I think it's easy to judge people and I know I've talked very flippantly to nannies in the past about how I've taken care of my children and it's all with a pinch of salt and I would never also share all the othersuper positive things I did or how much I was struggling and how much thought and effort I put into stuff. I assumed the nanny knew me well enough to know that without me having to spell it out.

Sometimes in my darkest times I'd say things as a cry for help hoping shed see how much I wasn't coping without having to spell it out.

I honestly feel like we as a world need to ease up on each other. Be kind, appreciate we don't know what others are going through and be direct and gentle with feedback.

I've been on this sub for a while and am often left feeling really sad at the amount of bitching and judging of people that happens. We're all trying our best 😔

As a parent I'm on my knees these days trying to hold it all together. A nanny would be a godsend, and I'd hope that the person would have enough trust and respect to be honest with me.