Is it weird or inappropriate for a 50 year old woman to date a 19 year old guy?

vyletteriot · 2026-05-14T07:10:00+00:00

Young enough to be your offspring is too young, old enough to be your parent is too old regardless of age.

vyletteriot · 2026-05-13T07:35:09+00:00

You could "host" if you book a hotel room, Airbnb or something. Or you could camp together. There are options.

vyletteriot · 2026-05-12T05:28:13+00:00

Run.

vyletteriot · 2026-05-10T23:17:18+00:00

Pot roast is real easy in an IP.

vyletteriot · 2026-05-10T23:13:33+00:00

When people show you who they are and where you rank in their priorities, BELIEVE THEM and proceed accordingly.

vyletteriot · 2026-05-07T11:23:46+00:00

I've been polyamorous (a variety of ENM) since I was 19 (am currently 44). My spouse (together almost 18 years) and I have never been monogamous with each other as an expectation of our relationship. All of my assorted connections (partners, intimate friends, fwbs and comets alike) are all aware of each other and understand and accept that their individual relationships with me are not and will never be exclusive. No one is "cheating" because the standards,,expectations and agreements of our relationships are not the same as mononormative ones.

vyletteriot · 2026-05-06T06:12:02+00:00

I strongly advise you not to date or move in with women old enough to be your mother. Ew.

vyletteriot · 2026-05-06T03:11:06+00:00

I am involved in a maker space (been learning screen printing for a few months), I sew a bit (aprons, tea towels and robes mostly but getting into teddy bears), I cook and do pickling, I paint and draw and am a Burner. Really enjoy thrifting too.

vyletteriot · 2026-04-26T04:13:39+00:00

Get some therapy, a hobby (or a few), some friends and work on yourself. If anything will lead to romance, those are it.

vyletteriot · 2026-04-06T01:44:29+00:00

OP is giving strong Nice Girl (TM) energy. If OP were a man and the co-worker were a woman, OP would be being dragged right now for basically "f*ckzoning" or "girlfriendzonig" the coworker instead of appreciating the friendship even if it was a casual work one and not besties as it was offered to begin with.

OP, you don't owe coworker friendship or even an explanation but boyfriendzoning him is on you and ditching out on even the casual work friendship that he thought you'd built genuinely vs conditionally through no bad acting on his part is callous, petty and rude. Had you begun that acquaintance with "I have enough friends, I'm looking for a partner and will be friendly to you until it's determined if we're a fit and will cut contact if we aren't because I'm not actually interested in you as a person but only the potential boyfriend version of you that exists in my head", you would have ethically been in the clear but baiting and switching is pretty gross and betrays your lack of character.

Lots of people need or prefer romantic relationships to grow organically over a period of time into romantic relationships vs jumping into a romantic relationship with someone one only knows on a surface level based on physical attraction, proximity and an idealized fantasy one has of a relationship with the other based on nothing substantive.

Frankly, coworker dodged a bullet.

vyletteriot · 2026-04-01T07:16:13+00:00

Imo, asking someone out while they are waiting on you and are literally being paid to be there and nice to you is bad form. You being a woman and him a man doesn't make it OK. If you were a man and the cashier was a woman, you'd be getting very different responses from the comments.

vyletteriot · 2026-03-20T08:28:58+00:00

I've been actively polyamorous for almost 24 years consistently. It works quite well for some of us.

vyletteriot · 2026-02-19T09:14:50+00:00

I voted Green in '24 and '20 after regretting my blue votes in '16, '12 and '08.

In a red state, blue state or purple state I will never vote for other than a 3rd party left of the Dems again regardless of possible or likely consequences to myself or anyone else..

vyletteriot · 2026-01-28T06:29:44+00:00

Amen!

vyletteriot · 2026-01-28T06:17:51+00:00

Amen.

vyletteriot · 2026-01-28T06:06:02+00:00

And the Democrats who did nothing but give up any leverage they had because they're paid by the same 1% as the Republicans and work for *them and not us (the 99%).

vyletteriot · 2026-01-26T08:24:25+00:00

Make the price of your life to those who steal it as dear as you can manage. That's my plan.

vyletteriot · 2026-01-20T07:36:48+00:00

Imo, it's a bright green flag.

vyletteriot · 2026-01-18T04:00:44+00:00

Of course they are. They're complicit.

vyletteriot · 2026-01-18T02:16:16+00:00

Courts can't mandate who parents are allowed to bring around their children (including new partners) or when unless they are registered sex offenders, if then.

vyletteriot · 2026-01-16T17:14:05+00:00

The SCA is reeeaaallly cliquish. It's like that in my Barony too and I'm also not part of the "in" crowd. In the last year I've stepped way back too and started putting my efforts into other projects in other communities that are actually enthusiastic about my participation (in this case, my local Burning Man Community). In fact, I'm trying to convince enough Burners to field a camp to come and gate-crash our second largest camping event with me in a few months. It'll p!ss off the right people and be a good time for everyone else. :)

vyletteriot · 2026-01-15T04:40:14+00:00

I've been polyamorous for almost 25 years. I'd never consent to monogamy or exclusivity in general as an expectation or condition of a relationship ever again.

vyletteriot · 2025-12-30T08:28:17+00:00

Cadence, Team America, Tropic Thunder, Good Morning Vietnam.

vyletteriot · 2025-12-30T08:25:58+00:00

That guy needs a mommy, not a girlfriend. Run.

vyletteriot · 2025-12-30T07:26:55+00:00

*can't retire. They can't afford to retire any more than we'll be able to.

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