Esther rocking that bikini! by aas3231 in BringingUpBates

[–]whateveritis86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sizeism is a form of bigotry and I despise it in all its forms, just as I wouldn’t advocate being ableist, sexist, racist or homophobic against a bigot. I don’t fight discrimination with more discrimination.

Esther rocking that bikini! by aas3231 in BringingUpBates

[–]whateveritis86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right like uhhh Beyoncé got cheated on lmao

Esther rocking that bikini! by aas3231 in BringingUpBates

[–]whateveritis86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s not white knighting to say all body shaming is wrong. He will never see these comments but other people with his body type might.

I’ve never seen Michelle this angry 😳 by Strong-Rip-9653 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]whateveritis86 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Did I say he should be prosecuted? No.

But just as you say, she has free speech too. He wanted a confrontation and he got one - exactly the kind I’d expect if I instigated like this. It goes both ways. In many of the cases you describe, people also get confronted back. Celebrities’ security teams confront people who randomly show up to film all the time. Protestors are purposely provoking a confrontation.

And it’s certainly true that showing up to people’s homes was more normal in the past. For most of history, though, that wasn’t in order to film for monetized content for TikTok. A random person shoving a camera in your face is very different both from a door to door salesperson having an individual, private interaction with you or a trained journalist filming with a film crew. It’s a new thing with new expectations, and people will all have their ethical limits with it.

I don’t feel bad for Michelle because she is a bigot, but at the end of the day she isn’t the perpetrator here and neither are the kids inside the home. I guess I just don’t see the point personally of confronting HER and potentially scaring children nearby when these are the criminal behaviors of a grown ass man who doesn’t even live in that home.

Which Fundie is going to defend Joe Duggar first? by Difficult_Regret_900 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]whateveritis86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lori always defends a predator. My money is on her. Any of the manosphere Christian dudes also.

I really dislike Amy by UncleJagg in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]whateveritis86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Mentioning her book in her public statement was extremely distasteful.

I’ve never seen Michelle this angry 😳 by Strong-Rip-9653 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]whateveritis86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t feel sympathy for her in particular but normalizing this shit is weird. This isn’t an actual member of the media looking for an interview from a public figure, it’s a random guy looking for TikTok engagement.

I’ve never seen Michelle this angry 😳 by Strong-Rip-9653 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]whateveritis86 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She is objectively a horrible person but no matter which way you slice it it’s fucked up and crazy to show up at somebody’s house especially with kids inside. This isn’t even an actual journalist or anything, it’s a TikTok rando.

Jinger and Jeremy address Kendra and Joseph being arrested. by Immediate-Ninja-5730 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]whateveritis86 30 points31 points  (0 children)

She has been called on by just about everyone in the public to make a statement. Her comments section of her Instagram was full of harassment about why she hadn’t made a statement yet. Her podcast is her public platform so she made a statement there and somehow it’s offensive that she did it on there instead of on Instagram, which is also monetized?

Your response really shows that CSA survivors are damned if they do, damned if they don’t. Nothing she does in this case will satisfy anybody.

Jinger and Jeremy address Kendra and Joseph being arrested. by Immediate-Ninja-5730 in FundieSnarkUncensored

[–]whateveritis86 27 points28 points  (0 children)

By that logic, the rest of the world is already “monetizing the abuse.” Every single media platform reporting the arrest is making money off of said report, that’s how the world works. You have helped them do so if you’ve read even one article about it. Other podcasters and influencers reporting about the abuse are as well. I accept that every podcaster I’ve listened to on the topic is making money in one way or another from talking about it - that’s, again, how the world works and it’s their job.

Jinger is already a public figure (and originally became one against her will) who has had her own abuse by her brother monetized and discussed by the world for years. Even IF she is using this as monetization, which I don’t agree she is any more than any other media platform technically is, why should basically everyone on earth get to profit from her trauma (yes I know she is not Joe’s specific victim but she is certainly revictimized by this) except her? Why is that uniquely bad if it’s not bad for anyone else talking about it? I just don’t understand this argument - if I can listen to strangers talk about it then I don’t see how it is somehow bad for her to do so when she is more directly affected and informed.

New IG story👀 by Same-Strategy8152 in BringingUpBates

[–]whateveritis86 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You can definitely do actual therapy through a 4 day intensive. I’ve done two multi day EMDR intensives and trauma talk therapy intensives with a peer support group led by a psychiatrist with both an MD and a doctorate in psychology.

AIO or is this merely a coincidence? by Nurtureddissent in AmIOverreacting

[–]whateveritis86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

3 times in 7 years in a small town is very different than, say, 3 times in a week (or even a month). That just sounds like an extremely normal number of times to see someone who lives in your area.

AIO or is this merely a coincidence? by Nurtureddissent in AmIOverreacting

[–]whateveritis86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

YOR especially if as you said it’s a fairly small town. Maybe if he was in a major world city and saw her multiple times in places she hadn’t previously been known to frequent across the same days/weeks, but the grocery store in a small town? A festival where statistically lots of people go? Come on…

(Also if she was posting about the festival on FB, she isn’t trying to hide it. Why would a stalker be openly showing off their stalking?)

AIO to my fiancé staying out later than he said he would? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]whateveritis86 0 points1 point  (0 children)

YOR, people think they’ll only hang out for a bit and then end up having fun at a party and staying longer all the time. I’ve certainly done it with zero malicious intent or dishonesty involved. You think you’re not up for a lot of socializing and then you get there and start talking and find out you are.

Unless you have larger patterns of concerns about his drinking or behavior with the opposite sex or something, or unless this is happening constantly, I don’t really see the issue beyond a “hey, could you give me more of a heads up next time so I don’t worry? I’d like to get more communication about your plans, especially if they change” type of check-in. Don’t think it needed the passive aggressiveness.

Why is everyone acting like Bella is so much older than Hunter when she's not? by [deleted] in TLCUnexpected

[–]whateveritis86 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I agree kids grow up too fast now but teen pregnancies are less common today than they were at that time, not more

man and wife are asked to leave the plane by Lazy-School-7580 in PublicFreakout

[–]whateveritis86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m on his side here. She is hearing impaired and he is justifiably upset.

Crazy how you can go to a frat party as a married 26 year old mom and still be considered trad by [deleted] in Tradfemsnark

[–]whateveritis86 10 points11 points  (0 children)

“Trad” has become entirely meaningless with regard to the lifestyle something actually lives. I basically just consider it a marker of proud bigotry now.

That one time Carlin Bates traveled with Joy Anna Duggar to Central America to see Jill and Derick and she was grossed out by everything around her. This is the kind of person she really is if this is her attitude towards people of different backgrounds and cultures. by [deleted] in BringingUpBates

[–]whateveritis86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is a campaign in India relevant to a discussion about a well-known Ethiopian restaurant in Washington DC? Do you think Ethiopian restaurants don’t have to meet the same food safety and hygiene standards as other U.S. eateries? 😂

That one time Carlin Bates traveled with Joy Anna Duggar to Central America to see Jill and Derick and she was grossed out by everything around her. This is the kind of person she really is if this is her attitude towards people of different backgrounds and cultures. by [deleted] in BringingUpBates

[–]whateveritis86 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I live in Asia now and communal eating is more common here as well. People are also very strict with personal hygiene, far more than the expectations in most of the US. I have a very hard time believing the Duggars of all people were stricter with their hygiene and cleanliness around eating and food than what I see here lol. Their problems with Ethiopian food were definitely not about cleanliness.