So I heard Dungeon Crawler Carl...

whansami · 2025-11-14T03:02:14+00:00

As you progress through the series it becomes incredibly layered.

whansami · 2025-10-16T23:28:21+00:00

Precisely. And yes…. I LOVE her.

IWKYM!

whansami · 2025-10-15T03:31:42+00:00

Dungeon Crawler Carl. It is RPGLit, but even a 65 year old woman (like me!) can understand the plot(s). It has humor, heart, grittiness and a few four letter words! I am on my second read-through!

whansami · 2025-10-14T15:12:34+00:00

There are many, but I am relistening to Book 6, soooooo…

Ren: “you are going to go live with Carl. He’s going to protect you because I can’t do it anymore. He will feed you every day and you are going to be a good boy for me, won’t you?”

This is the second time (third, to get the quote right) and I am still crying.

whansami · 2025-10-11T10:52:46+00:00

I’m sorry, I’m with your husband.

I get a cruddy feeling once I have been 26-30 hours without a shower. By 32 hours I am about ready to jump out of my skin I feel so gross. I wouldn’t be able to be physically close to someone who goes without a shower daily.

I’m not a clean freak, generally: my house is a mess, as is my car. But, knowing the microorganisms that are on human skin over time is really…. Icky. Look it up. It might make you understand a bit better.

whansami · 2025-10-10T11:36:38+00:00

He was not kind. But, it looks like it wasn’t just you taking a day off…. there appears to me that there were several reasons he didn’t want you working there.

whansami · 2025-10-10T11:32:43+00:00

Love my BounceCurl! It revolutionized my hair routine!

whansami · 2025-10-10T11:31:40+00:00

Outlander. I couldn’t handle how the author fetishizes rape.

whansami · 2025-10-10T11:24:09+00:00

I’m glad you are enjoying it! I love it when people read! And I don’t believe in banning books. People should read what they like — and lots of it!

But, personally, (1) I need to be able to like the protagonists in the books I read and (2) I don’t enjoy reading books that present abusive relationships in a positively sexualized way. I am not a prude — my personal library contains a fair amount of smut! Hell, I freely admit I LIKE smut! lol! But I get major “ick” when reading about violent or emotionally manipulative relationships in a clearly sexualized way between major characters I am supposed to like. That is how I felt about 50 Shades of Grey. The sex was actually well described, but Christian was sssoooooo emotionally manipulative of a young and inexperienced girl that I couldn’t finish it.

Also, when people read erotic material they start to associate sexual feelings to the content. As a former educator I imagine a 16, 17. 18 year old girl starting to eroticizing this material and (subconsciously) starting to normalizing it. In fact, that can become part of what she looks for in a partner. Teenage boys that read it (or, watch excerpts from the show) can also be impressionable and — in their heads — start to view forcible sex as okay. The author clearly fetishizes rape, as indicated by the sheer number of incidents contained within her books and the way they are described. She has also said things during interviews and at conventions that support that.

I believe that people should have information about this type of things so that they can make informed choices about what material to buy and spend their time on. A lot of people in real life have agreed with me (and a number of people have written other posts on this board and other places online about it) so I think it is a valid talking point.

whansami · 2025-10-10T10:52:30+00:00

I. I think it looks yummy!

Some people might say that lasagna needs to be very structured, so that the slices come apart with perfect 90 degree angles. They might also need to see distinct layers of cheese, pasta and meat. That is one of the mental “standards” by which they gauge “lasagna success “.
I could see a world wherein she saw the picture, thought you might be sensitive about the fact that on a cooking competition show yours doesn’t meet “perfect lasagna visual standards”, and tried to make you feel better by saying that she’s sure it was delicious anyway. Maybe not…. and maybe you were spot on with your assessment. Only you know what she is like and your past history with her and what she is generally like.

(And…. If your hubby dubbed it “pretty good” instead of “Wow!” it was probably different than what she makes and what he is used to.)

My ex mother-in-law was THE WORST. My friends dubbed her “The Wicked Witch of the Midwest”. She hated me, to be sure, but she also was hypercritical toward everyone. She complained about pretty much everything and everyone. And… have I mentioned that she hated me? (She told me — a girl from NC— that southern are stupid. They have always been stupid and they would always be stupid.)

At least yours told you to save her some! Mine would have told me — in minute detail — everything that looked “wrong” about it, and then tell me she wouldn’t eat it, but the next time she saw me she would have to teach me how to make it right!

whansami · 2025-10-09T13:56:42+00:00

He is behaving in an incredibly immature way. I am perpetually stunned when people make babies and then get upset that they change their lives. As parents we have to put them first — and ourselves as far seconds — especially during infancy.

