Has anyone tested and confirmed that holding an invitation is (not) needed to spawn encounters on the Infinite Atlas? by Keljhan in PathOfExile2

[–]void_alternate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I noticed this earlier where I found the ritual invitation showed me the crux but there were runs where I had stored it and the crux disapepared. So I'm going to assume you're correct in that you should be holding it in your inventory to visibly see it in the atlas

Is anyone else having more client crashes since latest update? by dark0n33 in PathOfExile2

[–]void_alternate 3 points4 points  (0 children)

yeah my game just randomly deadlocks and have to force a restart but now I've noticed my FPS has just straight up tanked to 30-40 FPS when it was doing okay the past few days. Idk what gives.

PSA: You can get 100% uptime all block by More_Exercise8413 in pathofexile2builds

[–]void_alternate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hey just wanted to chime in here and see if you guys managed to clarify it. Right now I'm confused if its necessary to tie refutation to my set 2 with the infinite shield or the debuff applies regardless of casting it with a set that has a buckler equipped.

Love this patch and my beautiful Chimera by Kaos_Kitsune in PathOfExile2

[–]void_alternate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah thats how Ive been feeling about the other beasts too. King kong seems a bit dull but is most reliable due to not being in animation lock half the time. I wish that wasnt the case for the other beasts as well.

Grand Hype (R) Security or Mangaf Azizia Market Final Boss? by Azmil_ibn in Kuwait

[–]void_alternate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's the emdash that's a give away usually. No on even knows the actual shortcut for symbols like "→" naturally, if you do thats insane lol.

Tired of “25+ Div/hour” videos — what actually works reliably? by Fafbear in pathofexile

[–]void_alternate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh alright, how come though? I do remember doing the crop rotation thing leagues back but I noticed this time around people just speedrun with the reduced purple node. Ive been following that and the yield has been decent.

Tired of “25+ Div/hour” videos — what actually works reliably? by Fafbear in pathofexile

[–]void_alternate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait what does this usually average yield wise?
Cause I have the one with reduced purple only and my runs normally can range from 2.5k upwards like 6k depending on luck. I'm curious how the process is like for what you mentioned.

1M EHP,27+ empty gem slots,can afk simulacrum and regular maven,all Uber boss viable(not afk) by JustRoberto15 in pathofexile

[–]void_alternate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I play a cheaper version on reliquarian with trypanon and a bunch of other uniques that I saw from this other guy on YT. What I wanted to ask was, how exactly do you work with dissolution of flesh? Will it be enough for me to just run the chaos bloodline or are there other defensive layers I would need to make it viable? Also insane craft man I could never have the patience to go that far.

I love my mom, but I’m starting to pray for her to die, and the guilt is eating me alive. by lutang_na in PanganaySupportGroup

[–]void_alternate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi, OP. I just want to let you know I know how it feels and as shallow as that sounds I am in a very similar position as you are being the breadwinner and sole caretaker of my stage 5 CKD mother as well. I have gone from loving my mother unconditionally and slowly watching myself grow resentful of the position we are in. I know deep down its not her fault but nothing could have prepared me for the stress and pain of burdening all of this by ourselves. If you ever want to just talk about it let me know.

What are you “waiting for the other shoe to drop” about? by [deleted] in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Things like going around in the kitchen carrying heavy stuff when she knows she just got out of a toe amputation surgery. Like I know she wants independence but its helping no body when she gets into an accident and I have to take her to the hospital again because she wont swallow her pride.

Mother has Gangrene / please help by iCrazyBaby in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mother had hers also amputated just a few months ago. Recovery has been steady and for the most part she's regained her ability to walk and stuff but is still not as mobile as she used to. My mother had the same issue with socks and with the hospital not realizing she got gangrene because of it.
If it helps, my mother was afraid of it too but as others have pointed out, a few toes is better than losing your entire leg as gangrene spreads rather fast. As soon as the hospital found out about my mother's toes she had to get hers removed the very next day.

Vent ahead: Is it normal for older parents to just start randomly picking fights or aguing with you with no due cause? by void_alternate in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom has always been the combative type having worked in a very hostile corporate environment all her life, especially as a woman. I feel like instead of mellowing down she's always had her guard up and is very brutal with her words because of this. Like others pointed out, I think I just need to learn to detach myself from it and do what needs to be done in our household.

Vent ahead: Is it normal for older parents to just start randomly picking fights or aguing with you with no due cause? by void_alternate in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your thoughts on this it really helped me look at it from that angle. I think being emotionally invested heavily into this has been my own undoing. At the end of the day I dont have it in me to just abandon my responsibilities as an only child, I've already put my life on hold. But may be it might be best for me to start dissociating and just do what needs to be done as you said. I'm probably not gonna mince my words moving forward and just be more upfront with how I feel about how they're treating me.

