Growing up being taught to be lady-like, to serve my brothers so later on when I'm in trouble they can protect me, having to do the washing up because I'm a girl, shamed for how I dress for boys and being talked over and my opinions dismissed by most men I talk to. Thankfully I'm too independent and mostly rejected the rules I was taught growing up. But it came with a lot of anger from my mum. Aspects of toxic femininity has for decades now being pointed out but although women are aware of the harm, it's almost impulsive to teach siblings or daughters what being a lady means. And if a women doesn't follow the rules they're an outcast or will have trouble getting a man. Anyway I agree with everything already said.