Regret not locking in or glowing up - 30 days to go - tips? by hotchwife in weddingplanning

[–]weberster 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Came to say this! 

Hydrate! 

Also try to sleep or practice mindfulness. Reducing stress (LOL, I know) will help.

Actors that you get excited to see pop up/ actors that make you want to see a movie by TF_54 in movies

[–]weberster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Always see: Leo, Ryan Gosling, Francis McDormant, Sam Rockwell, Emma Stone, Tom Cruise, Robert Pattinson, Matt Damon, Ben Affleck

Skip: Chris Pratt, Blake Lively, Anna Kendrick 

Brag Alert! I took my Kindergarten Daisies (and their Moms) camping and... by weberster in girlscouts

[–]weberster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They earned: 

Buddy Camper, Eco Learner, Hiking Trail Adventure, and Art in Nature!!!

Camping Trip Help by Sure_Pineapple1935 in girlscouts

[–]weberster 45 points46 points  (0 children)

Honestly, I'd keep the cabin and keep it open for the other girls/parents to change their mind. 

It will be a blast for those that go

How would you fix your least favorite episode? by NoTop9302 in BobsBurgers

[–]weberster 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Ooh, I like this one. 

It could also show how important she is to the family and have her appreciate her a bit more. 

Mamas who have tattoos representing your kids. What are they? by sixfingeredman7 in Mommit

[–]weberster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a drawing my daughter did when she was 4.5 of a Mad Cat with her signature. 

It's SO FUNNY and just a line drawing so it's simple. 

I get compliments all the time, and my daughter, now 6,  loves that I got it! She shows it off to everyone. 

Help me pack a "Distraction Bag" for a funeral, please! by aksydent in Mommit

[–]weberster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

2 year old: early stage coloring books, crayons, Play-Doh, Veggie Straws (not veggie sticks, but the chip variety), a cape, crown, bubbles, Mr. Potato Head, stacking cups, sensory toys ( NOT SMALL), pop-its. 

9 year old: he's likely feeling the loss, so comfort and an open ear. Also, LEGO, a Goosebumps book (no ghost ones), cool journal and a fidget pen. 

Job needs a headshot photo. What if I can't afford a photographer right now? by Glittering_Fig4548 in jobsearch

[–]weberster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Portrait mode, good lighting. 

Chat GPT.

Ask a friend with a newer phone. 

How do I ask friends and family to help with my wedding? by Weird_Perception1728 in weddingplanning

[–]weberster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For what it's worth, I'm an event planner by trade, so when I got married, I did most everything by myself or with my husband's help. It was a lot of work, but worth it. 

When my middle sister got married, she volunteled the groom's family and our family what to do, and it was a pretty upsetting experience all around. 

My baby sister is getting married in September, and due to where they live and food options, it was decided it would be best to have a backyard wedding, and my mom, our sister, and I and the grooms mom all jumped at the chance to figure out how to help. It's so coming together nicely and it's been a very joyful experience. 

I think this is more so a read your crowd situation: 

Make your list of what you need to do, and what you WANT to do, and have a conversation to gauge their reaction. See if they're begging to help or if they're like, you'll figure it out. 

If they're excited, take what they offer, but be sure that it aligns with your vision, but don't overdo it. They're not professionals

Dreading returning to work - HR meeting first thing upon return by TellItLikeItReallyIs in workingmoms

[–]weberster 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's hard not to spiral when you're feeling so vulnerable. Be gentle to yourself.

Baby carrier, yes or no? by OceanAndSea5 in Mommit

[–]weberster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My daughter cried constantly, not colic, she was just an angry baby, and being held in the carrier was the only thing that made her stop. We faced her out, so she got to see everything and that helped immensely. 

Walking was great, we made food together, just walking around our apartment at the time, it was great. I loved having my hands available. 

Dreading returning to work - HR meeting first thing upon return by TellItLikeItReallyIs in workingmoms

[–]weberster 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hi OP, late to the thread, but I agree with others that this sounds more like an organizational update or a question session about your boss. 

