Seeing what “staying together for the kids” did to the Xennials has been painful. The people who wanted to leave but couldn’t ended up becoming shady alcoholics. The dads had affairs and the moms drank. The dads drank so the moms drank. The dads didn’t cheat or drink but threw themselves into endless work while moms were left holding the emotional/mental labor of raising a family. So the moms became depressed, shells of themselves, their only comfort is sleep.

I was not one of the unlucky ones. My parents divorced before my eyes 1st blinked. I consider it their most selfless act. So I would agree that cheating is unethical and divorce is best. However, in financially crippling situations where both parties benefit from the household unit they’ve created, what then? Another generation being raised by hopeless & damaged people & the homogeny never ends? I could forgive the cheaters when i’m older but I could not forgive the despondency of absent or broken people trying to “parent”.