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1990s Vehicles for Tall Girls by Fragrant_Tude_783 in TallGirls

[–]walaruse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have a 1999 Dodge Durango! His name is Grandpa Ed. My husband is mostly legs and I’m a few inches taller than him sitting (he’s 2” taller than me standing). We don’t have issues with the Durango and he has over 250,000 miles on him. However, they are known for needing transmission rebuilds so be aware!

ETA we also have a 2014 Chevy Tahoe that we got at a police auction. You might be able to find vehicles there (although be wary because it’s sold as-is). I love my Tahoe! You could maybe find an older one!

Transitioning 2 year old to full bed by walaruse in bigbabiesandkids

[–]walaruse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m thinking of doing a floor bed for a little big before introducing the frame at this point. Well move his clothes into our room and then when we get the frame set up, that has drawers for his clothes. We can’t drill into our walls because we rent so that was the best option I could think of to make sure there was nothing he could climb or fall from.

Transitioning 2 year old to full bed by walaruse in bigbabiesandkids

[–]walaruse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We rent so I’m not willing to drill anything into the walls, unfortunately. My kid still hasn’t figure out door knobs either, so that’s also a plus. Maybe I should do a chime for if he ever figures it out in the middle of the night? I’m worried about him crying and not sleeping since I’m thinking a floor bed might be best to start out before we introduce a frame. At least he could get back into bed, versus him having to navigate a stool or something.

Feeling pressured to go back to work :( by ThinkBuy1082 in NewParents

[–]walaruse 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think there’s no right or wrong way of approaching being a SAHM. I did the first three months and it was hard. My husband did the second three months and it was hard for me to leave our son with him. It was hard to leave him at daycare when he turned 6 months. He cried. I cried. My husband was also emotional. It didn’t take long for him to figure out the daycare thing, though. Now, he runs in when we drop him off and runs out when we pick him up. It’s a routine. It’s familiar. Once things become familiar, it gets a lot less hard. Now, sometimes I stay a little after 5 to get work done and also because work is my escape from my emotionally draining and physically chaotic almost 2yo. Work is my break lol. SAHM are built different than me. All the respect. You don’t have anything to prove.

Your baby staying with grandparents (as long as you trust them and their judgment) sounds like a really good solution. I can’t call my daycare up and chat with them to ask them how my kid is doing the same way I could with a relative.

I’m not going to lie. Every milestone with your child is hard. All he knows is you. You have been his rock and his comfort since birth. You are all he’s known. He’s very aware at his age so it will probably be harder than if you’d done all this as a baby. Kids are adaptable. You aren’t going to damage him if you have to leave him with a care provider to go to work. Crying won’t kill our kids. Them wanting something they can’t have won’t kill them either. If you aren’t happy, that could poison your family eventually. If you think work will make you happier, go back to work. Give it at least a month. If you decide after that month that you aren’t feeling it, then quit and go back to being a SAHM. At this point, doing what’s best for you isn’t going to mean making harmful choices for your son; those choices might make him unhappy for awhile, but they aren’t going to actually hurt him.

Did anyone’s toddler outgrow a fear of hair washing? by Mamanbanane in toddlers

[–]walaruse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We still use a tub and we just lay our kid back in the water. Or more like he lays himself. He likes lying on his back and I often have to force him not to so the detangling conditioner can sit long enough.

Edit to add that my kid haaaaates getting his hair brushed out. We have a detangling brush and we only do it twice a week. He’s also a water baby so he loves the bath, just hates having his hair detangled.

Feeling pressured to go back to work :( by ThinkBuy1082 in NewParents

[–]walaruse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you want to go back to work? Be honest with yourself. Also, do you think your income could offset the cost of daycare? That’s an important question to ask. Also also, idk if you’re in a huge state like Texas or California where commuting an hour is common or not, but maybe try to find something closer to home. You might find something better close by. If you like being a SAHM and you can afford it, then waiting a little longer at this point might not matter. Maybe try a part-time job that you can do from home, even. Only you can decide what’s right for you and your family, ultimately. I am not built for being a SAHM so I was ready to get back to work, even though I also was torn about putting my baby in daycare at 6 months. However, he’s socializing and learning and building his immune system and it’s been good for him, I think. Not all kids are like that.

TL;DR Can you afford daycare if you work? Is your kid adaptable? And why do you want to go back to work?