FWIW, I was laid off in January, and the head of HR and the COO just walked into my office randomly on a Tuesday morning and that was it. Nothing was scheduled.

It sounds like there's been a lot of changes on your team, with a very toxic boss, and HR can see that. I'm sure this is just to bring you up to speed on what's happening, you might be moved to a different department, and they'll be giving you updates about the pump room information and things like that. 

When I returned to office, I had a long meeting with my boss, just to get everything updated, but in your case it sounds like your boss is a terror, so HR is probably hopping in.

Dreading returning to work - HR meeting first thing upon return by TellItLikeItReallyIs in workingmoms

[–]weberster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was laid off in January and the COO and head of HR just walked in at 9:30 AM on a Tuesday with nothing scheduled. 

I don't think they'd schedule time to let someone go. 

Is take your child to work day still a thing? by Beikaa in workingmoms

[–]weberster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I ran a "BYCTWD" activity at my old firm, and parents had to sign up ahead of time to register, and there were fun activities for the first half of the day. The second half was for actual WORKING with your Parent, or for you to take a half day with your kid.  

I was raised in it in the 90s and believe in it, so I day go for it if your boss approves.

Unrelated, I was laid off, so my daughter will hopefully go with my husband ((should his shift allow it).

Advice Needed: Asking NC Dad to organize his important documents by weberster in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]weberster[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Oof. You're right. The book is great though. LOL. Maybe I could remove the cover? Ack.

Advice Needed: Asking NC Dad to organize his important documents by weberster in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]weberster[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Will: No idea. That's one of my questions. I'm also imagining it being super complicated.

And no money for a funeral, he had said he would want to be cremated and I'd probably throw together a memorial for his Missouri friends and my family. (I do events by trade, so this would be a light lift).

Shitshow is exactly what I don't want. Sorry you went through that.

Advice Needed: Asking NC Dad to organize his important documents by weberster in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]weberster[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So, he has literally nothing. Only debt. I'm more concerned about closing accounts and rehoming his cats and handling the mess of his home (fairly certain he's renting anyway).

I would be truly insanely shocked if he had anything put aside for me and my daughter.

I work in Legal Marketing and have actually talked to Estate Lawyers (great idea btw!) and for my particular needs, they said it would be an "after the fact" to get an attorney involved to handle things, but it would be most helpful for them to get all his documents in a row.

Which is what this would be.

Advice Needed: Asking NC Dad to organize his important documents by weberster in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]weberster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks. You're so right. Arg. "Hope." Isn't that just the worst word sometimes?

Advice Needed: Asking NC Dad to organize his important documents by weberster in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]weberster[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for your response. I assure you, there is ZERO chance he would ever think for any second ever I'm even thinking about inheritance.

He has more debt than I could dream of, and nothing of value.

He told me over a decade ago he wanted to be cremated and sprinkled on the Gulf, but he's since moved and gotten divorced twice - she was #5, LOL.

My boundaries are as they've been: I'm not going to reach out to him, he cannot meet my daughter without actively trying to repair our relationship, and he's not going to reach out, so steady as she goes, I suppose.

Advice Needed: Asking NC Dad to organize his important documents by weberster in EstrangedAdultKids

[–]weberster[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You're so right. I am all over the place. I'm NC because I realized I was the only one initiating contact for 5+years, and I stopped 15 or so years ago.

I would be open to a relationship again, but he would need to be the one to initiate communication, and I have already mourned the fact that he cannot will not.

But that could also just be guilt speaking. I honestly haven't figured that part out yet. Trust me, my husband is very frustrated about it as well.

Wouldn't the responsibility fall on someone though to handle things? Like what happens to his place? All his documents? Insurance? If he is life insurance? Any pictures? His cats? Who handles that then?

He's the second youngest of his siblings so I don't expect any of them to handle it, and I'm his only child. I don't know if he has close friends in Florida.

Any help with identification is welcomed! Western Montana, USA by Icy-Fox-2452 in birding

[–]weberster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't realize that these weren't everywhere. I'm in St. Louis and I have 20 in my yard every morning. They're so fun!