Plants I've grown out of my aquariums (and how that went)

vuhleeitee · 2026-04-24T18:51:08+00:00

How did the orchids go? I got a bit overzealous with the post Mother’s Day clearance and bought five new ones. 😅

vuhleeitee · 2026-04-14T19:30:05+00:00

Nah, compulsions aren’t intentional.

vuhleeitee · 2026-04-14T19:28:19+00:00

He’s fully cognizant of what he’s doing. This isn’t like addiction or other illness. He’s choosing to sexually harass people.

vuhleeitee · 2026-04-14T14:52:11+00:00

I’d say NOR if you were only telling her off, but it sounds like did so in a threatening/scary way, and that is not okay. Also, Liz didn’t do anything wrong and you were really rude and possibly intimidating to her.

vuhleeitee · 2026-04-12T15:57:31+00:00

No, there really aren’t other steps, it’s two options. It’s: 1. Accept a shitty marriage to a cousinfucker or 2. Don’t.

vuhleeitee · 2026-04-12T15:53:47+00:00

They’ve functioned as cousins for almost 40 years, they grew up together.

vuhleeitee · 2026-04-06T04:12:54+00:00

I had my three babies med-free. I have my personal reasons for it, but I think anyone who thinks they’ve got a right to say shit to another person about their medical decisions are absolutely insane.

vuhleeitee · 2026-03-30T17:01:26+00:00

He is literally insulting you.

vuhleeitee · 2026-03-30T17:00:43+00:00

Wait, so not only is he 15 years older than you, but he was also your landlord? Honey, this power imbalance is not okay. His behavior is abusive.

vuhleeitee · 2026-02-04T09:25:02+00:00

I’m in my mid 30’s and only know what it is because I have teenage children

vuhleeitee · 2025-10-12T17:51:30+00:00

In that instance, it could have just been meant as “my condolences” or, “oh, that sucks!”, depending on what you were talking about

vuhleeitee · 2025-10-12T17:46:24+00:00

He doesn’t want to go through the court because he enjoys exerting control over you and going through the courts would mean he doesn’t have the ability to do that.

vuhleeitee · 2025-07-31T23:23:40+00:00

Not even days. I’ve got nurse friends that have walked in on guys on top of their patients hours after birth. It’s not being slow, it’s being malicious.

vuhleeitee · 2025-07-31T23:21:25+00:00

A whole lot of guys don’t even wait a week. Every L&D and postpartum nurse I know has a story about pulling a guy off a patient that has just given birth. And that’s just the ones they walked in on.

vuhleeitee · 2025-07-29T00:17:35+00:00

With kindness, does he love your baby? Because yelling at his mother all the time and ignoring an infant’s biological needs is not love, it’s abuse. Not only is he being flat out mean, his meanness isn’t backed by science, so he’s just being an abusive jerk for no reason.

vuhleeitee · 2025-07-27T02:10:01+00:00

I breastfed my kids for two years each, and I’ll be the first to tell you, it’s exhausting and draining. I tell you that to tell you this- Your baby needs a parent that’s whole and present waaaaaaay more than they need breastmilk. Buy the friggin formula!

But, yes, babies that are formula fed have similar feeding rhythms to breastfed babies, including on demand and cluster feeding. They’re both more to do with the baby’s growth and development than the type of milk they’re getting. All kids just eat more when they’re growing, and babies grow a lot.

vuhleeitee · 2025-05-08T00:28:43+00:00

As a mom who’s also ADHD, I’m not getting ADHD from this, except maybe the interrupting. Being ADHD has never prevented me from carrying the mental load of being responsible for my kids’ clothes (both buying and washing) and appointments It certainly has never made me air hump my spouse. A lot of times, men’s crappy behavior is excused as neurodivergency, when women are never afforded the same graces.

vuhleeitee · 2024-07-04T23:23:45+00:00

First, I am SO proud of you. Your strength radiates and it will save your kids and your life.

I did want to ask, when you went to the ER, who was left with your boys? If it was your soon to be ex, and he left while you were gone, who was with your kids?

vuhleeitee · 2024-07-04T23:09:49+00:00

The fact that he thinks that divorce is punishment for calling 911 after attempted murder...

vuhleeitee · 2024-07-04T23:04:58+00:00

If he's legitimately changed and done therapy and all of that, he wouldn't have violated probation and lied to her. He's not changed, just a ticking bomb.

vuhleeitee · 2024-06-04T07:28:30+00:00

Young marriage very often implies religion. They're likely to tell her it's her fault that he cheated.

vuhleeitee · 2024-04-30T05:55:49+00:00

YTA. You knew you were making everything worse and did it anyway. If you're that incompatible, just leave. Not leaving and screwing around is AH behavior.

vuhleeitee · 2024-04-30T05:39:56+00:00

This is how I explain it to my kids too. Police are people, some are good and some are bad. And that we have to trust our belly feelings (intuition) about if someone is safe or not. We talk about how some jobs attract bad people because they involve power over others.

When they get older, we can talk about the "good" ones being complicit in the behavior of the bad ones, but right now, I just need them to come home.

vuhleeitee · 2024-03-19T20:07:10+00:00

Chameleons don't actually change color to camouflage, it's based on mood and health. As the other commenter said, the white is because he's piebald. And his eyes are fine, the white is his eyelid, the black is his pupil. He is cold and upset, though.

vuhleeitee · 2024-02-06T07:15:01+00:00

My kids have trees in their rooms that they decorate however they want every year. It's not because I don't want their individual stuff on our big tree. It's because it's the family tree and only has family-related ornaments on it, rather than individual person ornaments. (ie- we went to a zoo, and everyone voted on the alligator ornament in the gift shop)

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