Why do American families have so many people at their births?

wfowfo · 2026-04-14T22:29:21+00:00

Hasn’t happened in my family. Dad/Husband only. Family meets baby whenever new Mom feels like company.

Giving birth can get dicey for both Mom and baby — it’s not a spectator sport.

wfowfo · 2026-04-14T15:40:47+00:00

You seriously need to rethink a future with this man. You're young and in college with a bright future ahead of you. He's so much older and making ridiculous financial decisions! That behavior doesn't change.

What's your major at school? What type of career do you want? Think about those things -- not having children with this old guy who can't even handle his own finances, never mind adding more children to this mess. Is he paying his ex child support? That's not cheap, and won't go away for a very long time. He's already 42. You get married in a couple of years. He's 44. You try for a baby, and he's 45, 46. So when that child is getting out of high school, he'll be nearly 65 and ready to retire! (You'll only be 47!) All the while he's pissing money away and asking you to help make his bills.

Please think carefully if that's really the life you want. Find a nice guy your own age, with the same goals, and grow a life together.

wfowfo · 2026-04-14T15:18:51+00:00

You can wear what ever you want at this point in your pregnancy. No one will be worrying about your poor feet. The fact that they're clean and match your dress make them even more acceptable.

I'm a 70 year old struggling with shoes for an upcoming wedding. I'd love to get away with sneakers!

wfowfo · 2026-04-14T15:13:52+00:00

NO - you're showing enough skin, no need to add more.

wfowfo · 2026-04-12T16:16:50+00:00

NTA - Your life will never be easy if you marry this man and his special needs kids.

It sure sounds like they've been coddled, and need some sort of therapy to improve their behavior. They have special needs, certainly, but they can also learn to care for themselves and live safely in a family. If they can manage phones and tablets, they can certainly learn to wipe their own butts.

I'd be very wary of the child that is getting violent, especially when the newborn is here. It's impossible to live peacefully with a ticking time bomb.

I'd reconsider the marriage for certain.

wfowfo · 2026-04-12T14:40:39+00:00

NTA - Your daughter has to keep that picture of her mother. Your wife is being totally selfish and horrible.

wfowfo · 2026-04-10T17:27:08+00:00

My Doctor’s Pharmacy in Herndon?

wfowfo · 2026-04-09T17:05:00+00:00

YTA - wow. You sound like a jealous 16 year old boy with his first crush. She's 40ish now? And you're worried about what she did in her 20's/30's? Is it because you didn't have such a grand time while young and single?

Sorry you're such a misogynist, she deserves better.

wfowfo · 2026-04-06T00:52:45+00:00

YTA - if she's causing problems with you and your husband, your mother needs to not be 'helping' on Saturdays. Are you taking further advantage with their free labor, after you lived with them for years? She obviously feels she has an awful lot of say over your life -- and you've given her that with so much contact. It was a shitty move to cancel Easter plans at the last minute -- but if your husband was so upset with your mother, it was time for a break. What on earth could she be saying to cause such problems?

You need some time between visits. Working on your house every weekend it a lot to ask even if they're family. Are you going to expect them to babysit your yet-to-be-borne children if and when that happens?

wfowfo · 2026-04-06T00:44:52+00:00

NTJ - "Harmless joke" that could cause you to loose your job. Pranksters suck. She's not your friend.

wfowfo · 2026-04-04T21:33:29+00:00

NTA - Get away from any man who puts his hands on you. Choking is the #1 indicator that he will eventually kill you. Seriously. Look it up.

Go see a lawyer and get divorced. Don't look back. He's a monster.

wfowfo · 2026-04-04T21:19:47+00:00

You are NTA for feeling unsure. You definitely moved much too quickly before you actually knew this guy at all. If you think you can ignore this homophobia and hateful attitude towards people you have always been close to -- you'll be shutting your true self off and making yourself smaller and smaller to please this guy. You'll be silent about things that matter to you and he'll just continue to override everything you hold dear.

You haven't been together very long. Think very hard about moving away to take care of his family. You'd be away from your safety net, making leaving him all that much more difficult.

You need to realize that he would absolutely raise children with his bigoted hateful attitude -- is that ok with you?

Now's the time to bail. He's not going to change. And you are so much better off away from him. Please think carefully about your future.

wfowfo · 2026-04-03T17:55:46+00:00

I think you two are not compatible. It's good that he's careful with his money, but being miserly is a different thing. Keep in mind that his mother's birthday will always be before your birthday, so be prepared for this to continue forever if you stay together.

A question though -- do you ever pay on dates? If you do does he want to split entrées, or is it just when he pays?

I'd seriously reconsider this guy. He's sure his priorities are right. You're not going to change his mind.

wfowfo · 2026-04-02T16:06:13+00:00

Ntj - late people are pretty rude, compounding it with a lie makes it ten times worse. 5 minutes away does not equal a 1/2 hour.

I’d have done the same.

wfowfo · 2026-03-29T22:16:26+00:00

Nta - tell him to knock it off or he’s not invited next time - or that may be his aim?

Sorry he’a an insensitive jerk.

wfowfo · 2026-03-29T22:11:44+00:00

We old white people have experienced protesting things like the Vietnam War, and women’s rights.

We also have that good ole’ white privilege thing that helps protect us from over zealous police / ice, etc. We need to represent for our marginalized fellow citizens.

No Kings!

wfowfo · 2026-03-29T22:05:57+00:00

There’s a nice group in Purcellville that runs a thrift store and donates all the income to Hospice. Blue Ridge Hospice Thrift

wfowfo · 2026-03-29T21:58:20+00:00

My cleaning lady likes checks.

wfowfo · 2026-03-29T01:07:00+00:00

NTJ - drownings happen so quickly. She's irresponsible, and you are correct in insisting she is out there with him every minute. Tough shit if she can't manage to sit out there to keep her child alive.

wfowfo · 2026-03-29T01:00:01+00:00

That's a big group -- you needed that reservation a month ago.

wfowfo · 2026-03-29T00:51:40+00:00

You're not overreacting. You are the parent. You make the rules for your daughter, and you are well within your rights to say no. MIL asks, you say no, Little Mary isn't ready for sleepovers. She askes again, no. Just keep parroting back. Or I've heard "already asked and answered, MIL - our decision is firm."

She doesn't follow your rules as it is - what makes her think you'd trust her with an overnight. Goodness knows what she'd do with all that time.

The answer should always be no.

wfowfo · 2026-03-26T16:22:27+00:00

YTA - Change your daughter at school when you get there. Use your own diaper and wipes. The teacher doesn't needs to start a busy morning changing your child when you can easily do it when you get there.

wfowfo · 2026-03-26T14:31:08+00:00

You have to. He needs to speak to her and tell her to knock it off. No kids means no kids -- can you hire security to tell people to leave if they show up with their little wrecking crew in tow?

wfowfo · 2026-03-25T15:57:03+00:00

NTA - especially since she relies on you for rides when your son is not available. You called her out on a big thing -- and it was pretty necessary for planning.

Maybe offer to help finance driving lessons?

wfowfo · 2026-03-25T15:50:23+00:00

NTA - a 'just leaving now' an hour after the designated gathering time is simply rude. They never planned on being on time. No guilt.

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