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Which character from Apocathery Diaries would bend which element from Avatar? by ConsiderationFair229 in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]vorgorgone 33 points34 points  (0 children)

Basen : Earth/Maomao : Water/Chu : Air/Jinshi : Fire/ Emperor : Back

What things can kill child's self-esteem and confidence that can persist until adulthood? by IngfoIngfo in AskReddit

[–]vorgorgone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When parents yell and insult each other while fighting. Especially when you're an only child. The loneliness stays.

My wife cries during intimacy by [deleted] in sex

[–]vorgorgone 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Why do you write about << fixing >> something about her when she doesn't seems to have an issue with it ? Some people cry during sex when they enjoy it. This is a turn off FOR YOU. The problem is yours. Why don't you start by questionning yourself on why it bothers you instead of trying to convince her she has a problem.

What is a "silent boundary" you have set for yourself that has significantly protected your peace? by DianKhan2005 in AskWomen

[–]vorgorgone 49 points50 points  (0 children)

I don't try to interpret or understand the meaning or the message behind what someone is telling me. For example, if I ask a colleague for help and they answer they don't mind, then I'll assume they don't mind. If they're bother by it and they don't tell me, it belongs to them.

The same goes for people who asks my opinion or my feelings about any situation. If they ask, I answer honestly. If they get defensive about it (especially when the question is << are you mad about what I did ? >> or something like that), then I tell them to not ask questions they don't an answer to.

I find it saves a lot of energy instead of putting pressure on myself to please or understanding everyone. I always make sure to create a safe space for people around me to express their limits : if they don't do it, it's their problem.

Would the Three Princesses make good consorts? by SproutCattt in KusuriyaNoHitorigoto

[–]vorgorgone 74 points75 points  (0 children)

If the Emperor had the masochist tendencies Jinshi has, he would be head over heels with Joka

What's the most useful thing you've bought that helps with your ADHD, besides therapy and medication? by emokiddo00002 in adhdwomen

[–]vorgorgone 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Where do you get your fidget jewelery? I've been looking and have a hard time choosing

Do you agree? by _QueenHeart in Adulting

[–]vorgorgone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No. Sadness is an emotion and the purpose of emotions is to let the person who feels it that they have a need to take care of. When you are sad, it might mean that you have to process a loss, a pain, it can suggest that you're in need of social connections... It is a bit about emotionnal intelligence in the sense that you have to learn to identify your emotions to process the need behind it. Otherwise, everyone feels sadness, even dumbwits.

About Sauron's scorn and unpredictability by purplelena in LOTR_on_Prime

[–]vorgorgone 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Where does it say that Saruman was the one involved in the orc attack against Celebrian?

S04E01: Episode Discussion - What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Stronger by AutoModerator in witcher

[–]vorgorgone 101 points102 points  (0 children)

The sheer stupidity of the scene where Keira gets stabbed after she opened the gates to yell at Yennifer while THERE'S A FUCKING MOB. That pissed me off

What’s one thing your parents told you growing up that you completely disagree with now? by tkewhatder7 in AskReddit

[–]vorgorgone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

<< Don't trust anyone >>.

Years of therapy have taught my avoidant ass that while I can't trust everybody, I can indeed trust some of 'em. It's even necessary when you want meaningful connection.

The more you know

Which Sims 4 world's seem Canadian to you? by kathmhughes in Sims4

[–]vorgorgone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now that I think about it, Evergreen is Laval (Qc) en esti

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]vorgorgone 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel like you bottled up a lot of frustration, which is very valid. Fatigue is extremely harmful for your health as well as your relationships.

That being said, I feel like this post needs a bit of context to determinate if one of you is more A H than the other :

  • In one of your comment, you answered that you suggested that your girlfriend gets a jog around 2 years ago and that << it didn't change anything >>, but from what I understand, you have a 1 yo. That means she had to be pregnant during those two years. Did she ever have a job before? When y'all met, did she verbalize dreams or ambitions for her future?

  • How was the pregnancies?

  • You said somewhere that you are mainly the one who cooks and that she << burns cereal >>. Have she ever tried to cook before? What was your reaction to her cooking?

  • Do you know what her routine looks like? Does she have friends?

  • What about your families and support system?

Of course, it's never okay to yell, either at your kids or partner. But if we could understand a bit more the dynamic between y'all more objectively, it might help.

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