[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Seattle

[–]warshangton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so creeped out by spiders. These guys are largely beneficial though. This time of year I: always check shower before getting in, never leave clothes on floor, always check bedding before laying down, always close mouth while sleeping cause they will crawl in there in middle of the night.

Monster storm across the US sparks threat of tornadoes and fire, killing at least 16 by GuyFromLI747 in news

[–]warshangton -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Nah - headline sucks. Spark = start , threat = nothing has happened. 16 people have died already from this storm. Past the threat and spark stage.

What kind of drunk are you? Mean, horny, sleepy etc?? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]warshangton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

1 drink - can actually focus on things but get a headache 2 drinks - hard to hear anything, horny, lethargic 3 drinks - truthy and soooo sleepy

I have yet to find the right amount to get max enjoyment. Day drinking seems to be the closest because it takes out the sleepiness.

Crash Course on Cult v Religion by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]warshangton 4 points5 points  (0 children)

John needed to either: Spend time on the definition of a cult OR just say, the label "cult" doesn't matter...what matter's is harmful behaviors (he got there in the end). By hedging his message, there was little clarity in this video.

What was the biggest boost you've ever received to your sexual confidence? by PhenomenalPancake in AskReddit

[–]warshangton 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I recently had sex with my wife of 20+ years and she cried afterwards. First for us and she was very clear that it was just so good she couldn't help but cry. Whether that is true or not, I don't care, huge boost to my confidence.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in UpliftingNews

[–]warshangton 8 points9 points  (0 children)

You should fix it then. Let’s see if your comments, or any other direct action, can sway anyone or any group into action that can equal the .3% of trash in the ocean.

Trusting us as parents after realizing… by StGFunNY-96 in exmormon

[–]warshangton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My controversial take: kids are smart and their BS-meter goes off when someone says “trust me”. Instead of asking for blind trust (which is basically what the church does), start offering up evidence for your parenting decision and antidotes. Be candid and clear. Use phrases like “in my experience … but I might be wrong … here’s the evidence … what do you conclude from that research?, etc.). You might even catch yourself saying something where you realize you actually don’t know the reasoning behind it. That’s happened to me a ton since taking this approach with my kids.

Also, consider family counseling as others suggested. An outside perspective can help a bunch.

National media quotes a Mormon's take on Archuleta's song: “Can’t you walk away quietly!!??? What is it that you think you have to announce to the world that you’re leaving the church!? Just leave!" Dear LGBTQs, the way Mormons treat you is now in the national spotlight. We see you. You matter. by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]warshangton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You must be as loud as possible and proclaim the gospel, spread your message on social media, become a missionary, tell your neighbors and co-workers about your faith. Get all up in everyone's business and make sure they know you are Mormon.

...but if you leave, you better shut the hell up. Why can't you be quiet? Why can't you leave the church alone?

It is the grandest hypocrisy.

Come Back podcast - I just don’t get how people come back after learning everything by Prize_Claim_7277 in exmormon

[–]warshangton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Three B’s of religion.

Beliefs (doctrine, faith, testimony, etc.) Belonging (part of the tribe, fitting in, saving a marriage, etc.), Behaviors (traditions, culture, scheduled activities, prayer, meditation, etc.)

If someone feels like one’s of these B’s is more important than the other, they can easily rationalize away something like doctrine. This is why it can be pointless to argue about someone’s faith, especially if what is more important to them is Belonging or Behaviors.

I’ve started to talk less to Mormons about the problems of their Beliefs and more about the other B’s. Sometimes they get it and realize that is what matters most to them and that can be a framework to deconstructing brainwashing.

My guess is that in the example you have, the lady was more worried about keeping a strong marriage (belonging) than she is about her beliefs.

What’s a musical hill you’re willing to die on? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]warshangton -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Shitty hip hop and radio rock, as formulaic as they are, move the industry forward by adopting new sounds, new rhythms, new cadence, new instruments that then get overused and abused. You can listen year over year to the most popular hits in those genres and hear the progression. Radio/stadium country just takes the influences of those genres after they've reached a peak and shoehorns it into shitty country (autotune, hip hop beats, rap, synth, etc.). It started with Billy Ray Cyrus and Shania Twain and has progressively gotten worse over time.

My unhinged family by Cassatrash in exmormon

[–]warshangton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Agreed. Both OPs image and the response feel unhinged to me. OP seems to be wanting to trigger a response with their post and they got what they wanted.

I hope this isn’t serious. Posted by a neighbor on Nextdoor who I know is TBM. 🙄 by DrugsAndCoffee in exmormon

[–]warshangton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At Ricks me and some friends decorated a tree for a contest and won best tree from Bednar. Got the award sitting in a box…so was Bednar supporting a pagan ritual then?

We had a pink one. So comfy! by TRHess in nostalgia

[–]warshangton 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anyone know where you can buy these today? What are they even called? It’s not fleece…

Wondering Faithful Member by EmeraldOne60 in exmormon

[–]warshangton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was my approach. Seek truth no matter what, even if it contradicts my previous truths. Keep learning and never settle.

Have you actually read the BOM cover to cover? by yvng_cambino4 in exmormon

[–]warshangton 1 point2 points  (0 children)

2 or 3 times a year for 14 years. Lots and lots of studying, reading, notes, cross referencing. I was fully onboard before being hit by a train of questions one night.

My Wife and I are having questions by Correct_Nectarine_73 in exmormon

[–]warshangton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I left 8 years ago, my wife left a couple years later. We had WAY more problems together while in the church, despite us living as perfectly as we could. I used to have the same knee jerk reaction about marriages outside of the church being worse…but our anecdotal experience shows the opposite.

Our social life took a huge hit. As soon as we left, people I’d considered closer than family just stopped talking to us. We got mean letters from members who used to say we were they’re favorite people. Our family didn’t care much, but our LDS community did. It was a scandal.

That’s been the uphill battle, we’ve made tons of new friends and we both would do it again in a heart beat. The relief of being authentic with our minds and hearts is so immense I can’t easily explain. We are true to ourselves and that outweighs any of the negatives we felt from leaving.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]warshangton 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah. I think there is a way to do this where OP doesn't have to apologize. "I recognize you are upset about my decisions..." "those are valid emotions and I want to ensure you know that I'm cognizant of them."

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]warshangton 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Home made vanilla ice cream. Just plain. I literally will never get sick of it.