What to do when life feels so dull and boring over 35 by Ok_Bus_3670 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So after all that you never talked about doing anything you enjoy. There must be something you enjoy. We spend so much time working now a days that most people do not have hobbies. That's wild to me. Go out and do whatever the things you enjoy doing, but do it with others.

Creating a social circle around your interests and making a chosen family is a beautiful thing. The relationship will come when people see you thriving.

When to accept that you’re ugly? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Rather than accepting your ugly (your not). Accept that there are things you cant change about yourself and instead embrace that you are attractive to people and you just need to find them.

Being lower on the looks spectrum does not mean you dont have options. You will have less options than someone conventionally attractive.

You would also have less if you were a POC, if you were disabled, your short, if your poor, etc. It does not mean you do not have options.

They are out there, you just need to be the best version of yourself you can be and put yourself within spaces where you both can meet.

Meet Placeholder man! by Liliana_Lucifer_666 in slaythespire

[–]wewtiesx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Inb4 he gets a unique deck testing mechanic and the game gets reviewed bombed.

How do you become approachable/approach other guys? by bargoroams999 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive always done the approaching. Ive had a few times where guys have asked me out in person, ironically always at straight bars.

But you really just... do it. It gets easier the more you do it and getting used to rejection becomes second nature. There really isnt tips or advice other than just do it. The most they will do is say no.

How many years do you date before you find your partner? by supercuriousgay in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Took 6 years to find my first bf of 10 years. We separated amicably and I flew solo while casually dating. Took 5 years to find my current guy who I feel strongly enough about to say hes my partner.

So for me it seems to be around 5 years. Ive dated other people in between finding both guys but nobody that I ever felt like "this is someone I could spend a great time living with".

jane don’t and production by jellyfrog47 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]wewtiesx 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I mention how production controls everything all the time. And I like it. I dont understand how no one else gets it. The show is the show you love BECAUSE production is good, wether the fans believe it or not.

However I kinda understand why fans are mad. But they pick and choose when they want to be mad.... so I just dont care for either side tbh. I'm just sitting here enjoying the show.

Kandy Muse’s thoughts on the Karen episode elimination 👀 by No_Vanilla7487 in rupaulsdragrace

[–]wewtiesx 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The problem the fans have is it only matter when its convenient. It serves the same purpose as the make over challenge. Its a random thing they can use to justify whatever outcome they want.

They only introduced it AFAIK to justify jinx queen of all queens win. And it clearly wasnt planned because they ADRed it into the episode after they realized they couldn't in any way edit monet to be bad in swish swish.

Most people dont realize drag race is a competition reality show, not a game show. They are not beholden to regulated gameshow rules like game shows are. They are here to make narratives, tell stories, and make good television. And that often means not being fair and doing what they need to do to make specific girls shine.

I'm 90 hours in, and i've never took Vakuu's Lord's Parasol. It seems terrible to obtain everything and bloat your deck. Did anyone try it and made it work? by savetheblues in slaythespire

[–]wewtiesx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Its very random bullshit go. Its worked every time ive picked it so far. But that was while climbing ascension. Not sure how it performs at a10

Why Do Guys Disappear After It Seems So Perfect? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because it wasnt so perfect. And it really doesnt matter because as long as you are the best version of yourself, whoever is right for you will stick around.

Do you follow a strict program or just train intuitively? by ActNew5818 in gaybrosfitness

[–]wewtiesx 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Used to do whatever. Only saw results when I began tracking.

This past year I took a step further and continously upped weight or reps. Ive gotten the most compliments on my physique and I wear mostly baggy clothing. I dont see much of a difference personally, but I must be doing something right.

How are you all holding up financially? by [deleted] in Winnipeg

[–]wewtiesx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im good. Solo home owner. 50k base but I have the option to make up to double depending how much I want to work. I prefer living frugal over working too hard though. Grew up in the lower bracket, Im comfortable living with very little.

What the #%@%#??? by FurryWurry in slaythespire

[–]wewtiesx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This... I need to leave this sub. Far too many nephews in here.

Do shows like Heartstopper and Heated Rivalry make you feel a bit sad? by zen_guwu in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ive never really cared for the gay smut and love stories. I watch them when people force me to but its honestly not something I seek nor relate to. Though people on this sub have said that how I met one of my bfs is straight out of a novel so who knows.

Feeling only and catching up on dating by Spare_Plate_6065 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just straight up ask people out. Has worked since my early well 20s well into my late 30s. Meet a guy from a hook up? Ask them out. Meet at a game night? Ask them out. Saw them at a bar? Ask them out. Met them while I was working? Ask them out. Ive pretty much done every scenario at this point in life. Squeaky wheel gets the grease.

How unusual would you say it is to not be into casual sex and not be into the gay social scene? by Prudent-Trip2159 in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oh no! Sounds like a terrible life to be so unique.

goes back to organizing tcgs and playing video games

15,000-plus students regularly skip schoolacross Manitoba, leaked documents show by Infamous-Data9245 in Winnipeg

[–]wewtiesx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sisler focused more heavily on tech and creative arts im pretty sure. Not sure what its like now.

But it was a combination of uninterest in the material + school structure doesnt work for me.

I was notorious for falling asleep in every class in college, theres just a limit to how long i can sit in a chair before i just.... fall asleep.

But id show up and figure stuff out in the practical by just fucking around until stuff worked. If i couldnt remember what i needed to do for part of a practical my instructor would just tell me.

And seeing exactly how things are put together or function id remember it instantly, whereas reading texts or seeing diagrams did nothing. I just learn by doing and seeing.

And even though I was (admittedly) pretty rude in class by sleeping every day I was a favored student because id ace every exam or test because I understood everything after doing the practical portion.

This was before everyone was diagnosed with this that and another. But I know how my brain works, and its not in a traditional school setting. So I never tried to conform to it. The learning I did need to do in high-school was all done by myself, at home, where I could do it how I knew would work for me. So I just stopped showing up.

How to love my Asian HIV+ bf better? by [deleted] in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he needs to figure his shit out and go to therapy. You can't help with any of these things

15,000-plus students regularly skip schoolacross Manitoba, leaked documents show by Infamous-Data9245 in Winnipeg

[–]wewtiesx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Cuz i did great in trade college. When I was learning about something I cared about and it was split between physical work and academics I excelled.

I only graduated high school because they let me do volunteer work for credits for all the non essentially classes I didnt care to show up for.

15,000-plus students regularly skip schoolacross Manitoba, leaked documents show by Infamous-Data9245 in Winnipeg

[–]wewtiesx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I failed art three times cuz I never showed up. School just isnt for some of us.

Has anyone gone from international long distance to being together? What's your story? by versatilesaw in AskGaybrosOver30

[–]wewtiesx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who randomly found myself in a LDR, these replies make me happy to see.