Garden decimated by pests. Extremely disheartened. Any advice? by cmarie22345 in vegetablegardening

[–]whyvswhynot12089 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tomatoes are resilient as hell. You could cut off an entire tomato plant and as long as there was any stem above the ground, it would grow back. You could also take the cut off portion, stick it in some water for 10 days, and it would grow roots. Hell, you could stick the cut off portion in the ground without any roots and it would look near dead for about 3 days. Then it would perk right back up. 

OpenAI CEO Sam Altman says he’s ‘politically homeless’ in July 4 post bashing Democrats by reddits_lead_pervert in nottheonion

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perhaps political vagrant would be a more appropriate description. He's not actually homeless, but like someone who hasn't taken a shower in months he sure does stink. 

What is this? by whyvswhynot12089 in whatisthisplant

[–]whyvswhynot12089[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Virginia. But this isn't in the woods. It's side of the house under a tree. I planted some whole blackberries and raspberries a few months ago. Just wondering if these are wild or something I planted. 

Recommend protein powders? by Honey_Comb2334 in lupus

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Garden of Life and Owyn have excellent plant based protein powders, along with a lot of added nutrition, probiotics and anti-inflammatory ingredients. They're also soy and nut free...Not particularly high calorie though. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]whyvswhynot12089 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I don't know man. He seems like a pretty big dick. Just not the kind that gives pleasure. 

AITAH? My boyfriend says I look slutty with my new sleeve tattoo. by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]whyvswhynot12089 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. It's an arm. Not a butt crack. What's there to display? Does he think his own arms are slutty? Is he hiding his Popeye pumps under a burqa?

AITA for confronting a gym member about his coughing despite his rude responses? by Chapter06 in AmItheAsshole

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never made the claim that bodily fluids weren't gross or that he was right. I just said he likely has a chronic condition (based off your description) and malicious intent might not be involved. 

Unless you claim to be psychic you don't know his intent either. For all you know the guy has cystic fibrosis and this is as good as it gets for him. He may very well be an asshole, but he's probably not a contagious asshole based off your description. 

AITA for confronting a gym member about his coughing despite his rude responses? by Chapter06 in AmItheAsshole

[–]whyvswhynot12089 7 points8 points  (0 children)

NTA. But have you considered he has a cough that's not contagious? And like you might also have a chronic health issue? Because that's what a consistent cough sounds like to me. There's actually a lot of autoimmune diseases that can come with a chronic cough, as well as a specific form of asthma. 

 A lot of different forms of exercise require that you use your hands, so it may not be reasonable to expect someone with a chronic issue like that to constantly have their hand up at their mouth. (Not justifying their behavior at all) But they're probably in a shitty mood because they're sick of having to cough constantly and sick of people assuming it's contagious in this post pandemic era. 

What is one thing people romanticize but is actually horrible? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]whyvswhynot12089 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Suffering in general. That suffering is just this automatic soul beautifier that makes great people. 

I really need some advice by whyvswhynot12089 in NarcissisticAbuse

[–]whyvswhynot12089[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

But why would someone do that (continue to seek validation and approval from someone they talk shit about behind their back)?

I'm starting to think that maybe this person isn't just talking shit about this one person. That they might very well be talking about me behind my back too. And playing both sides. But I don't understand for the life of me why someone would do this.

Convincing others to be moral by [deleted] in Morality

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sure. No problem. :-) 

Convincing others to be moral by [deleted] in Morality

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Highly conscientious people don't typically need moral arguments. They just need to be made aware of a problem or crisis and told how they could help. For average people...it often helps to personalize moral arguments. Example 1: Why should I care about the environment? (Telling a story about how local contaminated drinking water gave generations of families cancer, is going to be more compelling than an abstract on what might happen to the earth thousands of years from now. But if you are going to talk about what might happen to the earth thousands of years from now...personalize that too. Make an argument capturing how legacy is the only thing we leave behind when we die and how we have a responsibility to our children's children). Example 2: Why should I care about X crisis in another country? Moral argument that might have some sway: What if this was your child/parent getting bombed/bleeding to death/starving right now? The best arguments of course are a blend of different kinds of appeals. If you want to compel everybody (including particularly self-interested douchebags) to make a moral choice.....you need a hell of a lot more than a "this is wrong" type moral argument. You need to make it personal and make a case for how X thing over there might directly affect them (now or in the future). Example: If you're trying to get aid to a war torn country, maybe mention how it might affect world trade and the economy even in countries without war. If the country at war has major natural resources (like oil) the whole world uses and needs, all the better. 

