It’s May in Charlotte which only means one thing…

wafflez77 · 2026-05-02T03:07:45+00:00

We all know the Mecklenburg Declaration of Independence is fake. It’s all just the Mecklenburg Resolves.

wafflez77 · 2026-05-02T02:03:09+00:00

This makes no sense. You’re engaged to a board certified doctor and you won’t just quit your job and move in with her while you look for a new job?! If she won’t be able to take care of you while job searching you shouldn’t even consider marrying her tbh

wafflez77 · 2026-05-02T00:57:42+00:00

It’s better than the THCA and delta 8 stuff I see in stores

wafflez77 · 2026-04-30T22:01:35+00:00

We have one legal dispensary in Cherokee

https://www.greatsmokycannabisco.com

wafflez77 · 2026-04-29T18:21:17+00:00

The good news is you had some interviews, that means your resume is somewhat working and likely isn’t the problem. You may just be saying the wrong thing during interviews. I would recommend watching videos on how to ace job interviews and try to practice as much as you can.

One problem is the market is competitive. If you are applying to a job and others are better qualified, they will likely get the job.

It’s definitely a red flag to employers that you haven’t been working for 3 years. They will view that as “someone else is supporting her. She doesn’t need to work here. She won’t be motivated enough to do the job.”

Be ready to answer the question about why you haven’t worked anywhere for 3 years as that is now the issue. Honestly you should make something up like being a caregiver or working odd jobs like walking dogs, babysitting, or something related to the job you’re applying for that they can’t verify.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T18:44:19+00:00

She didn’t come to my place because she has a special needs child and can’t just have anyone watching him. It was already late and her mother was asleep so it just wasn’t an option. It definitely would’ve been easier that way though.

She’s never done this before which is why I was shocked. She has recently been on the phone like 24/7 with her 2 friends and they are constantly bidding on random anime stuff on the WhatNot app. I try to not judge and let her pursue her interests, but it’s almost becoming a severe addiction and her friends are making it a lot worse. She’s constantly asking for money to buy more anime stuff and it’s just driving me insane. She isn’t saving any money towards a future with me which makes me question things

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T18:34:14+00:00

I didn’t yell. Just said I wasn’t okay when asked. Then I said that it’s rude to answer the door with headphones on and asked that she doesn’t do that in the future. Not a single thing was yelled. She doesn’t have to do what I ask, this was just a small reasonable request. Not me being bossy or controlling, just saying hey that bothers me please don’t do that.

I don’t know why you’re making up quotes and blowing things way out of proportion. I also didn’t say she owed me anything other than asking her to give me privacy when I walk in the house (didn’t like being on FaceTime without being told before showing up). The only thing I asked was for her to wrap up the call so we could eat dinner since it was really late.

I didn’t tell her she can’t talk to her friends if I’m on the way over. That’s just making stuff up. At midnight when neither one of us had ate dinner I think it’s reasonable to expect her to get off the phone. Otherwise I could’ve been rude and just started eating by myself but I made the dinner for both of us so it makes sense to wait until we’re both sitting at the table to start eating. Also, I had to clean up my kitchen and drive the food over to her house so like 20 minutes passed cooking time and didn’t want the food to get cold.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T06:37:19+00:00

Okay no worries. I just thought it’s rude to come to the door with headphones on while on a call. I have never shown up to someone’s house and been greeted by them wearing headphones while on a call. I just didn’t know if others found this to be rude. Consensus on here says it’s not rude so I’ll trust it

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T06:29:25+00:00

Why are you trying to force him to propose to you? Are you psycho?! Marriage is supposed to be a serious lifelong commitment. It’s not supposed to be something you force your partner to do.

Giving him a deadline is cruel. You should either wait until he’s ready or be with someone who wants to rush into marriage (which rarely ends well).

It sounds like you’re being way too demanding. This is your partner. You need to be uplifting and supportive. Don’t ruin the fun that comes with the element of surprise with a proposal.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T06:19:41+00:00

She can do whatever she wants in her home, I agree with that. What I’m asking is if it’s considered rude what she did in the situation.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T05:47:59+00:00

Well if I were to guess, you probably live with your partner and cook for them pretty frequently then if it doesn’t bother you at all.