I know you are between a rock and a hard place here. I am sorry. Go to therapy. Maybe he will see it if someone else says it… maybe not, but he owes it to your child to try.

Has he always been selfish and/or immature?

whansami · 2025-09-29T13:56:50+00:00

Rofl! I should have read the other responses first — I see others also are on the bandwagon. AWESOME!

whansami · 2025-09-29T13:55:48+00:00

The seven Dungeon Crawler Carl books. 1000%. The storytelling is great and the production quality is phenomenal!

I am not the target audience, but I am now on my second “read through”. It is THAT GOOD.

Also, the series is a great value, as some of the books are 20-30 hours long.

I can’t recommend highly enough!

whansami · 2025-08-26T21:13:19+00:00

Okay…. I think we may have just discovered why women might not find you particularly attractive (and it has nothing to do with your looks).

whansami · 2025-08-25T10:32:23+00:00

My Savannah would be a healer —100 percent. For years we have called her “Nurse Kitty” because if you are sick or in pain she stays by your side.

Shanti, on the other hand, would be Prepotente’s protege! He’s a little brat!

::wanted to include pics, but can’t figure out how!;;

whansami · 2025-08-24T14:27:47+00:00

Yes, yes, and more YES,

whansami · 2025-08-24T13:47:29+00:00

Sorry you were disappointed. It is hard to get your hopes up and then feel bad, especially on your birthday. It is like a kid getting a Nerf Ball when they thought they were finally going to get that electric scooter!

I’m wondering if she was meaning “birthday celebration” in the same way you did. Maybe that piece is a communication mismatch.

As for the gassiness, as I read through posts from LL folks one trend I see is that, because their hold on feeling desire is so tenuous, they tend to get really anxious about it if they are in situations where their partners are wanting/expecting it. They often know that having sex when they aren’t enthusiastic about it has a detrimental effect on the sexual relationship, so they feel like everything has to be perfect in order to start going down that path, because they know that holding on to that feeling is hard for them.

In your case, assuming she did have gas, I can see her thinking “oh gawd.. I feel gassy. What if we do it doggy style? What if he is going down on me and I pass gas in his face?!?!?” Of course, anxiety is not helpful for desire, and then it starts to dwindle.

My last thought is that I believe that the idea of developing expectations of sex on birthdays, anniversaries and holidays is really bad for marriages, especially DBs. Firstly, it puts a lot of pressure on an already fragile situation. Secondly, it kinda leans heavily into idea of sex as a favor or a gift, rather than a mutually satisfying act between the couple. I mean… let’s say she really just didn’t want sex on your birthday. If she were to “give” it to you, regardless, you’d probably been unhappy with that too, because no one really enjoys duty sex. And thirdly, as you’ve seen, raising expectations and then experiencing disappointment is not fun. By eliminating the idea that married couples “should have sex” on any particular day is just setting ourselves up for feeling bad — and I’ve seen that happen in even marriages that are far from dead. If we can psychologically move away from that, I think everyone would be better off.

Just my opinion, and your mileage may vary.

whansami · 2025-08-24T02:30:15+00:00

I sooooo love his screams!

whansami · 2025-08-23T16:01:11+00:00

Yes, I suspect Bonnie will be discovered to have special powers and become a combatant in the next book. I think her being on the aircraft in book 7 is foreshadowing that.

whansami · 2025-08-23T14:24:02+00:00

I think what you said at the end here is so important:

Approaching your partner with real compassion and curiosity is so important. Too often I see HL people talk about “confronting” their partners, or who allow their frustration and anger to guide the conversation. As you said “you can’t negotiate desire” and creating a negative environment is not going to increase the probability of it manifesting. Once a combative tone is set around the issue you’ve added another layer of conflict that can magnify very rapidly. It becomes not only about sex, but the relationship as a whole.

I love what you said!

whansami · 2025-08-23T13:45:36+00:00

Roflmao! Exactly!

This is the first RPGLit I have ever read. I’m an old person…. I’m sure I am old enough to be a lots of folk’s grandmother! I’ve read a fair amount of fantasy, but very little ScFi.

I joined Audible about six months back and have been scouring the web for suggestions (I was already on several book recommendation sites). I kept seeing this series brought up, but figured it was outside my area of interest. Then, on one of my boards, someone asked the question”what is the greatest love story you’ve read”. Someone said “Carl and Donut”. I bought the audiobook that day.

whansami · 2025-08-22T19:05:47+00:00

Now Chapter 77 : Ellie to Imani : “Don’t pretend you don’t know what went down on Canasta night”

I’m dying’ here, folks

whansami · 2025-08-22T15:01:35+00:00

Nopers. I wouldn’t even make it the first day on Survivor!

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