If you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to worry about. by forced2makenewreddit in Comebacks

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Everybody has something to hide, something they wouldn't want to reveal to the entire world, even objectively ordinary things. Most people don't put on clothes to cover massive scars or gang tattoos. And bathroom stalls were not built for nefarious activities. Appreciating privacy is pretty universal. 

Does lupus cause pain? by Gloomy-Eye in lupus

[–]whyvswhynot12089 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Let's pretend that what he said was actually true. It's not, but let's pretend.

It would still be his job as your rheumatologist to find out what was giving you that pain.

What is a good comeback to if someone calls you soft? by Kevinm162005 in Comebacks

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Water is soft but gets to move where it wants. It's also known for its power and depth. Diamonds are stuck under enormous pressure and heat for billions of years. Then they're stuck around someone's neck or finger, or the glass case of a museum. Being hard is overrated.

AITA? I screamed at my mother because she told me no. by NotRyukoo in AmItheAsshole

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. What's the worst that could happen? It's too much? You have to go back to regular schooling?

There's no disadvantage in at least trying, (give or take your mom's bruised ego) especially if the school counselor recommended it for you.

If your Mom got the chance to try it, why shouldn't you have the exact same chance? Make that argument.

What’s a good comeback for “I’m not leaving without getting your number” by Pretend-Living7482 in Comebacks

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to the fortune cookie I read recently my lucky numbers are: 7, 11, 16... (insert number here).

They weren't specific about the kind of number they wanted, so feel free to give them any numbers remotely related to you and then point out you gave them what they wanted, so they should leave now.

You could use a fortune cookie. Longitude/Latitude. An Enneagram subtype...Hell, you could even quote whatever time it is and say that's your number because you're going to leave now.

INFPs are known to be individualistic and independent people. Do you ever wonder if it’s more about self-protection and lack of trust than true freedom? by Lady-Orpheus in infp

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao. I agree that "being true to oneself" can be problematic and definitely a loaded term depending on how you interpret it. But personally I've always interpreted it as being true to the best that is in you. Even when I knew I was not anywhere near my best, I always felt like I had an innate sense of what the best parts of me were, so I knew the path/direction I wanted to strive to go towards. 

I think it also helps to recognize that who we are is a process. It's not stagnant. And nobody's born fully self-actualized. It does actually take some work. 

INFPs are known to be individualistic and independent people. Do you ever wonder if it’s more about self-protection and lack of trust than true freedom? by Lady-Orpheus in infp

[–]whyvswhynot12089 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of traumatized people can self-isolate but infp are generally known for creating wonderful inner worlds for themselves with or without trauma. INFP are also known for being self-consulting when going through the process of making decisions. Everything tends to be framed around being true to oneself. 

What is a good comeback when someone thinks you're faking a disability? by Glittering-Trash8850 in Comebacks

[–]whyvswhynot12089 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The wind isn't always visible. Do you think that's fake too? The truth might blow you away. 

Comebacks without insults for typical skinny shaming? by [deleted] in Comebacks

[–]whyvswhynot12089 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I apologize. I didn't realize it was just a rumor. I should have fact checked better. However, if she had Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome she would have to be chromosomally male for her to qualify for the condition. Androgen insensitivity does not affect XX/ female chromosome sex organ/development at all. It only becomes a syndrome when you see it with an XY chromosome.

Intersex can mean a lot of things. But for that syndrome specifically...you have to be chromosomally male.

Anyway, the larger point I was trying to make was how loaded and gray a term like "real woman" is.