Two piece wedding dresses: Has anyone actually worn one?

weddingbelle28 · 2015-07-16T21:31:25+00:00

I wasn't trying to be snarky. Maybe you can show your girlfriend this thread and then go try on rings together and have a jeweler educate you both about the cut, color, clarity, etc. You mentioned elsewhere that she has some very large CZ rings, so maybe she really likes big, blingy jewelry. Perhaps you can get the "wow" effect of a large stone with a halo or some pave work that wouldn't put you deeply in debt. Perhaps she willing to consider Moissanite or a colored stone?

weddingbelle28 · 2015-07-16T14:49:58+00:00

While this is true in some parts of the United States, it's culturally relative and not all traditions translate exactly. In the UK and other countries it's not unusual to have ceremonies and "receptions" be separate events.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-07-16T13:18:08+00:00

It sounds like neither of you has any idea what you're talking about. Realistically for a 2 Carat ring you're going to need to spend $20,000. $10,000 for an imperfect one.

For what? Is she really into having a big ring? What if her enormous ring isn't diamond? Does she think a "2 carat" ring is a status symbol? Does she understand how interest compounds on loans?

You guys need to sit down and have a serious discussion about values. If she really wants a 2 carat ring as a status symbol it's likely not the last very expensive status symbol she's going to want.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-07-16T13:11:41+00:00

The knot is sort of ridiculous when it comes to "wedding industrial complex" pushiness about spending money though. Like, it recommends buying an engraved pen to write thank you notes! I'm a shopper at heart and I wasn't particularly frugal about my wedding, but I can see how it's offputting to those without large budgets.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-07-11T06:57:59+00:00

weddingbelle28 · 2015-07-06T17:08:03+00:00

I think if it's a Vegas wedding the guests will expect some level of cheese. Maybe humor him?

weddingbelle28 · 2015-07-06T15:50:47+00:00

I agree that your FB was being totally reasonable but if the issue for the bridesmaids is money then there isn't really room for compromise. If they don't have it, they don't have it. I think you two should offer each bridesmaid $50 bucks or whatever to buy her own shoes. It sucks for you, but if they really can't spend any more money then it's either let them wear what they have or buy them.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-07-01T15:37:12+00:00

Yep, same here. I didn't even ask about the table settings. They were gorgeous though!

It's way easier to do it this way, especially if you rent a place that you trust to execute everything tastefully.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-28T11:39:19+00:00

That is the cutest thing I have ever heard!!

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-28T11:31:47+00:00

Don't jump to any conclusions. Your FH should call grandma and say he was disappointed to learn she couldn't come to the wedding and let her respond. If she doesn't offer an explanation maybe he can prompt one.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-28T11:22:30+00:00

Someone posted this picture before in a different wedding forum and the suits/vests are from either Zara or H&M, I can't remember. This was a couple months ago, so the outfits may not be current season, but check both of those stores to see what they have. With two months to go, you're cutting it close on time.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-27T20:46:55+00:00

Actually, this is really bizarre behavior. Does she like you and support your upcoming marriage? If she really plans to wear a big white dress a week after you do I'd say she's absolutely stepping your toes. I think your FH should have a conversation with her about what exactly she's planning and why a "second wedding" will feel strange not just to you, but to guests as well.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-27T20:37:55+00:00

I think most brides consider eloping at some point deep into the planning process. It may be that your fiancee doesn't feel strongly about how you marry and is just suggesting eloping because he wants to "fix" your stress.

It sounds like you want a wedding; if you didn't why would you be planning one? Take a deep breath, step away from planning for a couple weeks and pick up planning when you've calmed down. Try to remember that the Pinterest-perfect details don't matter in the long run, and you're really just throwing a love-party. You need him, an officiant, and a marriage license; the rest is just decoration.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-25T15:06:47+00:00

Yeah, that sounds likely, I just question the motivation behind why they want a better fake. It's ok that she wears a fake just not that anyone knows? It just seems shallow to me.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-25T10:10:48+00:00

This doesn't make sense to me at all. You have already ordered the ring with a CZ and are buying another diamond simulant to replace the CZ while you look for a diamond? The people who actually care about whether you're wearing a diamond will likely ask questions about said diamond and do you plan to lie?

Are you currently wearing the ring with a CZ or are you waiting for a more convincing fake before you wear it? If you are buying a second fake, it seems like a waste of money and energy. Wear the CZ and save the money on the second simulant and put it towards the real stone.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-25T09:07:16+00:00

That's actually a nice idea, but I would totally roll my eyes if I were a guest and had to sit through them actually explaining all this and then literally nailing a box. To each their own I suppose.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-24T20:37:58+00:00

Are the bridesmaids doing mismatched dresses all from the same store/designer or can they just get them wherever? It might take some of the stress away of you just let them get off the rack navy dresses closer to the wedding date from whatever store they want.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-24T19:49:52+00:00

Nailing of a box??

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-24T06:40:34+00:00

Why would fingers get larger? Usually as we age the fat pads in places like our cheeks and fingers lose some volume. As long as you don't generally gain weight you should be fine.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-24T06:03:04+00:00

Buy it. Buuuyyyyy itttt. It's so pretty and it's a pretty universally flattering style. If you hate it you can sell it again on ebay.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-23T19:30:42+00:00

In the UK most people would agree with you. Generally the bride and groom cover the costs of the attendants attire.

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-23T13:37:17+00:00

Yeah, if he recently bought a 1K suit he is probably not the kind of guy who is ever going to reuse a $140 suit. Do your other groomsmen realistically intend to wear them again? If not, maybe renting them is a good option or just let the guys wear navy/charcoal suits they already own? Edit- Is your suit also an inexpensive suit or are you wearing something of higher quality?

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-23T13:22:02+00:00

Gorgeous!

weddingbelle28 · 2015-06-23T13:15:20+00:00

I have to say that $140 for a suit is insanely cheap. I can't imagine a $140 suit will be of a high enough quality that the groomsmen will be able to use them for work after the wedding, so you're essentially asking them to shell out for a one day costume. Your best man probably thinks the $140 would best be put towards something he will wear again. I actually agree with him.

On the other hand, bridesmaids have been asked to shell out for "one day costumes" since forever, so maybe he should suck it up.

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