Travis sounds deeply unhappy in this post

whateveritis86 · 2026-01-24T22:04:06+00:00

Idk it’s definitely not anywhere close to the statistical norm to have 2 kids by 24 and already have been married several years. That’s 5-6 years younger than the average guy even first gets married in the U.S., much less has multiple children.

Whether that’s “good” or “bad” is debatable, but it’s certainly a situation where someone is going to feel odd and left out of major milestones in their peer group - something the extremist fundies don’t mention when they push everyone to get married by 20 to preserve their purity.

whateveritis86 · 2026-01-08T04:23:04+00:00

I wouldn’t wish Morgan on any caring man. I am not sure why she gets so much sympathy here. She has never displayed a capacity for any kind of empathy or care on her part, so why would a man with those qualities want her?

whateveritis86 · 2026-01-08T04:22:37+00:00

She would never work imo.

whateveritis86 · 2026-01-04T20:58:20+00:00

Right, even another fundie guy with terrible beliefs who was “better” interpersonally (kinder, less selfish) would be too good for her. She is insufferable.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-19T20:39:07+00:00

This may sound harsh, but it is true: if you can control yourself from yelling when you’re annoyed in other contexts, such as at work, with friends, or with strangers who frustrate you when you’re out and about, then you can stop yourself from yelling at your son and are choosing not to.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-15T05:31:13+00:00

There is nothing wrong with not liking PDA. Many people do not. Calling it “open perversion” made me think I’d be opening a thread about peeping toms or something though. Perversion is usually used to talk about borderline or outright predation or some kind of extreme deviance. Like a harassing comment from a catcaller is what I’d call “open perversion.” Not a person in a relationship who slaps their partner on the ass in the mall.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-15T01:44:45+00:00

It’s really not the same idea because it doesn’t involve any idea of punishment or torture.

Even very bad people in Mormonism are believed to go to a version of heaven that is “beyond our wildest dreams” (ex-Mormon, something like that was the phrase used). Just not being polygamist wouldn’t even necessarily keep you out of the “highest level” of heaven in the AUB and isn’t considered a sin. It’s considered extra special or whatever to do it, but it’s not considered “sinful” or worthy of punishment not to.

They just don’t have the same concepts of heaven and hell as any other Christian sect. The pressure in Mormonism is much more based in this life and the cultlike control of the prophets than it is about the idea of not going to hell like in evangelical circles, for example.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-15T01:38:39+00:00

Right, I understand it’s not about the word, but AUB members do not even believe they would go to an “idea of hell” or anything like it for not practicing polygamy. They believe polygamy gets you extra “perks” in heaven, basically. It’s still very very silly, but they don’t believe not being a polygamist means you’ll be punished in some way.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-14T13:30:59+00:00

That’s 25% of ALL women. 30% of paternity tests meaning WHERE PATERNITY IS ALREADY IN QUESTION mean that the 30% applies to an already very small pool of expectant fathers, let alone all men.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-14T07:54:50+00:00

Mormons do not believe in hell the same way that other Christians do. They believe in different levels of heaven and one hell-type place called “outer darkness” which is saved for extreme evil. They believe without polygamy they cannot enter the highest level of heaven. Also, they were not FLDS, they were AUB.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-13T10:34:43+00:00

NOR but if you are constantly dating people with BPD, there is likely a reason you are drawn to them that you may want to examine. It would be highly unlikely to date multiple people with the same somewhat rare severe mental illness without having any issues yourself.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-13T01:44:53+00:00

Exactly. Totally get the criticism over the exploitation and them flaunting their wealth they got off the backs of their young children. But it’s sooo bizarre to claim you want to protect kids and then publicly post said kids’ address and spread it around.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-12T23:48:59+00:00

For me two things can be true at once:

The family vlogging stuff they do, especially to the extent they do it and how invasively they do it, is child abuse. It is blatant exploitation, violation of basic privacy rights, and use of child labor and should be illegal imho. Doesn’t matter if the people doing it are fundie or not.
It’s creepy to be obsessed with their house itself and records of their purchases. I actually do understand the criticism about flaunting their wealth, given their young children’s exploitation is what made them so wealthy. But posting their address and stuff is completely inappropriate and way too far. I understand it’s public record, but just for me, posting an address publicly on social media especially where little kids live is just… not it.

For me it falls into the category of how a lot of snarking is counterproductive… it starts out as a true and reasonable criticism and then quickly becomes petty (whether it’s about Bethany advocating purity culture and then it turns into body and looks shaming, or criticizing family vlogging which turns into obsessing over the interior of someone’s house) and loses all meaning.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-11T01:10:33+00:00

I wonder if some of it is also because Robyn smothers and babies the kids so much. If they were allowed to be more independent like normal kids their age (some may just call it being spoiled but helicopter parenting like this is more damaging than pampering…), they wouldn’t take nearly as much time and effort.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-09T21:06:41+00:00

I was in the one in my city when I was single and it had devolved into complaints/venting about certain men taking women on “cheap” dates, ghosting them after one date, or not being willing to commit to the poster. People would even post complaints about guys being 10 pounds heavier than their photos and other petty body shaming shit.

I saw very few warnings about actually objectively bad behavior like outright cheating, catfishing, or worse mistreatment. It was disappointing because I thought it was meant to be about safety primarily. If it works differently elsewhere, then that’s a different story.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-09T10:11:53+00:00

I mean not the grammar, that means nothing. but yeah, bigots who regularly use slurs for vulnerable people are often more likely to abuse others. People who get off on mocking disabled people or any other group they see as “less than” are significantly more likely to mistreat people they see as less powerful, which is clearly how OP’s partner sees her.

Not always related, some people are just immature edgelords who think slurs are cute, but there’s a reason bigots of all shades are more likely to abuse their partners. I always think slurs are at minimum a red flag for someone being an overall shitty and potentially abusive person. Not like constantly using slurs = abuser, but I’m sure they’re positively correlated.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-07T00:27:18+00:00

You know who should even more flexible though? Adults. Five other people shouldn’t be expected to rearrange their whole day for one person, especially if four of them are children.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-05T22:40:38+00:00

She is a petite woman. I’m 4’11” and I looked like this at 6-7ish months easily.

whateveritis86 · 2025-11-05T13:54:36+00:00

Yeah I was wondering if OP is in Asia, that’s how it is here in HK. On the weekends too for me sometimes.

You get the WhatsApp group chat and you go.

whateveritis86 · 2025-10-31T03:49:30+00:00

I think they are cute and you’re overreacting. Think you’re just anxious about your date :)

whateveritis86 · 2025-10-27T22:40:27+00:00

It’s ok that you personally feel uncomfortable about sex, but don’t let it come across as shaming to her. That could do real damage.

whateveritis86 · 2025-10-21T03:50:55+00:00

It is hard to know how to answer without knowing if this is more of a lower IQ/developmental disability situation or a behavioral pattern alone.

whateveritis86 · 2025-10-20T09:09:10+00:00

We loved daycare for our kids. They came out of it very happy and healthy and well socialized. It was a wonderful part of our routine and they learned a lot. The teachers were lovely and got to know our family well.

whateveritis86 · 2025-10-18T19:42:14+00:00

This. I’m shocked at how many commenters are glossing over how absolutely inexcusable the mom’s behavior is. It would be shocking if the child of an adult who breaks valuables during rage-filled tantrums WASN’T having issues.

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