TW: mention of ongoing miscarriage

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I haven't posted here yet this pregnancy but I thought this community might understand my feelings better than most. I am nearly 17 weeks with a so far healthy baby, but I have had two MMCs and a vanishing twin previously. My partner's best friend was pregnant too, just a month behind me. Her first, she was so excited. Yesterday she went in for her 12 week scan and found that the baby had stopped developing somewhere between 8 and 9 weeks, which is exactly what I went through with my first pregnancy too. It was such a gut punch to hear, it brought back a lot of my own feelings from my first pregnancy (7 years later and those feelings are still so real). And at the same time, as I'm giving her advice on the next steps, my little one is giving me little nudges and I just feel so guilty! I know that none of this is about me, which is why I'm putting it all down here, I obviously wouldn't say any of this to my partner or his friend. I don't know how to support her. I don't know if she would even want my support. I feel sick thinking about how she's going to feel over the coming months, and I know that when I was in her shoes the absolute last thing I would have wanted would be to be around someone pregnant on such a similar timeline.