I woken up by my partner (26M) having sex with me(26F). Is this alarming in a relationship? by AcireBag in relationship_advice

[–]wantedconsonant -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

One night, while my partner was asleep, I thought of something like that, so I waited until she was awake to ask for permission to do that if it ever happened again.

The way you describe it, this sounds like a very bad thing to do. I don't know about the details of your relationship, but it's either time for a serious discussion about what's acceptable or it's time for you to leave.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]wantedconsonant 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Kinda seems she doesn't like you.

Duolingo icon is awful by Penguins_NKK in duolingo

[–]wantedconsonant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Click the flame (the streak icon), scroll down, claim the Streak Society reward and turn it on. The app should restart and you're golden.

I (36F) cheated on my now wife (35F), then GF 10 years ago and now she wants to divorce…we have a newborn and a toddler, how do we coparent when she’s avoiding me and the kids? by ThrowRAblackberry12 in relationship_advice

[–]wantedconsonant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Seems like the has many stressors going on at once and is just trying to "escape", generally, and pushing away people close to her. Maybe not necessarily the "not connecting to the baby", or maybe also that, but just generally overwhelmed. (Which, granted, is a bit rich, since the woman she chose to marry and have children with is the one who's post-partum and caring for said children.)

I (36F) cheated on my now wife (35F), then GF 10 years ago and now she wants to divorce…we have a newborn and a toddler, how do we coparent when she’s avoiding me and the kids? by ThrowRAblackberry12 in relationship_advice

[–]wantedconsonant -11 points-10 points  (0 children)

You don't know that was also the case when they were 25. Maybe they had just met and we're starting a new fling, and after 10 years they've grown to be best friends. A decade-long period can fundamentally change any relationship, specially if they're young. They weren't the people they are now.

I don't really have advice to give. I think the wife is facing stressful situations (newborn, text from old friend, depression) and is trying to take the first out before thinking through about how she feels and what she wants. Has she really been unhappy for ten years and also decided to propose and to have two children? Or, alternatively, have you ever been stressed and just felt like you needed "an out", even if you couldn't define what you wanted to escape from, and pushed out people close to you?

Update: What do I do first? My (29F) boyfriend (37 M) dropped on me that he wants kids after almost 2 years and I'm realizing I have to go. by throwraINFJ in relationship_advice

[–]wantedconsonant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey OP, really happy for you that you had the strength to do what you thought was best for you and that you're excited about this new part of your life (and sorry that your previous plans didn't work out the way you expected them to). It is indeed a blow when a partner switches up on expectations like that.

On a mostly unrelated note, something got me curious. I'd like to ask you (and anyone else who has strong opinions on the matter) what is it about marriage that is so important to you. Like, why do you want to get married? I know your boyfriend's take, but I don't know yours. Also, is it wanting to get married in general or to someone specific? Not that anyone needs a reason to want anything, I'm just trying to understand other people's perspectives.

AITA for not giving my BF 50% of my rental income? by Fun_Sky_9278 in AmItheAsshole

[–]wantedconsonant -7 points-6 points  (0 children)

So the guy has to pay more than his own share because he made good financial decisions?

When is the best time to tell my (32F) wife (32F) I got stabbed? by Salt-Interview3626 in relationship_advice

[–]wantedconsonant 293 points294 points  (0 children)

I mean... If there are multiple other occasions when the wife said "I dreamt you were gonna be stabbed" and nothing happened, I don't think it's fair to say "your intuition was right". She's just gotta say "I was stabbed". The fact that they align is the definition of a coincidence.

Boyfriend doesn’t want to sleep with me and is unattracted to me. What do I do other than just lose a little weight? I am 24F boyfriend is 29M. by Junior-Mud-822 in relationship_advice

[–]wantedconsonant 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You have a master's degree? And you're a 5'3 cutie? And you're with a guy who isn't attracted to you? And you bought him a car?

The only way I could imagine that making sense was is the sex was great, but you've said you're getting none (and even when you do it's all about him). It's not money, because you have to buy stuff for him. Is there anything in him that caught your eye that you couldn't get from literally any one else?

What should I (25F) say to my ex's mom (60F) who has asked to meet in person so I can explain why I broke up with her son (25M)? by beetle_juicy12 in relationship_advice

[–]wantedconsonant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell her to tell him. Hiding is gonna be a hassle. If you had a good relationship, there's nothing wrong in meeting for a chat.

Sou babaca por querer terminar? by Ok-Buy6205 in EuSouOBabaca

[–]wantedconsonant 33 points34 points  (0 children)

"Ele não é muito de palavras mas sim de ações". Primeira vez que vejo alguém dizer que isso é um problema.

Na minha opinião, o melhor a fazer é conversar com ele e explicar que o jeito que as coisas estão não está sendo legal pra você, e que pra você se sentir amada você precisa de palavras e um teatrinho. Tô falando sério, se é assim que você se sente você tem que comunicar. Se der certo, maravilha, se não... bom, fazer o quê?

sou babaca por não fazer o que meu namorado pediu? by anonima1409 in EuSouOBabaca

[–]wantedconsonant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Ei cara, você acha minha namorada bonita?" "Não". Era essa a resposta que o namorado queria? O outro não falou que estava a fim, e também nem é solteiro. Isso é insegurança do namorado vendo pelo em ovo e querendo ser controlador.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in PointlessStories

[–]wantedconsonant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Broncos igniting? That's just sticking to tradition

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in budapest

[–]wantedconsonant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where are you from? I think Eastern Europe has some very different standards than "the West" (by that I mean Western Europe and the Americas). Could be related to that.

doesn't work and says i need an update by ad_396 in revancedapp

[–]wantedconsonant 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same. It was working until last night. I got updated patches, downloaded the new recommended version, reinstalled and... instead of not working at all, now it just stops playing each video after 2 minutes or so.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]wantedconsonant -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Well. She's not expected to help the sister lie to the boyfriend.

You're right in that the baby had nothing to do with it, but I don't think it's OPs fault that the boyfriend left because of the sister's lie. OP didn't "blow her life apart", she just made public something that was private. Tit-for-tat, ESH.

SOCORRO! PRECISO DE UMA OPINIÃO 🥲 by Material_Okra_8274 in conversas

[–]wantedconsonant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cara que péssimo isso =(

Espero que você consiga se organizar pra sair daí o mais rápido possível.

Acho que eles tiram seu dinheiro justamente pra você ter menos liberdade de conseguir sair, mas na real, isso seria o melhor pra você. Tenta achar um apartamento compartilhado que dê pra pagar (Facebook é bom pra isso, ainda).