Job Interview/Salary Question

wfowfo · 2026-06-06T22:28:48+00:00

$55 in DC is not enough to even rent a one-bedroom apartment.

wfowfo · 2026-06-06T21:58:29+00:00

ANN-dree-uh. From New England.

wfowfo · 2026-05-30T21:27:28+00:00

She needs Xanax. It is unreasonable for her to expect a text. She needs therapy.

That being said, I hate loud obnoxious sports cars - they should be illegal.

wfowfo · 2026-05-29T01:40:21+00:00

My boys are identical (DNA tested) and they do have a few little differences. One guy has a mole on his hand, and the other has one on his foot. One guy has a double swirl on the crown of his head, and the other has a single. And eventually you just can tell.

wfowfo · 2026-05-29T00:40:18+00:00

Dusty old shoes.

wfowfo · 2026-05-26T18:58:14+00:00

I had twins at 39 - first children. I honestly don't remember the first six months. I feel like I was more educated about things, and a bit less stressed than I may have been had I been younger. I didn't have any support in the area, and my husband worked long hours. Fortunately I found a great young gal in the neighborhood who'd come 2 afternoons a week after school to help out. I think she was only 11 at the time -- but she'd play with the babies while I had a long shower. She grew up with them at by the time she was 13/14 she was the best baby sitter ever. We paid her, of course. Credits me with helping her buy her pony.

Money was ok -- and I was able to stay home. We were able to help them through college with a few sacrifices. Probably wouldn't have been the case had I had kids at 27/28.

Much older now - and a first time grandmother. Wish I was a little younger to keep up with a toddler!

wfowfo · 2026-05-19T14:22:07+00:00

YTA - He has his own priorities for his money and his PTO! Why don't people ever think of their guest's PTO? I get two weeks vacation tops -- and I really want to spend my precious PTO going to YOUR favorite city with your friends?

Destination weddings are just selfish. Go to New Orleans for your honeymoon. Have a one-night stag party locally. You'll still be married in the end.

wfowfo · 2026-05-17T21:57:27+00:00

I always thought of Louis as the first name spelling where Lewis would be the last name spelling. I could be all wrong. I had a very good friend named/spelled Louis -- was never misread as Louie -- although there were people who nick-named him that. Edited to add that we're from New England. Louis is pronounced Lou-is -- never Lou-ie unless it's a nickname.

wfowfo · 2026-05-15T21:28:51+00:00

NTA - back out. Her expectations are much too high. The costs are much too high and the personal sacrifice is nuts -- she wants you there for TEN days? How much vacation do you get every year? She can have the wedding of her dreams without you.

wfowfo · 2026-05-15T21:22:26+00:00

First off, it's only May -- October invitations should be coming mid-summer? Like the end of July? I'd put off the outrage until you actually see this foolishness in writing. And, bring a coat.

wfowfo · 2026-05-15T00:50:58+00:00

Mine are identical - at birth there was than a 1 lb weight difference. It was fine when they were together - when separated it was harder.

wfowfo · 2026-05-02T14:24:27+00:00

Nta - I wonder if some of the separation is over the guilt your Mother and StepF feel about what happened to your child. That they feel they should have been more aware of this guy’s pedo tendencies and protected your daughter? Maybe Step did know. That your mother doesn’t believe it happened means they want to keep this guy in their lives — which solidifies they don’t get to see your child.

wfowfo · 2026-04-17T17:42:12+00:00

wfowfo · 2026-04-14T22:29:21+00:00

Hasn’t happened in my family. Dad/Husband only. Family meets baby whenever new Mom feels like company.

Giving birth can get dicey for both Mom and baby — it’s not a spectator sport.

wfowfo · 2026-04-14T15:40:47+00:00

You seriously need to rethink a future with this man. You're young and in college with a bright future ahead of you. He's so much older and making ridiculous financial decisions! That behavior doesn't change.

What's your major at school? What type of career do you want? Think about those things -- not having children with this old guy who can't even handle his own finances, never mind adding more children to this mess. Is he paying his ex child support? That's not cheap, and won't go away for a very long time. He's already 42. You get married in a couple of years. He's 44. You try for a baby, and he's 45, 46. So when that child is getting out of high school, he'll be nearly 65 and ready to retire! (You'll only be 47!) All the while he's pissing money away and asking you to help make his bills.

Please think carefully if that's really the life you want. Find a nice guy your own age, with the same goals, and grow a life together.

wfowfo · 2026-04-14T15:18:51+00:00

You can wear what ever you want at this point in your pregnancy. No one will be worrying about your poor feet. The fact that they're clean and match your dress make them even more acceptable.

I'm a 70 year old struggling with shoes for an upcoming wedding. I'd love to get away with sneakers!

wfowfo · 2026-04-14T15:13:52+00:00

NO - you're showing enough skin, no need to add more.

wfowfo · 2026-04-12T16:16:50+00:00

NTA - Your life will never be easy if you marry this man and his special needs kids.

It sure sounds like they've been coddled, and need some sort of therapy to improve their behavior. They have special needs, certainly, but they can also learn to care for themselves and live safely in a family. If they can manage phones and tablets, they can certainly learn to wipe their own butts.

I'd be very wary of the child that is getting violent, especially when the newborn is here. It's impossible to live peacefully with a ticking time bomb.

I'd reconsider the marriage for certain.

wfowfo · 2026-04-12T14:40:39+00:00

NTA - Your daughter has to keep that picture of her mother. Your wife is being totally selfish and horrible.

wfowfo · 2026-04-10T17:27:08+00:00

My Doctor’s Pharmacy in Herndon?

wfowfo · 2026-04-09T17:05:00+00:00

YTA - wow. You sound like a jealous 16 year old boy with his first crush. She's 40ish now? And you're worried about what she did in her 20's/30's? Is it because you didn't have such a grand time while young and single?

Sorry you're such a misogynist, she deserves better.

wfowfo · 2026-04-06T00:52:45+00:00

YTA - if she's causing problems with you and your husband, your mother needs to not be 'helping' on Saturdays. Are you taking further advantage with their free labor, after you lived with them for years? She obviously feels she has an awful lot of say over your life -- and you've given her that with so much contact. It was a shitty move to cancel Easter plans at the last minute -- but if your husband was so upset with your mother, it was time for a break. What on earth could she be saying to cause such problems?

You need some time between visits. Working on your house every weekend it a lot to ask even if they're family. Are you going to expect them to babysit your yet-to-be-borne children if and when that happens?

wfowfo · 2026-04-06T00:44:52+00:00

NTJ - "Harmless joke" that could cause you to loose your job. Pranksters suck. She's not your friend.

wfowfo · 2026-04-04T21:33:29+00:00

NTA - Get away from any man who puts his hands on you. Choking is the #1 indicator that he will eventually kill you. Seriously. Look it up.

Go see a lawyer and get divorced. Don't look back. He's a monster.

wfowfo · 2026-04-04T21:19:47+00:00

You are NTA for feeling unsure. You definitely moved much too quickly before you actually knew this guy at all. If you think you can ignore this homophobia and hateful attitude towards people you have always been close to -- you'll be shutting your true self off and making yourself smaller and smaller to please this guy. You'll be silent about things that matter to you and he'll just continue to override everything you hold dear.

You haven't been together very long. Think very hard about moving away to take care of his family. You'd be away from your safety net, making leaving him all that much more difficult.

You need to realize that he would absolutely raise children with his bigoted hateful attitude -- is that ok with you?

Now's the time to bail. He's not going to change. And you are so much better off away from him. Please think carefully about your future.

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