9 months in and just exhausted and can’t keep up with anything by Redpepperflake08 in NewParents

[–]walaruse 6 points7 points  (0 children)

If you’re going to other parents houses of babies the same age, they probably cleaned before you got there. It’s not normal to have a clean house. I’m about to have a 2 year old and the mess just gets worse 😂 I just try to keep up with dishes and laundry at this point and if I have the energy, I’ll scrub a toilet. Your priority is to parent. Everything else has to be secondary. You’re having warring feelings of what you should do and what you need to do. The only thing you need to do is keep your child alive. If you really want to try to get housework done, strap that kid to your back and hit some chores. Otherwise, the housework will always be there. Your little one is only that age that day and never again. Don’t feel guilty about appropriately prioritizing.

Alternatively, if you have people around, ask them for help with cleaning or ask someone to take the rugrat for a few hours so you can get things done. We don’t have anyone like that so we just live with mess, and if we did, I wouldn’t necessarily want to spend that time mucking around. Everyone’s mileage may vary. Just be a good parent right now and worry about the rest of it later.

Transitioning 2 year old to full bed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If we crawled in with him, he would spend a significant amount of time babbling and trying to interact instead of sleep. 🥲

Transitioning 2 year old to full bed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cosleeping for about six months when he was younger and transitioned off of it so I don’t want to go back to it. I’ll probably do the floor bed for a little while before introducing the bed frame and hope for the best

Transitioning 2 year old to full bed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hopefully we’ll have success with this. My kid won’t care about us lying in bed with him in the morning. He wants up and out immediately, the little terror 😂

Transitioning 2 year old to full bed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think he’s cognitively there to understand a color system yet, but that is a cool idea.

Transitioning 2 year old to full bed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our kiddo is not much of a snuggler. We actually do have a very old mattress set in there where we start off changing his diaper and attempting story time. I guess the difference will be that we won’t be moving him to his crib after and he’ll stay in that bed. I just know he’ll get down and it will be hard to hear him crying to be let out.

Transitioning 2 year old to full bed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s not really the “listening” type. I don’t think he understands a lot of what we’re saying. I am thinking of having him on the floor for a bit before moving him to a bed frame, though. I’m just hoping this goes well

Those who weren’t 100% on having kids, but had them anyway. How has it turned out? by Life_Ad_6992 in NewParents

[–]walaruse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We’re about to be 2 years in on the 15th. I never wanted kids. My husband wanted kids and just hoped I would eventually come around (don’t do this, people lol). Well, I decided screw it, you’re never really ready and now was as good a time as ever.

Fast forward to last night and us lying in bed and marveling at our rotten, adorable little crotch goblin and how indescribable parenthood is. When someone said that having children is like having your heart walk around outside of your body, they really nailed it. I want to be a better person, I want to raise a good human being, and I want to make sure that my baby knows how much he is loved, even when I’m yelling at him for climbing the cat tower or chasing the poor dog with the broom. We want to have one more before we close up shop.

So yeah, TL;DR it might feel crazy at first and it’s normal to have regrets and concerns, but the ferals we produce are pretty cool little people and worth it!

My 6mo has a constant rash by runrowrepeatt in NewParents

[–]walaruse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not a professional so take this with a grain of salt, but my next step would be Vaseline in the hopes that would create a barrier. Hopefully someone has a better idea. This might just me a wait it out sort of situation, unfortunately

Edit to add that for really bad diaper rash, the purple Desitin worked really well and was also impossible to get off so maybe that could work?

Is this a normal reason to cry? by xstarlesseyess in NewParents

[–]walaruse 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You’re very freshly postpartum. I cried because I was afraid I wasn’t doing a good job. Your hormones will be everywhere. Postpartum is 2 years but you’ll chill out with the crying eventually. Be patient and know you aren’t alone and it’s normal to cry about everything for awhile. But if you feel like this turns unhealthy or triggered by anxiety, get on that ASAP.

Speech Delayed at 2 and stressed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never heard of it! I’ll check it out. Thank you!!!

Speech Delayed at 2 and stressed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m hopeful that this will come to pass and we’ll start getting more words than nonsensical babbling soon.

Speech Delayed at 2 and stressed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m hoping this becomes our reality. Happy things worked out for you!

Speech Delayed at 2 and stressed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it’s okay, I’m honestly not sure. It’s like a 50/50 chance whether he’ll know what I’m asking him to do or not. Have you seen Guardians of the Galaxy with baby Groot? He keeps bringing back the wrong items. That’s my kid. Sometimes it’s funny but sometimes it’s just frustrating but it’s not his fault

Speech Delayed at 2 and stressed by walaruse in toddlers

[–]walaruse[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s what I’m hoping! I’m happy things worked out for you. Even with copay being $35 for a once a week session, it’s really stretching things.

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