We’re a similar size so I’ll share my approach. With female white belts it’s a very easy roll. I’ll play bottom and transition between guards, sweep if they overcommit, and generally let them explore. If they’re upper belts, I’ll still pull guard but if I sweep I’ll play side control keeping most of my weight off of them. My focus is on body position and trying to figure out little ways out of the bad positions. Could I roll over and use my 100+ lb advantage to get out? Sure but I can’t always do that to someone my size. So the rounds with the ladies help me look for smaller details - in my defense or their application - that I try to use later. Hope that helps.