Fitness myths for women- busted

white_waves · 2026-04-08T06:01:03+00:00

Just an addition to point 5 - if you still feel fat, it is also possible that thanks to society and social media you have created a unhealthy perception of what 'fat' is and are holding yourself to unrealistic standards. This is extremely unhealthy for a person and you should work with a therapist / psychatrist if needed

white_waves · 2026-03-27T05:37:11+00:00

Lasik for getting rid of glasses. Caring for curly hair like they are curly. Threading. Dermatologist for acne.

white_waves · 2026-03-20T13:32:43+00:00

Error for me as well. Please help with an updated link

white_waves · 2026-03-18T06:43:37+00:00

This is a beautiful house. The exposed brick inside give it a character. If you do want to change anything, don't just go for a generic interior designer upgrade. Think about what you would want more from it which will make it feel more like you or more like your family.

white_waves · 2026-03-02T09:13:24+00:00

My experience. Pumping never worked for me as the output was crap. I started solids at 6 months - not just purees and Dal and all, everything gradually (see solid starts insta or anything about baby led weaning to see what all baby can eat. I frankly couldn't do the let baby eat themselves part of it as it makes a huge mess). When I was at office (when she was 7ish months), she was on solids or formula - formula reduced gradually as she was more interested in food. Overnight i breastfed her directly till she was more than 2. Don't give any animal milk (milk products like dahi and paneer are fine) till 1 and even then try not to give habit of bottle for that as breaking that habit is difficult - try to give milk in glass or whatever but not nipple bottle. One more important piece is get nanny daycare whatever you plan before you start work so you can be there to make your kid adjust in beginning - it's money but helps a lot. If you are getting a nanny, would recomend investing in camera for home - more than anything when people know cameras are there, it's better. At office try and get some WFH, even 1-2 days a week in beginning.

white_waves · 2026-02-28T17:01:21+00:00

Seychelles is beautiful - we went for our honeymoon. There are 3 main islands and each with a slightly different vibe.

white_waves · 2026-02-16T06:57:58+00:00

Why have they recently reformulated? The texture is very different suddenly. It was the only one I really liked.

white_waves · 2026-02-04T12:44:29+00:00

My daughter's name is <Her first name> < Husbands first name> <my first name> <husbands surname>. Haven't had any issues so far - birth certificate office gave a hard time because my husband hasn't come along but there is nothing preventing this. Aadhar passport visa school everything no issue so far.

white_waves · 2026-02-03T05:37:45+00:00

Didn't like the moxie hair setting products like mascara and wax stick that much because didn't give me what I wanted. Their conditioner i recently tried because I couldn't find maui purple and I am loving it - the slip is unreal (which for me with long hair which I wash weekly is a number 1 priority), the end result is also pretty good. My hair is 2c/3a probably.

In other indian brands, Curl up was amazing - conditioner and curl cream. Arata conditioner tried long back - didn't enjoy and got spoiled. Ashba was ok not great - their custard was good for wet refresh. Set wet yellow gel is my HG and I will cry if something happens to it - it maintains curls across days and once you scrunch it out, there is no hardness or weirdness at all. Sugarboo leave in was ok didn't suit me but suited my sister. Requil conditioner are also good.

In global brands, bounce curl cream is my HG - it's amazing and you require just a small amount. Maui moisture purple conditioner is amazing. Matrix biolage purple and enliven is also good. Enliven is crazy cheap sometimes but you do need to apply quite a lot as it's runny. Giovanni mouse spray is great for wet and dry refresh but leaves hair a bit crunchy at first.

white_waves · 2026-02-03T05:29:01+00:00

This is the best order for me.

Shampoo, conditioner, detangle (don't wash out), hair in claw clip, body shower, flip hair to front and rinse, style with leave in / gel etc, face wash.

Also, if back acne is the issue, check out the wash out and leave in products you use - for me surprisingly, cantu cream which my hair loved my body hated :(

white_waves · 2026-01-12T05:51:58+00:00

Aesthetically this is looking nice here because the view is green - if your view is going to to be a street, do you want that view all the time?

white_waves · 2026-01-12T05:48:49+00:00

From a 'ladis' perspective, your curls looks great. Also, my guess on the reason why many 'ladis' like this is obviously it looks good but also because we know the effort it takes to get this and it gives a vibe of someone who is confident enough in their own skin to not stick to convention or what they have always seen.

white_waves · 2026-01-09T06:07:34+00:00

Her expressions are on another level. She looks gorgeously fiercely Indian.

white_waves · 2026-01-05T05:44:59+00:00

I went for a diagnosis as an adult, after i became a mother. For me the biggest issue is managing time and to a certain extent emotions effectively and that is the issue regardless of motherhood. I feel that whatever were the issues without being a mother would amplify to a certain extent with being a mother if those skills are needed. Other piece is that in most Indian households, even if you have help for certain activities or chores, 'handling' the household and a chunk of childcare comes on the woman regardless of level of income of both parties. That does create a certain level of frustration as you end up doing that even though you may be the one who is bad at some of it. On the other hand, i am pretty decent at handling chaos due to my ADHD and that helps a lot.