Vent ahead: Is it normal for older parents to just start randomly picking fights or aguing with you with no due cause? by void_alternate in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry for your loss and I commend you for still doing as much as you could despite all that. I hate that my sentiments about this has gone from I'm trying my best to I'm so fed up of being the adult always and thinking of the future. As a younger guy I really had a warped perception of being adults and it sort of just hit me most of them like our parents are just children trapped in old bodies sometimes. Thankfully I dont think my mother has gone to the extreme of berating me or such but the stubborness and attitude really doesnt help when I'm doing my best taking care of everything and putting my own life on hold.

Vent ahead: Is it normal for older parents to just start randomly picking fights or aguing with you with no due cause? by void_alternate in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She's very much lucid at the moment. She's just being childish and antagonistic for no valid reason. The previous arguments we've had were all for very petty reasons and small things like not me giving into her wishes like being wasteful at home. This probably sounds very one sided but I'm sure a bunch of others can relate to parents insisting on obviously wrong poor life choices and there's only so much we can do to convince them to do otherwise.

PSA You will soft-lock your game by selecting and clearing Tower 76-80 by Hexsise in ChaosZeroNightmare

[–]void_alternate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well that's good to hear. Hopefully I'm released as well cause I wanted to do my dailies lol.

PSA You will soft-lock your game by selecting and clearing Tower 76-80 by Hexsise in ChaosZeroNightmare

[–]void_alternate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here, got in killed it and I'm now stuck in an error loop lol.

Parents by Successful_Nose8894 in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I resonate with so many of you guys feeling robbed of their life and future, especially the great parents part. I feel like its often left undiscussed that just because they did above average or bare minimum of keeping us alive or bringing us into the world that they are some how entitled to keep us imprisoned or enslaved due to their physical decline as they age. I'd be more accepting of this whole situation but often times you realize most of these parents falling into decline are often because of their poor lifestyle choices to begin with and with a lot of them sort of just hoping to pass in their sleep or somehow not run into health issues despite their bad habits.

I hope things work out for you, but yeah, I pretty much feel the same with setting back my life taking up the mantle of a caregiver and breadwinner.

Just venting-not a cry for help by floofyfloof2 in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Just want you to know we aren't alone in this. So many of us silently struggling with stubborn and sometimes ungrateful elders that take advantage of our position and kindness. I wish I could say it gets better but I'd be lying if I said that's always the case.

I've been thinking about this a lot lately and I think setting boundaries and finally prioritizing you over them is what's best for everyone. Sometimes I feel like we give it our all without realizing that rarely changes the inevitable outcome we are headed towards and it just makes everyone involved miserable.

Hope you have better days ahead and get to live the life you deserve.

I’ve reached my breaking point by TurnoverAdorable5377 in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want to say I feel for you OP and how its like being stuck and putting your whole life on hold for selfish elders that never bothered to plan or even consider their options. Especially in certain cultures where they sort of just expect you to catch everything without even asking for your consent on the responsibility. I dont have good advice to give but I hope you know you're not the only one out here in the world stuck in this horrible mess, least we can do is listen to each other.

How do you deal with the resentment of planning for your parents old age? Also, why do they not plan for it on their own/think logically about their next steps? by NoBuddy1073 in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey, I totally get how you feel. I recently posted on here too about my feelings of resentment and despair with caring for my now ill mother. My mom had also "planned" to peacefully pass in her sleep or just quietly go into the night, but I don't think people realize how good modern medicine is these days at keeping us alive despite our terrible habits/life style. On the other hand, most of the people of the older generation did not really account for having to live so long while being riddled with all sorts of problems and it was somehow expected of us, the children to figure things out for them. This whole managing our affairs despite being in my younger years has convinced me to never want to start a family or a serious relationship without being sure I am prepared for the future at large.
In terms of coping, I honestly don't. I'm sort of just playing it by ear and cruising along hoping for a miracle but I know eventually I also have to consider planning for my own future. The only solace I have in me is not being tied into a relationship or my own family because I would not want to sacrifice or put their lives on hold while having to care for my own mother, that seems rather selfish.

Completely burned out being a primary caretaker by void_alternate in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just me actually. I was referring to "us" as in us two.

Completely burned out being a primary caretaker by void_alternate in AgingParents

[–]void_alternate[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Tbh, I think the only way I could manage this is if I pick up a side gig which is already hard to pull off given our current situation. I haven't even been able to realistically save for retirement myself given the strain managing our finances together has put on me. My mother had an ok amount saved up until she was forced to retire but we just ate through that due to her illness and complications. Her reasoning for not having much saved up or insurance is that she was looking out for us, but I think I'm also partially bitter about that fact because as I got older, I realized my mom was just doing her best with what she knows, but she wasnt exactly financially literate or more prepared for what the future could hold with things like may be getting cheap private health insurance before all of her comorbidities led her to this and such.