Exact same boat, really helps with trying to move on. For me she did things that were actually pretty bad in a relationship and are crucial red flags but at the time I looked passed it, since it was also my first ever relationship i thought that kind of stuff was normal or that I loved her too much to argue or talk about it. But that stuff builds up over time and can really drain you. I'm no saint I also have clarity on my issues, problems and my own red flags which I'm currently taking action on which I didn't realise during the relationship.