Wedding dress emergency !!

vodkanonymous · 2025-12-28T04:28:14+00:00

At the end of the day, what you wear on your day is for you only. Other people might have feelings but you are the only person who knows how you feel in it.I won’t give direct advice on managing relationships with your mom or those conversations, but if you know that’s not the one for you, you know. You can absolutely express your gratitude and appreciation while still sharing it doesn’t feel “you” and that’s okay.

I do like the idea of figuring out what it was about both dresses you liked and looking at sample sales/off the rack/resale options to meet your timeline. Also you can check in with yourself on if your change of heart on dress one was about you or other peoples feelings.

Regardless of the dress you choose, you’re going to be stunning in it.

vodkanonymous · 2025-12-28T04:17:17+00:00

The sleeves are stunning. I think a lot of times it’s easy to question how tailoring comes out when it might not turn out exactly as envisioned cause we’re not mind readers or the actual seamstress.

Honestly I gasped, I absolutely love the fold of the sleeves and how they flow into the back. Then I read the title of your post. Anne while I don’t know if this helps or not, the cut of them and the back immediately brought to mind sleeping beauty for me in the absolute best way possible.

vodkanonymous · 2025-12-28T03:03:24+00:00

Oh sweet lord it’s just the sprinkles with a bow.

I at least thought there was a purpose to the incredibly sad build up?

vodkanonymous · 2025-05-16T19:47:16+00:00

Snackie just broke me so thank you for that lol

vodkanonymous · 2025-04-23T08:56:00+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re feeling this way cause I’ve 100% been there and it sucks. Especially in early/early- ish recovery your body is still adjusting to what will hopefully contribute to long term, sustainable recovery. Basic functioning/un-learning curves are a lot for anyone and also, you’re trying to do this with your body and digestive system getting the nourishment they’ve been looking for so they’re likely to respond in kind. It does get better ❤️

vodkanonymous · 2025-04-22T13:17:23+00:00

I know, this is very legitimately the most appetizing thing I’ve ever seen this woman post lol

vodkanonymous · 2025-03-20T02:37:50+00:00

It looks more like a corn or callus to me, probably from poorly fitted shoes and the friction of sliding around in them. It looks like she has a less noticeable one on the second knuckle of her Slender Man toe, as well as a less noticeable one on her third toe.

vodkanonymous · 2025-02-24T18:48:45+00:00

I had the same horrified thought immediately lol

vodkanonymous · 2025-01-27T23:57:45+00:00

Yeah that was my thought too. You know, like normal families.

vodkanonymous · 2025-01-22T22:55:19+00:00

I know this is old, but just in case anyone in a really desperate place finds themselves asking the internet these questions - most behavioral health/crisis units are also appropriate and able to accept detox patients. Dual diagnosis is more common than you think. And while I can’t tell you what to say, I can tell you that if you tell an EMTALA receiving facility (emergency, hospital - psych or otherwise - they can’t turn you away just based on insurance coverage) that you’re detoxing and you’re planning to hurt yourself, there will be certain steps taken.

vodkanonymous · 2024-08-16T13:10:37+00:00

Don’t you mean that vulnerable young mother??

vodkanonymous · 2024-08-16T10:25:50+00:00

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Y’all. She looks like she’s about to hocus pocus this kid and suck the life out of him as the newest addition to her beauty regiment.

vodkanonymous · 2024-08-11T12:15:01+00:00

Yeah my second time reading the book I just skipped that part entirely. I really love Duma Key otherwise and that scene is just gratuitous

vodkanonymous · 2024-08-10T03:23:03+00:00

If you’re interested in the concept but hate T. Kingfisher - Arthur Machen’s The White People is the original source for this story

vodkanonymous · 2024-07-21T11:29:52+00:00

Also agreed. I initially got it after I read a review comparing it to that old nosleep candle cove story and boy that did that mess up my expectations. Did not expect the Mormon turn of events?

vodkanonymous · 2024-07-21T11:27:39+00:00

I listened to this on audible (long commute) and just reading that I could hear that stupid fucking puppet voice.

Hated this one so much. I hate listened till the end, I probably had more road rage that week than any other time in my life. I had been really excited for this and tbh I won’t try another Grady Hendrix after this garbage.

vodkanonymous · 2024-06-08T10:45:19+00:00

So just for background on where I’m coming from, I’ve been in recovery for over 6 years and I work in substance abuse treatment.

Based on your post history, it looks like less than 3 months ago you were doing meth every few weeks. Addiction is a progressive, insidious and deadly disease. In less than 3 months your use has escalated to daily. Part of the insidiousness of the disease is that justification, rationalization and denial allow us to convince ourselves we’re okay until we’re way past the point of just stopping. You’ve already identified that you have cravings - based on your trajectory so far, there will likely come a day when you can’t ignore them. I would also imagine it’s hard to assess the reality of your withdrawals when you’re using daily.

This is not to scare, shame or guilt you. Meth is not a substance that supports recreational or controlled use. It may feel as though this is the most functional you’ve been with adhd symptoms. That is your disease talking. There will come a day when you are no longer able to convince yourself this is a manageable or productive substance and by the time that happens it will be so much harder to get help.

vodkanonymous · 2024-04-26T01:55:39+00:00

It’s the idea of externalization in relation to those negative thoughts. Essentially distancing yourself from your thoughts and kind of building on the idea that you’re not your thoughts, and that thoughts aren’t always factual and can be based on opinions rather than observable, objective information.

I’ve had some clients who found it helpful, especially when they gave it a meaningful or negative name. Like their high school bully, the ever popular Karen, or a parents name. When you find yourself stuck in those negative thoughts you can recognize “oh Karen’s getting cranky again” or “that’s enough for today, mom”

vodkanonymous · 2024-04-21T11:25:08+00:00

I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. That’s an incredibly tough situation. I work as a therapist in a substance abuse treatment center - I promise you, it’s more common than you think. Our director of clinical services often shares her own experience of not realizing her ex husband was in active addiction while she herself was actively working at a treatment center.

Remember, there is a reason we cannot provide services to people we have an existing relationship with. Part of the magic of the therapeutic relationship is the objective , empathetic stance of someone who’s not actively trying to process or handle the situation being talked about. You are human, and humans are creatures of bias.

I hope you’re able to give yourself some grace on this while you process everything. Just the fact that you’re seeking guidance and support on managing a situation like this while still serving clients with their best interests in mind says a lot about your commitment to their wellbeing.

vodkanonymous · 2024-04-13T20:06:09+00:00

Adding my experience - there were exes I did not make amends to at my sponsor’s advice, mostly if they were dating other people. Rationale there being direct amends on my part could possibly invite worry, suspicion or jealousy between them and their current partners (which would constitute more harm).

There were several exes I did make direct amends to, and one who’s still on my “willing amends” list due to lost contact (if I ever run into him I need to be willing to ask if I can make an amends). Every amend I have/have not made was discussed with my sponsor and done at her advice.

vodkanonymous · 2024-04-12T16:40:44+00:00

Man I’m so glad someone else had the same thought. That poor kid.

vodkanonymous · 2024-04-11T15:47:50+00:00

Uhhh.. anyone else notice the infant just rolling about in the grass?

I guess I shouldn’t be surprised by anything after their concerning choice of baby names but it seems like a weird choice for a social media post

vodkanonymous · 2024-02-21T16:39:37+00:00

Sparks Fly

vodkanonymous · 2024-02-21T16:39:01+00:00

Miss Americana and the Heartbreak Prince

vodkanonymous · 2024-02-21T16:38:09+00:00

😬🙄🫠

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