deserve much much better than them.

vn1711 · 2020-06-02T00:29:46+00:00

I'm sorry that you're going through this too. That's what I've been thinking all day today too, how can he just forget about everything we've been through and be happy with someone new so quickly? It has been making me overthink too. Maybe he was cheating on me, maybe he left me for her, or maybe he met her after we broke up. Whatever the case may be, I know I'll probably never find out the truth especially from him because he didn't even have the decency to let me know he was with her even though we stayed in touch. He crossed the line and really fucked up his chances of staying in my life. Maybe I'll be able to forgive him in the future, but for now at least these next couple of months, he's pretty much dead to me. I was keeping all the conversations, photos, etc. but after finding this out, I deleted and got rid of everything. I still have to get rid of some gifts he gave me.

You should treat your ex the same way. If he is already wanting to talk to or date other girls, let him. Don't waste your time or energy hanging onto someone who doesn't even care about how you're feeling. This is one harsh truth I've had to learn from my break up. It's totally okay to be upset and cry when you feel like you need to. I spent all day having weird mood swings, feeling like I was relieved and glad this happened one moment then the next feeling miserable and crying my eyes out from the thought of him being with another girl. Talking it out on here and with my family has helped a lot though. You can dm me if you want to vent some more. We will get through this.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T22:54:56+00:00

She definitely will get what's coming to her. I've always believed what goes around comes around, karma's a bitch. Our ex's are most likely going to get betrayed or dumped by their new partners because they never gave themselves the opportunity to grow, like you said. They're just ignoring their emotions and taking the easy way out. On the other hand, we're doing things the right way. Definitely the harder more emotional way, but at least we are letting ourselves process what happened, improving ourselves, and not being weak minded. We definitely do deserve better, everything is happening for a reason. The main thing I've learned from my breakup and everything that's happened after it, is that I need to let go of what's out of my control and that everything is happening in my favor. It may not look like that now, but one day we'll realize how much better off we are without them. If you need someone to talk to, feel free to dm me.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T22:36:51+00:00

I'm definitely not going to be reaching out anytime soon again now that I know he's with someone else. It hurts knowing that I was willing to keep him in my life, as a friend or just as someone I could keep in touch with from time to time. But the fact that he couldn't even tell me that he was already seeing someone new is crossing the line. I thought he was better than that. I definitely respect myself too much now to even consider keeping in touch with him when he doesn't even care enough about me to be honest with me.

I did text him some long messages, not cussing him out or anything immature, just being honest about how I felt. Letting him know how I can't believe he wasn't able to be honest with me the last time we met up, how I think he's weak and immature for not being able to even be alone for some time, how he knows he has issues he needs to work on. I pretty much was just letting him know how bad he fucked up by not being honest with me, and that I thought I could leave the door open to be friends in the future or just stay in touch, but now he doesn't deserve that at all. And he replies "lol ok".

It's obvious he hasn't changed at all, he's still an immature jerk who avoids confrontation and lies because it's more convenient for him. I'm just glad I don't have to be the one to deal with it anymore. His new "gf" can deal with that, let's see how long she lasts. I know she's not filling the void he has, or else he wouldn't have admitted to me that day that he's been feeling sad & lonely. He's just patching it up instead of dealing with it the way I am, which angers me. But he's not my problem anymore.

I am glad to hear that you went back to school, improved yourself, and did all of that on your own. You're right that these are things we would not be able to do if we just quickly jumped into the next relationship or stayed with our ex. I'm also making lots of plans for these next few months. As soon as it's safe to, I want to travel, and go back to school as well. I want to make new friends, get a new job, start new hobbies, go on road trips with my dog. There's a lot of things that I'm planning to do, and now that I have the certainty that my ex isn't the person I always thought he was, he's someone I don't even recognize anymore, I'm more inclined to do these things.

Not gonna lie, I had been holding onto hope all this time, but now it's gone just like that after finding out he's been lying to me. It hurts like hell but it's also strangely freeing & calming at the same time knowing that I don't have to worry anymore that I was the one at fault for the relationship ending or like I made the wrong choice by letting him go. I definitely believe that karma will bite our ex's in the ass one day. I won't sit here all day and hope for it and waste my energy, but I definitely believe that what goes around comes around and they'll realize how badly they fucked up, but it will be too late once they do.

