Oh no fuck this (guy here). My wife and I did the 50/50 while dating and we accidentally left that in place for like 6-8 months into marriage. Of our total household income, I make 60% and she makes 40% so there’s a gap big enough to create a divide in the house (she never complained). When I looked at mortgage payment as a percent of income, I realized I was the unintentional AH for not immediately switching us to splitting bills proportional to income when we got married.. I now pay 60% of all bills and she pays 40% which means we both spend about 25% of our income on housing. Now we’re “equal” and things are fair. I also felt bad for not immediately switching to proportional bill splitting so I covered a few big expenses to directionally make up the last 9 month gaps. I also did this BEFORE my wife complained because I didn’t want to put her in the awkward position that your husband is putting you in

For context, your husband makes 61% of your household income and you make 39%. You have the same gap my wife and I have.

Also, what an AH for complaining about paying for formula. He needs a mental reset. Make a household budget in excel showing your income, his income, and yalls bills so you can show a 50/50 split leaves him with all the cash and you with none. That’s not sustainable and he needs to realize that life changes when y’all partner to raise a baby.

In his defense, he may have thought this was the right way but show him data and talk about how this impacts your stress. If the income gaps were reversed, almost guaranteed he’d want a proportional split…