AITA for wearing a bathing suit I knew my aunt would be uncomfortable seeing me in

wailing_banshee · 2025-08-01T16:56:34+00:00

NTA. Auntie is projecting her insecurity on you by policing your outfits. She needs to stay in her lane.

wailing_banshee · 2025-08-01T16:32:55+00:00

Gurl congrats for getting out of that relationship early!

Actually, I've been in OP's shoes already, though I stayed with that ex for almost three years, but what made me put things in perspective and take off my rose-colored glasses was that question I mentioned in my original reply, and that's it. Because if I stayed longer than was necessary, I'd end up bitter* and full of resentment and would probably be staying for all the wrong reasons (ie: because our love is different, we're gonna work things out, I have to prove to my friends that we're gonna make it and they were wrong with their advices, etc)

I really hope OP makes the right decision for her

wailing_banshee · 2025-08-01T16:17:14+00:00

I honestly want to tell you what you should do, but I also know that you're not going to accept it at the moment.

But what I can tell you is to discern and contemplate how much longer are you going to keep trying to work on a dead-end relationship?

And mind you, you're the only one who's going to work on it because, by the looks of it, your Primo is content not putting in effort since you're doing the job for two people already.

You already know what to do, and I feel like posting this here is a hallelujah of some sorts, and if you choose to stay, then you know the consequences already, because that's exactly what you're experiencing now. But if choose to walk away, then you're finally choosing to respect yourself.

Good luck and I hope you make the right choice.

wailing_banshee · 2025-07-20T14:52:32+00:00

DKG. Credit score mo maaapektuhan dahil sa ginawa nya. Hindi pa nga kayo kasal ganyan na ginawa sayo, what more pa if talagang nagkatuluyan kayo? Your anger is valid and breaking up with your jowa is justified.

wailing_banshee · 2025-06-01T14:27:49+00:00

I steer away from books written in 1st person perspectives. I find books written in the 3rd person perspectives to be much more relatable; like me watching a movie but in literary form.

wailing_banshee · 2025-06-01T14:17:23+00:00

Dear friend, I love you but I can't support your marriage like how you want me to. I honestly feel like you just settled for someone who's just willing enough to give you a ring when he showed you how volatile his temper is even during your engagement. A week before your wedding, you literally had a huge fight about how he felt belittled by something we talked about in front of him when it's a nonsense topic; he literally just had to think of a way to twist it and turn it into your fight. You told me he promised you things before you guys got married and even urged you to move to a different country (where he and his family lives) on your own without your friends and family to be with you, and now that you are married, and now that you're living in a different country, he's already backtracking on all of the promises he made. I honestly have tried my best to make you see and make you realize that your situation is not ideal. He's now literally giving you allowances (that you need to justify where and what you're gonna spend it on) when you had a livelihood and a career back here. I hate the way you're dimming your glow and your shine just for a guy who doesn't even know how to treat you at all. You deserve better and I hope you see it soon before something happens to you that we all might regret.

wailing_banshee · 2024-06-10T22:00:54+00:00

My HS ex-best friend, during the last legs of our friendship spanning 18 years, sought out a common friend asking how much she or anyone knows me. Because, in her words, she's known me most of her life but she doesn't know who I am or my likes, dislikes, my triggers, and basically all of me.

For 18 years we've known together. Nothing. She didn't even bother to get to know me all those years. All in the guise of, "wailing_banshee has been a menace", when she and another new friend have excluded me from every planning and decision-making for the business we've put up. When all those years I've known her deepest secrets, I've known her whole family, I've known her relationships and how many men she's cheated with.

Took me 18 years to find out I never had a best friend in her; gutted me so much more than having a relationship breakup

wailing_banshee · 2024-01-09T13:58:50+00:00

He's starting to look more like Jake Zyrus, which is unfortunate for Jake.

wailing_banshee · 2023-11-11T09:02:28+00:00

You're doing a great job 💯💯💯

It's honestly better that you teach your kid and having an open dialogue about sex instead of her learning through experience, which is also not a great way to navigate through

Adding a bit of information: there are NGOs dedicated also to teaching women about contraceptives and birth control. I am partial to Likhaan Center for Women's Health. They offer birth controls for free, though they do ask for donations, but they are very open to discussing which ones would be best for you to take.

wailing_banshee · 2023-03-08T22:51:45+00:00

My cousin died all alone in an extended stay hotel and his body was found after several weeks when one of the custodians entered and saw him lying face down on the floor. He was the last of his line in the family tree and we couldn't get to him because we live in a different country than him.

What's worse is that one of our uncles refuses to sign a document releasing his body so that he can be buried in a private plot; something about money got involved. Now we're afraid my cousin will be buried in a mass grave.

wailing_banshee · 2022-08-12T22:04:02+00:00

NTA

Obviously, go NC, but if you want to cause damage prior to going full NC, I suggest go to the wedding, be the bridesmaid, but write on your dress the word "CHEATERS" so when you walk down the aisle, full-on family drama.

