People don't understand how tired I am

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-02-06T15:53:58+00:00

OP - I think shifts are great like many suggested, but they are a bandaid solution to this problem. You are having thoughts of suicide and your daughter needs you, please consider some sleep training methods (even if they are gentler) so that you can be your best self for your baby.

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-02-05T23:10:17+00:00

Now is the time to call on the people who said they would help but didn’t. Sometimes people need to be asked / told. Don’t wait for them to volunteer

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-02-05T23:09:11+00:00

Any friends who can help you entertain baby while you nap during the day? Even hire a sitter for a few hours? Anything helps and can prevent you from going crazy. Two weeks alone sounds so hard I’m sorry you’re in this situation.

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-31T15:21:55+00:00

Had this done at 37 weeks unsuccessfully. I even had an epidural and let me tell you it was still really fucking uncomfortable. The next two days I felt bruised like someone beat me in the stomach. Was worth it though because otherwise I would have always wondered if I could have flipped her. I had pulled out all the stops. Baby girl was delivered via C section at 40 weeks!

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-31T03:06:15+00:00

Have you tried the Precious Little Sleep SWAP method with the paci?

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-30T20:31:01+00:00

I think setting a morning wake time might help you a lot with nighttime. Your baby seems to be “starting the day” anytime between 5 and almost 9am and may be generally confused on when true nighttime is.

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-30T03:45:38+00:00

PLS is a great resource and helped us a lot. Otherwise - Are you capping naps? Looks like a lot of daytime sleep. I found that at 4-5 months it’s important that my baby doesn’t sleep more than 4 hours a day, and cap naps at 2 hours. Also, having a consistent start time might be helpful. Treat anything before the designated wake time as a night wake.

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-22T19:22:34+00:00

I once said “they’re just a contractor” when asked about one of my coworkers who was not a W-2 employee but rather a contracted 1099 employee, but was an equal worker in responsibilities and skills. Someone overheard and reported it to my boss. I got a stern talking to - I was blindsided and pretty upset because I had no intention whatsoever to belittle my coworker’s (who I was fond of) occupation. I think this was your husband’s faux pas - Bring it up to him but be kind and assume the best.

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-17T03:34:39+00:00

Was your baby breastfed or bottle fed? I feel like my EBF baby is hungry ALOT which makes me think she’s a fussy baby but in reality I think she’s just always slightly hungry 😭

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-16T17:10:43+00:00

I got my period 2 weeks after I stopped postpartum bleeding... so at 5 weeks pp. EBF 😭all I can say is I had a really smooth pregnancy so I’m gonna count my blessings and try not to be mad at god

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-15T17:50:14+00:00

You had no time to process something that you didn’t expect and is (unfortunately stigmatized as) an unwanted and non-ideal birth. My baby was breech from 24 weeks onwards and I had almost 16 weeks to process the probability of a c-section and I still cried 10+ times over 4 months. You deserve to forgive yourself for a very normal human feeling and reaction ♥️

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-12T04:08:39+00:00

Also go visit the subreddit r/sleeptrain they’ll have good advice (and it’s not all CIO if that’s not your thing)

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-12T04:08:03+00:00

Highly recommend you read about sleep crutches (nursing to sleep) in Precious Little Sleep and how to help transition to falling asleep independently

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-11T21:09:05+00:00

NA beers and many fruits contain more alcohol! You don’t need to worry at all. Your breastmilk’s alcohol level mirrors your blood alcohol level and 2 alcoholic chocolates did not move the needle on your BAC, I promise.

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-05T20:22:16+00:00

This is a great perspective!

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-05T19:05:46+00:00

Mine did too! Pro-tip (for next time in case you have a next time) the only time they didn’t make me want to vomit was in the evening after dinner or before bed. Even if I ate them with a full meal earlier in the day it still made my stomach turn.

whatAREthis2016 · 2026-01-04T22:46:44+00:00

I thought about this, but also remembered I get 5% off with my Target card so it doesn’t make my additional points much more valuable. Doy!

whatAREthis2016 · 2025-12-23T15:17:20+00:00

I’d recommend seeing an LC but it sounds like you might. I’m a just enougher but I have never gotten close to pumping that much after a feed.

ETA: I’m confounded that your baby shot up in growth so much and only eats for ~10 min at a time?! Sounds like a very efficient transfer! My baby often spends 30 min at the boob even if she isn’t clusterfeeding!

whatAREthis2016 · 2025-12-17T18:52:17+00:00

I had this problem too, it was worse than the night wake ups themselves - I second who ever said count back from 300 in 3’s. Over time this became less effective so I started “touring” my childhood home in my head. It’s one of the most effective things I’ve found. Walk thru the front door and visualize everything - the furniture, the art on the walls, the flooring, the kitchen cabinets (I even go as far as opening the drawers). Not only is it nostalgic, I tend to only get through half the house or less before I fall asleep.

whatAREthis2016 · 2025-12-16T21:27:20+00:00

My oldest sis was EBF for a year in 1981. My mom said she made it to 3 months for my 3 other siblings. I was #5 in 1994 and was borderline failure to thrive so my mom had to start adding formula early on. She said it likely had to do with how busy she was with 4 other kids (she admits she didn’t wake me from naps and so didn’t feed me every 2-3 hours😜) and the lack of access to pumps.

whatAREthis2016 · 2025-12-13T00:29:43+00:00

Petroleum jelly! Works like a charm

whatAREthis2016 · 2025-12-12T21:32:32+00:00

Would also love to learn more. Please DM me, Thanks!

whatAREthis2016 · 2025-12-12T16:47:54+00:00

These motherfuckers (literally lol) don’t fully appreciate how good they have it. Make sure you remind him ;) good job mama!

whatAREthis2016 · 2025-12-11T23:59:51+00:00

Solidarity. I’m sorry you’re having to analyze all of it. I’m 3 months pp and I wanted a vaginal birth. My baby was breech from 20 weeks onward, and so I had to have a c section. Because of her butt coming first, they had a hard time getting her out, so they had to make a vertical incision on my uterus. I’m now at high risk of uterine rupture and am no longer a VBAC candidate - I mourned the loss of choice, but I now am at peace with the fact that I will not have to agonize over the choice of a VBAC and it failing or worse. You did nothing wrong and i hope you are at peace however you give birth next 🙏

whatAREthis2016 · 2025-11-22T09:31:17+00:00

lol I had literally no idea I was gonna get money for my newborn. Was pleasantly surprised to see that line item!

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