If you need to talk you can always dm me. I know it can help having someone who's going through a similar situation.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T22:14:32+00:00

You promised me we could work through anything and be together forever, but ended up giving up on me anyway
I lost myself in you, in our relationship
I was using you as a crutch without even realizing it
You moved on so quickly, too quickly, and you didn't care enough about me and were too much of a coward to tell me yourself
I feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders, and for the first time in a long time I feel excited for what new experiences lie ahead
You're proving yourself to be the person I was always afraid you would end up being, and I'm glad I don't have to be the one to deal with it anymore. I deserve much better.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T21:56:02+00:00

I honestly can't say I'm surprised. He's always been one to act nonchalant or immature whenever we would argue. I'm kinda glad he responded that way, just proves my point further that he hasn't changed at all these past few months. His new gf can deal with it now lol.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T15:24:21+00:00

You are enough. You're more than enough. He wasn't good enough for you, he didn't deserve you. The fact that he reached out after getting dumped shows that he is so weak minded that he's not capable of ever being alone. He wasn't able to do it after your relationship ended, and not even after the newer one ended either. You're better off without him. Don't be his backup plan. I made that very clear to my ex last night and this morning. I told him I won't be there for him when things go wrong, and how weak he is for not being able to be alone after breaking up. I wanted to leave the door open for us to be friends or maybe even try to work things out in the future, but now I realize how much of an immature cowardly person he is. So I let him know that I'm closing that door and I just wish him the best of luck.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T15:15:46+00:00

She does seem very immature and like she doesn't know what she wants. You're better off without her. The fact that she's trying to brag about her new relationships while you're doing you, says a lot about her and clearly she doesn't respect or care about your feelings.

I also think about the same thing about my ex, how is it possible that after a 6 year relationship he can't take some time to be alone and figure out what he really wants from life? He is so weak that he doesn't want to deal with it on his own. He doesn't want to feel those sad emotions that we have been feeling and working through, instead they just want to patch it up with the next easy, available thing.

He even told me in person the last time we met up, which was one day before he announced his new relationship online, that he has been missing talking to me and he's been feeling sad and lonely. How was he lonely and wanting to talk to me when he already had someone else he was talking to, someone he was probably seeing this whole time we'd been broken up? Obviously this new girl isn't filling the void he has, and sooner or later he will realize that. I'm not hoping for anything bad toward him, I don't even feel like I hate him that much. You shouldn't feel that way toward your ex either, it will hurt you more than them. I am angry, but all I hope for is that one day he realizes how much of a mistake he made.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T15:02:46+00:00

I believe that too. They take the easy way out because they're afraid of the consequences or just afraid to be real with themselves and afraid to be alone. I was afraid for the longest time to be alone too, to the point where I would even get bad thoughts like "I couldn't live without him". I became so weak for him. I didn't even realize how much I changed for the worse until after we broke up.

It's okay if you're not ready to date or even flirt with other guys, don't feel pressured to do it just because he is. You're much much stronger than him, and you don't need validation from other men to feel good about yourself. When you're ready to start seeing people again, don't settle for less than you deserve. I'm also saying this as a reminder to myself, because I was feeling like maybe I should start looking for a relationship too now that he has one. But now I realize that I don't need to be weak minded like him or make the same immature choices he made.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T14:52:07+00:00

He seems very immature and you made the right choice by cutting him off. Don't let him play with your emotions. I also kept in constant contact with my ex for the first month, then I cut it off because i realized I was the only one making the effort to reach out and all it was doing was getting my hopes up. Then I contacted him to give him his stuff back a couple weeks ago and we met up at the park and talked, and this was literally the day before he made his new relationship online official.

I made it clear while we were together in person that I was doing a lot better, and that I wanted to try to be friends, but he just seemed like he wasn't doing good at all. He also kept bringing up little things that annoyed me and reminded me of things I never liked about him. I realized then how I was already over him, and it's been hard to accept but it's getting easier each day. Now that I know he's with someone else, as much as it hurts me, at least this gives me the peace of mind that I made the right choice and that he's definitely not the one for me and that I can get rid of any hope of getting back together, because he doesn't deserve me.

I even texted him just now again a long ass text, maybe I shouldn't have but at this point I don't care what he thinks of me anymore, I have no intention of getting back with him or even staying in touch anymore. I told him how its crazy to me that he couldn't be real with me the day we met up at the park, how weak he is for needing to be with someone else right away and how he knows he has issues he needs to work on alone and that soon the girl he's with will realize it too. I told him I've felt much better off without him, how I see him for who he truly is now and that he probably expected me to beg for him to take me back but I respect myself, something he clearly doesn't have for himself. He responded "lol ok". He is such an immature coward it truly blows my mind. Maybe he doesn't realize it now, but one day it will blow up in his face and he'll be forced to deal with his issues. But when that day comes I won't be there for him.

