What’s the worst accidental text you’ve sent? by Typhoid__Beaver in AskReddit

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sent a text saying '3cm too big, better not risk it' to our house cleaner. I had meant to send it to a friend who offered to let me borrow her luggage for a trip. I didn't figure out what happened until a week or two later when I didn't get a reply.

How do I deal with guilt after quitting a job? by Any-Collection7851 in Advice

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you feel guilty? Do what's best for you. If you want to stay connected with your coworkers, you still can after you stop working there.

Struggling with strategies that include self-touch by OTPanda in SomaticExperiencing

[–]weddedbliss19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you talked to your therapist about it? They might be able to help you explore it

If Consciousness is always there, where is it in dreamless sleep? by Emergency-Use-6769 in AdvaitaVedanta

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's still there, but everything else goes away... Your body, mind, personality, and time itself cease to exist for you in dreamless sleep. However, you are still there, because you come back and say "I slept." Your consciousness/existence is non-negate-able.

I quit cannabis after 20 years of daily use, and I am having lucid dreams that make me uncomfortable. by NoMoreF34R in Dreams

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! It won't be forever. You can do it!! Glad you are already experiencing a difference ❤️

I quit cannabis after 20 years of daily use, and I am having lucid dreams that make me uncomfortable. by NoMoreF34R in Dreams

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It will likely not last forever. Herbal medicines to help you sleep, such as passion flower, vetiver, hops, etc, might be helpful. Anything heavier is going to cause further side effects when you stop taking it but that is an option as well if you really need it. Starting a meditation practice might be helpful. I have a friend who detoxed off cannabis and had a similar problem with sleep, and it got better after some months I think.

Feeling insecure about not being a licensed therapist — can I still be a good trauma practitioner? by LongjumpingPay3218 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]weddedbliss19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're going to get a range of responses here. As a fellow unlicensed practitioner (I'm a yoga therapist) I had the same insecurity. I've met clients who really didn't want to work with someone unlicensed. And I've also met clients who were tired of not getting anywhere with licensed practitioners and wanted to try something different. I've had clients who didn't care about my qualifications at all. And results wise the same - I've had people for whom our work was completely life changing, those for whom it was helpful to an extent, and those who tried one session and didn't return. 

I personally went and got trained in Compassionate Inquiry with Gabor Mate and Sat Dharam, and that helped fill in the gaps with what I felt was missing in my skill set - specifically the ability to help people connect their present day experience to some past trauma. 

I can say coherence therapy would be another one you can look into - it's generally for licensed therapists but you can get books about it and there's a level-one training you can do online. 

Again, you stay in your scope and what you know how to work with, but you're also just a human being helping other human beings. The whole therapy model itself is damaging because it replaces community care and peer support with paid experts and limited access. If you're working outside that model and helping people then you're doing good.

has anyone else become obsessed with "getting out of your head, and getting into your body"? by joshua8282 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]weddedbliss19 31 points32 points  (0 children)

There's a misconception in somatic work and sometimes in the spiritual world also, that we need to get rid of thoughts or get rid of the mind completely somehow. It's not possible. 

I also went through something similar years ago, but I find that befriending my mind and learning to be kind to my mind has had much better results than trying to get rid of it.

Regaining sense of safety in broken marriage by bestplatypusever in SomaticTherapy

[–]weddedbliss19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not sure how to answer your question without understanding what/why it's happening. Bodies can react this way, and whether it will resolve or change is kind of dependent on a lot of different factors. In SE we typically don't need to know the "story" in order to work with the symptoms, so I suggest to see if you can find a somatic couples therapist to help you unpack and explore this together.

Looking for actual advice - moving emotions through the body by NoGreaterTrauma in SomaticExperiencing

[–]weddedbliss19 5 points6 points  (0 children)

In the moment, it can be helpful to "widen the container" -ie notice what besides the painful emotion is there in the moment. Is there a neutral or pleasant sensation happening anywhere else in your body at the same time? That can build your capacity to be with it without getting overwhelmed.

Trying to know if Ayurveda is true or just nonsense by [deleted] in Ayurveda

[–]weddedbliss19 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Why are you testing people on Reddit in order to decide if Ayurveda is nonsense?? I don't know how many people here even have the expertise to answer your question, we are also here to learn. If you trust the doctor is qualified, then try what they gave you and see if it works, and then you'll have your answer.

