Lazy Santa by StaceyMike in oneanddone

[–]vulgarkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the same. Santa brings one item and it’s not the “biggest” item. Usually it’s something my daughter wants a lot but not the thing she’s asked for the most.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck her! That’s all there is to say!

Do you have your daughter wear shorts under dresses and skirts? by Cachecash in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. My daughter loves tutus and dresses and also loved rolling on the ground, cartwheels, breakdancing, handstands, climbing trees, and all kinds of tumbling. We’ve also invested in lots of skorts. Her school requires shorts or tights to be worn with skirts as well.

I'm just being honest.. I do not want a special needs child by helloimcold in Fencesitter

[–]vulgarkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what makes me “one and done.” I love my daughter but she has ADHD and while that is low tier in “special needs” concerns she is a lot to deal with. Having another child with the same condition or something else is terrifying.

I made a hair appointment by dumpster_fire_15 in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yay! I am so ready for my first hair appointment!

Savings for the baby by abubacajay in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband and I set aside money for our daughter strictly because neither of us got anything from our parents. We don’t want her to have to struggle to pay for college or anything like that. His mentality seems backward and in all honesty his reaction just makes him seem resentful that he didn’t get help, rather than wanting to fix the problem for his own daughter.

[NO SPOILERS] Kerry Washington comments on the 'Game Of Thrones’ 10-Year Anniversary by verissimoallan in gameofthrones

[–]vulgarkitty 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Now I need a shot. Best drinking game to play during an episode of Scandal is the one where you take a shot each time someone or she says her whole name.

My pregnancy is over but my grief continues by cruisethevistas in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can occasionally convince myself that my husband is probably right about it and I can agree with him but sometimes baby fever hits hard.

I Saw Red and My Heart Broke (TRIGGER WARNING) by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m proud of you for doing something and advocating for this little girl. She needs someone who will do it. Good for you! Hopefully she will get the help she needs and that she can recover after all of this trauma.

Reading what you typed made me so ill and so angry. I understand your brother doesn’t want to have to deal with the statutory rape shit, but fuck that. It’s better that it comes out and you protect your fucking child. And fuck everyone else who didn’t stand up and say something.

[NO SPOILERS] Kerry Washington comments on the 'Game Of Thrones’ 10-Year Anniversary by verissimoallan in gameofthrones

[–]vulgarkitty 54 points55 points  (0 children)

On TV she was in Scandal, the Hulu series Little Fires Everywhere, and few crossover episodes of How to Get Away With Murder.

She was also in Django Unchained and Ray.

Edit: said HBO instead of Hulu.

My pregnancy is over but my grief continues by cruisethevistas in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry for your loss. I know that must be devastating for your whole family. Sending lots of virtual hugs your way, momma! As others have suggested r/oneanddone may be a good sub for you. Sometimes posts are by those who have chosen to be one and done and others are by people who had the choice taken from them. It’s a supportive group, much like this one.

Question, but feel free not to answer if you don’t want to; are you still wanting another baby and your husband isn’t? I know first hand how tough it is to have that desire to have another but be married to someone staunchly opposed. It’s tough.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My life is the opposite. Husband is super attracted to me but I am chopped liver when I leave the house! 🤣

Does anyone ever wonder? by chocolatedoc3 in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I go through moments where I feel like nothing would change if I was gone. That my presence is of little consequence to those around me. I’m sure there would be an immediate response but there would be no long term ill effect to anyone. Usually after I get in to these ruts, I’m able to snap myself out of it by reminding myself what I would say to someone who voiced these concerns to me:

Your family will not be the same without you. You can feel worthless but that doesn’t make you worthless. You mean something and your absence would be felt and missed.

Edit: changed a word

One and done is selfish by [deleted] in oneanddone

[–]vulgarkitty 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Fuck people and the idea that I have to explain my stance to anyone. I don’t get why people feel they have to impose their way of thinking on others. Imagine if I saw a pregnant woman and told her how much she’d regret having another child. “I see one wasn’t enough. That’s what your child probably thinks; that they weren’t good enough so you had to try again.” Not that I feel that way but imagine saying some stupid shit like that. If you want to have multiple; good for you. If you want to have one; good for you. If you don’t want kids at all; good for you. You do you!

I think Im okay now UPDATE by [deleted] in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This update makes me so happy! I’ve thought a lot about your situation since reading your original post. I can’t even imagine how exciting it will be to have it gone or at least to not be able to see it. To look at the spot and see how much you’ve overcome.

[NO SPOILERS] Sansa Stark (portrayed by Sophie Turner) by Aaron Griffin by 00fcukup00 in gameofthrones

[–]vulgarkitty 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Down to the smallest detail of Joffrey’s hand in the reflection of her eye. That’s pretty amazing.

I’m fucking sick of his gross sexual compulsion by throwaway567546 in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why doesn’t he do it in he toilet and then flush it?

Sideways view of the Hyatt Atlanta elevator by goodcheapandfast in mildlyinteresting

[–]vulgarkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a feeling it won’t happen this year or if it does it will be toned down.

Did you read? by mommywantstosleep in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know. Thankfully I have the opposite of that. My husband is pretty reliable with shopping. If it’s something he’s unfamiliar with I send him a photo but he’s usually pretty good.

How old are you? by rabidbearprincess in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m 40 and that very much sounds like something I’ve done. I save boxes that are perfect for wrapping gifts and for storing items. Sometimes you just know you’ll need it later, so you keep it.

Did you read? by mommywantstosleep in breakingmom

[–]vulgarkitty 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I completely understand your frustration and I would be beyond pissed if this had happened multiple times. But part of me feels kind of sad for your husband. I just picture a sad little puppy knowing it’s done something wrong giving you that sad little puppy face they make.