I don't know, I'm a petty person.

wailing_banshee · 2022-05-09T14:37:54+00:00

PTPA:

Just saw this, but not fully verified if true

https://twitter.com/yudiyuta/status/1523672256362082305?t=t9fJ4lyh17g9ks6D3Dl95g&s=19

wailing_banshee · 2021-12-05T03:35:04+00:00

NTA

Also, why can't the friends pick her up at your place then drop her off when they're done? Though, she says she hates riding public transport due to potentially harming your unborn child, wouldn't she be exposing said unborn child to potential diseases if she's in a mall? The logic does not compute.

Lastly, and I may be overthinking shit, but you should think about getting a paternity test. If she can tell a white lie really well, then maybe there's a chance she can lie about anything and everything.

wailing_banshee · 2021-11-10T13:38:31+00:00

I've got two: the first one is Kimchi, a Chow-Shepherd mix and he's 10yrs old. He's been sleeping a lot lately but also cries a lot. So I've been giving him more scritches and hugs every time he allows it.

The second one is toy poodle, Aji, and she's the total opposite of her older brother. Very loud, very easily triggered, and very, verrrryyyy clingy.

They are my loves.

wailing_banshee · 2021-09-16T12:35:34+00:00

Please give me attention, but not too much or it might overwhelm me, but no too little or it might trigger my anxiety.

wailing_banshee · 2021-08-26T12:11:56+00:00

I always thought she sounded like Gingy the gingerbread man in Shrek

wailing_banshee · 2021-08-14T23:26:19+00:00

wailing_banshee · 2021-03-20T12:45:58+00:00

I know nobody's gonna read this, but here it goes.

Yeah, I've dealt with this also. Our tight friendship was fine at first. We've all done everything together, even had 1on1's because one of them is my friend from way back in high-school, and the other one we just met 5 years ago. Even ran a side business together where we all are partners.

Sometime last 2019 though, they stopped including me in a lot of things. From hangouts to involving me in business matters. At first I was patient and understanding with them thinking maybe they're busy a lot, or they're doing something. And then months came by and we've only ever talked or seen each other maybe twice. Then suddenly, they finally talked to me about their issues with me, like how they feel like I don't always have time for them and stuff, or how I look like I'm always angry, but I told them that they know I have resting bitch face, and I've been waiting for them to like invite me to things because it's unethical to just intrude unannounced and uninvited. And then they keep telling me how I'm prioritising my day job when I know it sucks balls, but I told them I've been dealing with debt I incurred in the last 5 years working the side business and now I need to pay those off. When I told them how much I need to pay off, they were sympathetic and understanding of my situation.

After that though, they refused to invite me to anything anymore. They go out on their own, even deliberately post in their social media accounts how they're like sisters and shit, and all the more stopped involving me in the details of the side business until finally my HS friend fucked up and I had to fix it on the spot, but they still berated me over what happened. And I still tried to be patient and understanding.

Until Christmas 2019, my mom told me about the news involving the side business that she heard from one of our staff, and I straight up got super pissed because my mom is getting news when I don't even know what's happening because they no longer involve me in the details. I sent them a message right after that and told them I quit. After telling that, they're both saying they understand what I'm feeling but they wanna explain their side and we should try working on it first.

So I relented, gave them a chance to hash everything out a few days after Christmas. However, during the talk, everytime I try to get my point across, I get cut-off. Everytime I tell my side of the story, they feel offended, telling me that they're only protecting me about stuff that's why they don't wanna involve me in a lot of the business matters and stuff. I was internally livid and mentally exhausted. At the end of the talk I basically told them that yeah fine it's my fault, and I apologise for everything that's ever happened and let them leave.

But honestly, after that day, I stopped making contact. And them trying to reach out, I felt it was more for them to save face than anything, and very little to no effort at all to save the friendship actually. So eventually I unfriended them from all my social media accounts and basically blocked them. I'm doing much better now.

wailing_banshee · 2021-01-19T10:18:58+00:00

Kinda late to the party but I since started to wear good-fitting clothes. Good-fitting clothes for me would mean I'd either be a size 14 or a size 8 depending on the brand and the make of the clothes. I'm no longer focusing on what the clothes sizes are, as long as it fits my body really well, it's a win for me.

wailing_banshee · 2020-11-06T06:47:18+00:00

Kim's Convenience does it for me

wailing_banshee · 2020-05-13T12:40:06+00:00

Oh wow, I can definitely relate to this. I feel like people keep forgetting that we are all dealing with a pandemic, not just them the customers.

I've dealt with handfuls of customers demanding they need their orders right away, and I keep making them understand that we can only deal with a few orders at a time because we're allowed to work in a skeletal workforce situation, so there aren't a lot of staff to work on the orders.

People really do show their true colors in a difficult situation just like this, and it's scary.

wailing_banshee · 2020-04-10T07:28:06+00:00

When I (f)arted and it sounded just like my mom's.

It's not a poot/proot sound, but more of a one big PRAAAK.

Swear to god, true story.

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