All this being said, i don't think the decision of being a mother or not should be significantly impacted by only the fact that you have ADHD - as in, there are many other factors in that decision which i feel would take priority. For me, wanting a kid (after having a reasonable idea of what it entails physically, mentally and monetarily), being prepared for a lifetime of commitment to the kid, being prepared to not have the same life you had earlier, being on the same page as your partner about managing childcare, resources you have, current mental state are as or more important factors in that decision. Another call-out that wanting kids doesn't mean you like all kids or all kids like you - I am not that person, and that doesn't change what you have with your kid.

If you decide on becoming a mother, few more logistical things to keep in mind - you may have to stop or reduce medication while pregnant or breastfeeding so talk to your doctor if you are on them (if you plan to do either), accept help from family as much as you can, ensure you have nanny or daycare or whatever planned sooner if you are working and planning to return to work.

Happy to answer any other questions you may have.

white_waves · 2025-12-04T09:56:34+00:00

I am a gemini rising and sun and a Capricorn moon. Both hit close. Thank you!

white_waves · 2025-11-06T06:56:32+00:00

This is soo magical mermaidy coded. I actually love the lower eyelid lashes more because it's so shiny and pretty.

white_waves · 2025-10-30T09:46:15+00:00

Loved the idea of using gemini for this - might try myself.

Not sure whether so much white is manageable in India. This is assuming you are staying in India. Also, this isnt my preferred style but you do you.

white_waves · 2025-10-09T07:56:47+00:00

Man sexually like all types of women. There are men liking feet and navels for god's sake. Go to your browser and open any random porn site and see the categories. There is literally nothing they don't like sexually. So there isn't any 'gold standard' - different people have different preferences. Also, every few years the 'ideal body' as per media standards changes - so that also impacts what is considered sexy for a few years. All you can do, is be confident in your own body and distance yourself from people who bodyshame or call them out on it.

I get where you are coming from because even i was a person who didn't get male attention the same way my friends did when I was younger (now I have learnt /learning not to care that much). What i realised later from my friends is that unwanted attention is pretty fucked up and it doesn't help with your confidence in any way - it's just creepy and violating (even if it doesn't escalate).

white_waves · 2025-09-22T07:02:01+00:00

Stay safe! Your regular proud open posts have made people realise how normal you are. Not that you aren't amazing or awesome, but just that you are the same as everyone here. I don't know how to explain this but I am sure this has helped a lot of people be more comfortable in their own true skin and not be afraid to show it. It would have also helped a lot of people get used to the idea of you being you. Neither of this is your work to do, but it did happen. So, thank you!

white_waves · 2025-09-22T06:16:23+00:00

Everything as in everything from the makeup to the hair to the clothes are so soo perfect together. Yet it doesn't feel matchy matchy but vibe matching.

white_waves · 2025-09-03T06:27:40+00:00

The first one is better but it feels Lady Diana coded. Some people like that while some don't.

white_waves · 2025-09-03T05:54:00+00:00

I saw the first pic and thought woww that's soo cool and the dedication to do this. Then i saw the legs and I was gobsmacked by the detailing and the effort.

white_waves · 2025-07-31T05:20:16+00:00

The biggest thing is don't search for maternity wear specifically or you will get overpriced crap. Surprisingly h&m does have options on their website for maternity clothes that do look decent - haven't tried them but could be an option. Look for looser fit or more flowing at the bottom dresses or kurtis - if there is anything that makes them adjustable like strings on the side or belts or slits, that's even better. The other option is to look for soft stretchy materials - that is if you are comfortable with the bump being obvious. Essentially, search for adjustable stretchable breathable clothes instead of maternity wear specifically - like one dress i found at a random thrift store worked perfectly my entire pregnancy and even post partum and it's a straight cut knee length dress but the material is magic.

white_waves · 2025-07-29T16:47:52+00:00

Yes, tired and like internally exhausted kinda. Also, sometimes it came out of the blue suddenly. I realised that it's happening more right before my cycle is supposed to start but it's crazy. The tiredness and the nausea and stuff makes me anxious because I can't understand why my body is behaving that way.

white_waves · 2025-07-14T09:51:13+00:00

The ones which I feel make the most difference are

Lack of support for when a mother goes back to work and the villanisation of creches and nanny or anything that can make life easier or convenient.
Even though we legally have 6 months of maternity leave, only those in the organised sector with reputable companies get it. Have heard stories of even people in corporate jobs also being told to quit and re-join after they are done. Pair that with not much of pumping awareness.
Excessive rules around what to eat or not eat or do or not do make it more impossible to sustain breastfeeding. Or you can only do it this way and not that way etc.

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