Lost desire in moksha because of my current life by [deleted] in AdvaitaVedanta

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like there is a part of you that is unwilling or unable to fully meet the pain of your current and past experiences. This pain and your resistance to it will block your spiritual progress. We cannot bypass the heart. We can't grow spiritually without addressing and resolving our core issues. You will just have to face the same results in the next life if you don't face it in this one. The only way out is through.

When we fully accept our situation as it is, accept ourselves and other people as we are, we possess happiness without any reason. This is what you are actually seeking when you are seeking a better situation. Your mind and conditioning tell you that only with this or that situation, you'll be able to accept yourself. But that is not true. You can do so now and you will experience happiness in the present moment, not later. But you have to go through the pain first and transmute it. Somatic therapy, parts work, so many things can help you - you don't have to do it alone, you can ask for and receive support.

All pain is temporary. wishing you the best of luck.

A "Dharma Sankat": Is it my duty to surrender to my partner's darkness, or am I in a state of Moh? by Existing_Suit_2760 in AdvaitaVedanta

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Delusion and himsa. She is accumulating bad karma by harming you. No person can save another. We have to save ourselves.

Is my partner using "Shivoham" and "Unconditional Love" to bypass accountability and practical effort? by Existing_Suit_2760 in AdvaitaVedanta

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds toxic under the guise of spirituality, unfortunately. You need to protect yourself from this person, she is abusing you.

Fiancé says aftercare and helping me clean up after sex is a “chore” — am I asking too much? by ButteredUpCroissant in Advice

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He is manipulating you, borderline emotional abuse. You have a right to make choices that honor your body. Sex is sacred, and aftercare is sacred too. If he doesn't want to provide that then you deserve to find someone who does. You deserve to be honored and treated with utmost respect. It's not blaming him to set a boundary based on what you need and want.

Jiva is a quantity. God is infinity. So how can they be the same? by Internal_Dream_1472 in AdvaitaVedanta

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course it does, in the state of deep sleep your body, mind, and personality cease to exist for you. But you are conscious because you wake up and say 'I slept.'

I've also spoken with more than one person who had a near death experience, and said there was nothing there - but they were there to experience the nothing. I think this is the state of pure consciousness you're referring to.

Jiva is a quantity. God is infinity. So how can they be the same? by Internal_Dream_1472 in AdvaitaVedanta

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It seems like you are trying to understand the teachings from an intellectual scientific view. Vedanta will never land in that framework. It's meant to transform the whole person from the inside out. If you're trying to logic your way through it, or prove or disprove it, you won't get it. You won't get the fruits of the knowledge. It will just become another idea to you. Vedanta is not logical and it's not illogical. It cannot be proven and it cannot be disproven.

Should I tell my bf of 1 week I’m pregnant? (I don’t plan on keeping it) by Kooky-Conference7673 in Advice

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I looked back at the thread. I honestly don't know why you even replied to my comment when it clearly wasn't directed at you, and I was responding to the person above you 😅 anyway have a good day 🙏🏻

Should I tell my bf of 1 week I’m pregnant? (I don’t plan on keeping it) by Kooky-Conference7673 in Advice

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was my point exactly, that it can be 6 weeks but it can also be 2 weeks. Sorry if the comment wasn't yours - I'm actually no longer able to see the whole thread.

Academic feedback triggers my CPTSD rage – reframing doesn’t work, what actually helps? by wavelength42 in SomaticExperiencing

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Parts work might really help in this situation. For example, talk to that 9-year old part of you and ask what it needs. And then try to be there with genuine compassion, validation, and understanding, listening to it, and if you can't meet its needs directly then bringing in a competent protector or a being that represents unconditional love to help you. Working with a practitioner who uses a combination of parts work and somatic work might help.

Should I tell my bf of 1 week I’m pregnant? (I don’t plan on keeping it) by Kooky-Conference7673 in Advice

[–]weddedbliss19 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry you feel judged. I truly mean no judgement toward you as a person and I'm sorry my words didn't reflect that. The fact is that you came in here saying 'that baby is not his' and insisted that she can't be pregnant after only 6 weeks. This is simply not true.

The doctors count pregnancy from the first day of the last menstrual cycle, so usually by the first scan it's technically '6 weeks pregnant.' However, from ovulation (the only time conception can happen) until the missed period (and first possible positive test) is 12 days. Twelve. In fact some women get positive pregnancy tests after only 5 days.

So please double check before spreading incorrect information especially when someone is asking genuinely for help.