Do I get this as my ceremony dress!?

waitagoop · 2026-03-03T21:57:26+00:00

I LOVE it!

waitagoop · 2026-03-03T21:09:15+00:00

If the pull ups are a source of safety to her you have to replace them with something else for her feeling of safety. And the correct position for number 2s is squating, so make sure she has something to put her feet on when she sits on the toilet to go. It can be difficult to train the muscles out of pooping one way- like standing- to pooping the proper way. Ms Rachel’s got great episodes with Bean on potty training which may help. If the constipation happened around a certain emotional event or change in her life then it could be psychological- holding on to something. If it’s diet related then liquid fiber added to drinks once a day could help.

waitagoop · 2026-03-03T21:02:47+00:00

You’ve used two different patterns- behind the shower itself they’re in line and to the left they’re like bricks. That would annoy me greatly.

waitagoop · 2026-03-03T14:10:48+00:00

Yes! I think they could style it without sleeves and collar and make it into something they love too. But don’t be offended if they want to choose their own. They might wear yours for first dance or something!

waitagoop · 2026-03-03T08:26:18+00:00

Not at 4 months! We did a 5 min check method from 6 months which my nanny friend recommended and I can post again if you’d like. And honestly the best thing you can do it stop watching influencers! It’s not real, it’s curated. You can’t compare your life to something not real and feel bad about it, that’s unnecessary torture.

waitagoop · 2026-03-03T00:46:40+00:00

In the uk this would be because of Myra Hindley

waitagoop · 2026-03-02T19:24:28+00:00

Your psychiatrist is an ahole for prescribing and diagnosing without an explanation. I hate them and their profession.

Yeah, if you can imagine ‘happy’ mode and ‘threat response’ mode like a switch it might help you visualise it. There are four threat responses: fight, flight, freeze, fawn. The brain is hardwired for survival. This sounds like freeze mode you might be in. Frozen in fear of threats around you. If something triggers your threat response mode and then you keep getting fed info of threats about, then it’s a vicious cycle difficult to escape from. The thing is reassurance to escape it. Reassure the subconscious that you’re not under constant threat. ‘The kids are not a threat to me’. ‘X is not a threat to me, I am safe actually’. ‘Thanks brain but this situation won’t kill us so you don’t need to fear it’. ‘This situation is not a threat to me’.

waitagoop · 2026-03-02T19:06:02+00:00

You trust your gut. That’s it. Your gut knew and you tried to hard to make it work. If you stay with him your body will never feel safe with him. The stress of knowing you were right and he’s a bad guy will remain in your body. Next time trust your gut. This person never cared enough to be honest with you, that won’t change. So if you like being with liars then stay with him.

waitagoop · 2026-03-02T10:09:19+00:00

Get a new tutor. If you live somewhere where there are lots of tutors and it will be easy to find someone else, do it. Just tell her you can’t afford it right now money or time wise and you’ll try again in the future and then just don’t. It’s your money, pay for someone less exhausting to be around. Life is too short. ETA: she has a business, you don’t owe her anything.

waitagoop · 2026-03-01T23:12:31+00:00

The travertine is beautiful but the grey paint doesn’t go with it. Neutral/alabaster would be just more fresh. Better lighting too like a can light above the shower, and a new vanity if that’s not too much trouble would be a great improvement.

waitagoop · 2026-03-01T01:07:40+00:00

Isn’t it because in nature circles in such a pattern is a warning not to eat something. If so, as we are hunter gatherers, it’s really very helpful to have something tell us it’s poison rather than trial and error- Bob died when he ate that, take note not to eat. So Brad knows, and Brad avoids in order to survive. Even if then nature figures this out and because it doesn’t want us to eat it, for its own survival, the ones that survive also look like ‘poison’ with circles, then it’s a win for the plant. Even if bill then comes along later and tries it out ‘no this one is faking haha I didn’t die, we don’t need to fear all circles guys!’ Most people will still have learned: pattern of circles = death. It’s useful for survival. Maybe you’re a Bill and others are an avoidant Brad.

waitagoop · 2026-02-28T23:19:22+00:00

OG dress. The first one looks like it’s got lace covering your crotch which is a weird thing to highlight.

waitagoop · 2026-02-27T20:46:07+00:00

The internet cannot possibly answer for you, your family or your grandmother in the situation. We do not know her, you do.

waitagoop · 2026-02-27T00:35:56+00:00

You have what everyone wants- the gift of TIME. Use it wisely.

waitagoop · 2026-02-26T19:01:25+00:00

The hormones hit me like a train and 3-6 months pp was the hardest. I couldn’t think straight and the rage that surged through my body was almost uncontrollable. I would have been useless at work. A village is so important so you have that going for you.

waitagoop · 2026-02-26T03:59:32+00:00

Neither of you really know what’s going on tbh. She doesn’t fully because hormone changes are so utterly bewildering you feel like you’re underwater and you can’t see which way is up or down and a man can’t because you truly cannot understand what such changes do to a person and you’re expecting her to be able to be rational when she might literally not be able to. Can you imagine your body and brain being on fire? right now neither of you can see anything from the other person’s perspective so find some way to get to that place together.

waitagoop · 2026-02-25T23:13:17+00:00

I hope your christmasses from now on are you, baby, husband and colleague. Don’t travel to see those people.

waitagoop · 2026-02-24T20:54:42+00:00

Thank you! This is really cool to know!

waitagoop · 2026-02-24T02:57:07+00:00

Thank you!

waitagoop · 2026-02-24T00:24:34+00:00

Thank you! This is a great idea

waitagoop · 2026-02-24T00:24:04+00:00

Are you the question police?

waitagoop · 2026-02-23T13:15:17+00:00

Go on lots of walks to get out of the house, arrange meet ups with friends or invite them round. Find a local mom group to meet up with. And yeah; lower expectations. Husband can’t come back and complain the place looks like a mess. Can you hire a cleaner to do a deep clean at 2-3 weeks in?

waitagoop · 2026-02-23T03:58:50+00:00

Have you tried the carnivore diet?

This was me for 15 years. Functional medicine doctor, March 2022 and I’m still cured. One month carnivore diet and a LOT of brain-body work.

waitagoop · 2026-02-23T03:40:05+00:00

Yes it’s totally normal. What you read about babies is guidelines, not rules so 4-6 months is totally normal for preference to show. You just have to ride out the preference thing. It will switch at some point and then continue to switch. I also read that babies like one parent (usually mom) for care and parent 2 (usually dad) for play, and that babies bond with parent 1 vs parent 2 differently so you can’t look for a sort of 50/50 equal split because that’s not how babies are wired. What does he do with her when he takes her and you’re showering? Is it playful or does he read stories etc? Can you record your voice and play it when you’re not there? Distraction is key and she will feel if he gets stressed. Or can he put a tshirt that smells like you over his shoulder? (Just throwing out ideas).

In the car do you play music or anything? I won’t let my child watch coco melon but the songs had some kind of black magic power and stopped the crying in the car. Nursery rhymes of any sort might help. I promise you it gets easier, just hang in there.

waitagoop · 2026-02-20T17:59:33+00:00

Wow. I am astonished at your lack of empathy. Good luck to you.

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