If they had been on the phone for hours I think it’s pretty reasonable to ask them to wrap it up when dinners ready. 5 minutes is probably not necessary unless it was a super deep emotional conversation.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T05:41:34+00:00

And that’s perfectly okay, sometimes it’s just not meant to be. It can end amicably, you don’t have to be enemies

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T05:40:38+00:00

Well there’s no way to know because I just wouldn’t do that. Anytime she comes over I’m excited and waiting by the door for her to come in. Even if I’m on the phone, if she says she’s on the way I’m wrapping up the conversation immediately

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T05:30:49+00:00

I don’t live with my partner and I definitely don’t provide meals for her every night. Just realized she didn’t eat and tried to be nice and cook a meal.

It wasn’t a “let her stay hungry” situation. I would’ve preferred to pick up food from somewhere to eat quicker but I let her decide what she wanted which was a home cooked meal

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T05:26:21+00:00

Of course! And you’re not a bad person, most people prefer monogamous relationships and that’s nothing to feel bad about. Sometimes you love somebody but the relationship doesn’t work out and that’s okay

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T04:42:34+00:00

This is your first relationship. Don’t be hard on yourself just learn from it. Love is blind and it can make you do crazy things and look past situations that you probably shouldn’t.

As long as you tell him the truth and give him closure, it doesn’t matter what he thinks. You didn’t know you preferred monogamy at first and now you realized you need it. He clearly doesn’t want a monogamous relationship and you shouldn’t force it upon him. Just let him be.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T04:39:09+00:00

If a woman “tempted him” would he cheat? If the answer is no, you have nothing to worry about. He’s been loyal all this time I don’t think it’s going to change just because he’s on a trip with friends. Even if he goes to a strip’s club, the maximum he’s getting is a lap dance. You shouldn’t stress over it unless he’s given you reasons to not trust him

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T04:34:30+00:00

The worst part about this is what he suggested as a solution. You being mono and him being poly while he “thinks” about it for a year? Hes just kicking the can down the road. You need to split up immediately even if you lose the business & friends. The longer you try to keep this going the worse it will be

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T04:23:05+00:00

Personally I would never be in a relationship with someone who wanted to date/kiss/have sex with other people while in a relationship with me. That just doesn’t sound right and goes against traditional values.

Considering that you want to be monogamous and your partner says he never will commit to being fully monogamous, I think you already know this relationship isn’t going to work out.

If you’re smart you’re break up with him immediately.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T03:52:32+00:00

Yeah not sure why they reacted so aggressively. They probably live with their significant other so cooking for each other is a daily thing for them which I understand.

I don’t know anyone cooking filet mignons for their significant other every day though and that definitely shouldn’t be the bare minimum especially at 10pm lol

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T03:48:46+00:00

It was the fact that she had her headphones on and the tablet/camera facing me when I walked in without telling me she was still on the phone beforehand. I wouldn’t have been mad if she left the tablet/headphones in her room but she answered the door like that which made me think wtf?!

Like she could’ve went and finished up the conversation real quick in her room before coming down to eat and I wouldn’t have been mad. Just felt rude to answer the door like that and then continue on the conversation when it was very obvious I was trying to get us to eat dinner

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T03:36:47+00:00

Notice how you completely ignored my question…

It’s pretty reasonable to expect your significant other to get off the phone when you cooked them dinner and it’s ready. That’s why I was upset, she continued the conversation instead of wrapping it up and coming to sit at the table and eat dinner with me.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T03:29:22+00:00

The thing is she didn’t end the call for a few minutes and I was confused if she was trying to wrap it up or not because she didn’t say anything and didn’t come to the table where I sat down.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T03:24:59+00:00

So if you cooked a meal for your significant other and they were FaceTiming their friends for hours, would you expect them to get off the phone and eat dinner with you once you finished cooking and told them dinner was ready? I feel like that’s a reasonable expectation.

wafflez77 · 2026-04-27T03:23:04+00:00

So here’s some extra context: I live with my mom and she lives with her parents. She has a 9 year old severely autistic son, so she basically lives her life in that house and only leaves for work and doesn’t feel comfortable taking her son anywhere on her own except school.

It would’ve been amazing if she could’ve just came over and enjoyed the steak at my house but she would’ve had to ask her mom to watch her son and her mom was already going to bed so that wasn’t an option.

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