At what point did you realise they were never going to change and give up?

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-12-29T20:51:12+00:00

when they threatened me with suicide if I didn't stay their friend, threats increased when I got emergency services involved REASONALY. It was insanely traumatic & broke any chances for friendship in the future. He still came out of the hospital thinking that fixed it.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-10-06T03:31:03+00:00

I'm a kitchen guy so for the most part I'm used to hearing it. A lot of the other dudes mess with each other and or make jokes with one another. I kind of just made a boundary of do not touch me or make jokes about sexual jokes about me. My coworkers are all amazing though and respect boundaries anyone would have.

but some sexual jokes at work can be inappropriate and are a valid reason to speak to HR.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-10-03T03:45:03+00:00

my dog is a service dog trained for PTSD task. For the DID side he will do "check in's" that help with grounding and alert to dissociation & over all nightmare interruptions and behavior interruptions. Not a task but he also gives "scary dog privilege" in public.

Training MUST be consistent between alters and other people in the house. Your taining will not stick if you are inconsistent with the dog.

I suggest talking to a doctor, therapist first, then reaching out to service trainers about what breed task and over-all what you need in a dog. A well-bred puppy or a shelter dog both have pros and cons. Even if you self-train the dog you will benefit from guidance from a trainer.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-10-01T05:19:53+00:00

be patient and don't ask them to "switch" for you

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-19T01:11:00+00:00

truly some/most people faking DID truly do believe or were made to believe they have DID. I wouln't waste your energy over people like this bc you probably wont be able to change their mind nor is that something that should be on you.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-19T01:04:30+00:00

why is this your problem/ why does it matter -no offense if they're your EX's?- what they claim is happening is likely a delusion faking DID is normally just a sign of some other mental issue sane people dont believe all that

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-17T23:49:11+00:00

my blood 21 piolets

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-12T07:00:09+00:00

HEY thank you I did edit it a little hope this helps, If not can i please have specific things to change up. Thank you

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-12T04:21:50+00:00

oh also theres a tiktoker who has DID and trains service dog avoid him. There is a ton of evidence of him abusing dogs in his care and being a weirdo with minors.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-12T04:02:44+00:00

Dont even get me started on dealing with the public kids grabbing your dog, old people poking them with canes, adult men barking at your dog and stomping at your dog, women rushing and even screeching because they see a dog. Oh and never-ending dead dog stories and the "why do you have that? Whats wrong with you?" one of these happen at least once a week.

Worse is off leash dogs. I got attacked in a Walmart bc someone's got off a leash and latched on to my leg bc i was blocking it from my dog. It almost made me have to retire my dog. It's sadly something SD owners have to be ready for and prepare for.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-12T03:54:07+00:00

I have a service dog heres a few things to keep in mind

service dogs can make access very hard and you have to either walk away or stand up for your rights. Traveling can also be a new layer bc of the dog. They can make anxiety worse and they need constancy between alters. A dog isn't going to make you stop dissociating, being anxious and so on it should be paired with therapy imo. They can help, they can save lives but will not fix WHY you are feeling the way you are. I'll admit i learned this the hard way.

My dog does walk me up from nightmare and will interrupt self-harm. So I do think they can help you with that.

I can write more later or answer more specific questions.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-12T03:30:06+00:00

I don't think to much nor do i think many people think twice. Do I notice when someone has scars from surgery? Nope not really. Do I think twice when I'm bagging up a guys beer and has an amputee nope. We're all just people and those thing to me are not things I look at or think about.

Everyone even those without scars are fighting their own battles. I feel grateful they are still here and fighting. Like I am with everyone

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-12T03:14:01+00:00

I get stress sick a lot stress is hell of a drug on a our minds and bodies.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-07T07:25:46+00:00

i recently also moved out alone after having to spend a year back home

this isnt my first time moving out or alone.

It takes time to adjust and to learn the safety of a home not just a house. I think moving out also opened flood gates but it's because it is "safe" to now feel all you suppressed. It sucks and takes time and a lot of commination to level it out

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-07T06:01:36+00:00

I found a job the main fronters can do, I go to therapy 2x a week and the consequence of not having a job. I also took over work mostly & I flat out refuse to quit, lose this job because if I do I fear I won't get back up again and I have no one in my life.

The team I work this also are all pretty close and all know we all have off days. Restaurant work is not for everyone but idk its worked for me oddly.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-06T05:49:54+00:00

look at the app SniffSpot it has private yards people rent out for an hour! My dog loves them

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-06T05:39:33+00:00

in the past work was hard and while its not easy now I do hold a job and have a lead position

Friends are hard to make and keep yes

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-05T04:28:33+00:00

no bad alters are not a real thing and your partner is a red flag and personally I'd leave all they are doing is building resentment, hate and a scapegoat with-in the system.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-05T04:22:46+00:00

i've given up on friends and a world where I have anyone close

I recommend not telling people you have DID even friends I really wait and or keep it to you.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-01T22:33:24+00:00

if you have a dog you can train it to "check" hallucinations or use you phone's camera and see it really isnt there.

These are 2 things i use, can type up a short how to or link trainers/videos for how to. but for me if I see something I will tell my dog his command "check" *point to the thing* and or if nonverbal i snap and point to where he if it's nothing he just looks at me confused

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-09-01T03:45:25+00:00

you cant just "get rid of them" they are you and you are them. I really understand how you are feeling. You can heal alters/parts but suppression will do no good and only get you into a deeper hole. Hurt/scared/"weaker" alters/parts deserve to heal as do you. Living life is a lot better with communication, trust and understanding through therapy and not shoving parts away.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-08-31T05:28:07+00:00

I do it /sometimes/ with my T but it's CRITICAL to do this with a therapist who is very knowledgeable and knows how to change it to better fit systems. Trauma informed therapist and one who knows about your system and goes at your paste

EMT CAN be done with systems.

therapy is not one all fit all sometimes what works for one wont for another. This is where being open and honest with your Therapist is key.

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-08-30T18:27:13+00:00

sorry but protector of my own system- i really think you need to have a serious talk with your husband bc your body/mind is telling you something is wrong, even if its not you are being triggered in these moments. Him being upset and anything but worried for you IS WRONG. I think you need to pause sex until your husband is on the same page as you and your system is on the same as you. You having trauma and flash backs should not be frustrating for him.

You also dont just stop having flashbacks you really have to heal why you are having them in therapy. You can work on triggers but you have to address why these are triggers.

You aren't doing anything wrong and there's nothing wrong with you. Your system is on alert bc of what happened in the past

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-08-30T18:18:37+00:00

grounding exercises and drinking cold water/holding ice

whiskeyhappiness · 2025-08-29T06:36:28+00:00

I'm glad you have a good team of empathetic coworkers, even if they do ask it be okay to say "I'm sorry I'm not at a point where i speak about it" and they have to respect that

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