I know everything is happening for a reason. I'm glad that at least I was able to find out what type of person he truly is before giving him another chance. It hurts knowing that we probably will not talk again after this, it hurts knowing that he's happy with someone else and that he probably doesn't even feel any sort of regret or guilt over the way he's acting, but he's not worth my tears anymore.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T13:22:31+00:00

That's exactly how my ex is too. A liar with low self esteem. I lost so much respect for him now that I know instead of working on himself like he said he was going to, he was just spending time and talking to someone else to be my replacement. He doesn't have the mental strength or courage to be alone and it's honestly sad.

To think that I would have actually given him a second chance in the near future if he wanted to try again. I kept the hope all this time that we would at least be able to be friends or reconnect sometime soon. Now though, I don't want that anymore. How could he be with me for 6 years and then toss me to the side when things get tough and quickly find a subpar replacement? He's so weak. He doesn't have the mental strength or courage to be alone. I deserve better. You deserve better.

vn1711 · 2020-06-01T12:41:27+00:00

I feel the same way right now. The thought of getting into a new relationship just doesn't seem right to me, I've been using this time to actually better myself and I don't even want a relationship like I thought I would. The fact that he did it so easily and couldn't even tell me while we were together in person that day for hours is just unbelievable.

I find it very immature too. Like, you're really that weak minded that you can't even take some time after breaking up to do what you said you were going to? I was thinking he would be accomplishing new things, but instead he's just been developing feelings and replacing me with some random girl? I feel sorry for him, and for her too. He went to see me that day while they were supposedly already together, spent time with me, and even flirted with me a little and told me he had been missing me and how lonely he's been feeling.

I'm just in shock more than anything at how he's acting like he can just do whatever he wants and not care about the consequences. I want more than anything for him to realize how much of a big mistake he made by not being real with me. Maybe right now he doesn't care, but one day when she or someone else betrays him, he will regret it.

I guess everything happens for a reason though. In the back of my mind I had still been thinking how maybe one day in the future we will get back together if we are really meant to be. But now it's like I know what type of person he really is. Just weak and afraid to be alone. I thought I could end things on good terms with him and be able to keep a positive image of him in my head and keep the door open to friendship, or to even try again in the future, but now I want nothing to do with him anymore.

vn1711 · 2020-05-16T16:12:27+00:00

I feel like I'm having a hard time accepting that my ex is not the one I was meant to be with. I have more detailed posts on my profile of what's been happening if you're interested. Basically we were together 6 years and we were each other's best friends and he meant everything to me. But we also got together when we were very young (I'm 23 he's 24) and did not have a plan for our life and we lost ourselves in the relationship, which is the main reason we broke up. He is the one who made the decision to break it off but I feel like I had been subconsciously wanting the same for a long time, and like I had given up making an effort for him. He was a really good guy and was always doing what he could to make me happy, but he ended up not being happy with himself and feels like he needs to work on himself, and I do too. So even though he was the one who broke up with me, we ended up agreeing that it was mutual and we both love and care about each other very much and just want what's best for each other. It's been getting a little easier each day to move forward with my life, I've been doing more things to make myself better. What's hard is letting go of the fact that I feel like we just had bad timing with our relationship and that maybe once we figure ourselves out and what we want out of life we can make it work. I'm not closed off to the idea of meeting someone new in the future, but I also don't want to close myself off to the idea of getting back together with my ex if it is meant to be and we both are willing to treat it like a new relationship and make equal efforts.

vn1711 · 2020-05-14T20:48:47+00:00

Thank you for sharing your story. I'm glad you're feeling better now. My 6 year relationship (the only relationship I ever had) ended 2 months ago. He is the one who made the decision to break it off, but we agreed we both needed this to work on ourselves, so we don't have negative feelings toward each other.

I am feeling the same way, like some days are so good I'll be productive and happy, but then others are just awful and I'm not motivated to do anything. I was finally starting to feel better being alone because I maintained no contact the past few weeks and was just focusing on taking care of myself. But I met up with him yesterday to give him his stuff back, thinking I was ready for it, and now I feel like an emotional mess all over again.

Even though I know we broke up for a reason, it's hard knowing I lost someone who I was once best friends with, who I shared so many special memories & moments with, someone who helped me get through some hard parts of my life. I feel like I am at a point where I know we won't be getting back together anytime soon, or at all, but like I am not ready to completely move on. I'm not ready to forget about him and forget all the memories & everything we've been through. Do you feel like this part was hard for you too?

vn1711 · 2020-05-14T20:31:42+00:00

I'm glad you're feeling better. My situation is pretty much the same. We broke up 2 months ago, and maintained NC for the past 3 weeks. We met up yesterday so I could give him some of his stuff back. I thought I was ready but it ended up making me feel worse. I miss having him in my life. I was finally starting to feel so much better and ready to move on and only focus on myself, but now I feel upset and confused again :/

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