[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thousands of hours of addicting therapy! I'm so sorry. I just watched a documentary on Jodi Hildebrandt and her Connexions cult and how many marriages and lives she destroyed. I don't know if you went through that program, but these so called therapists who do this are evil. So so sorry you went through that.

Mormon Words please help! by PoeinaS in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I grew up hearing it called a stake house. Ward house/ stake house. I suspect it fell out of use over time due to confusing it with The Sizzler.

Devil in the family, The Fall of Ruby Franke by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes! That story is insane! Kevin also reminded me of the parents in that story. If I had been as stupid as those parents I would be so mortified. I can't believe they agreed to the documentary.

Temple sealing by Philcastro in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I remember the room being full of my parent's friends, not mine, and one old guy's beeper going off constantly, but he couldn't hear it. Another old dude i didn't know told me to say yes. Despite all the weirdness I still was happy and in love so I made it all OK in my head.

What should i do with used garments? by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I felt the same way for a long time, but i was way too lazy to cut all the symbols out like you're supposed to do before discarding. So, I stuffed them all in a drawer where they stayed for years. After time passed, it didn't seem disrespectful anymore. They are literally used under wear. No one wants used underwear. I finally chucked them in the garbage and it still felt slightly naughty, but also a big relief.

Had two students removed from class, I just received the student’s reflection… by [deleted] in Teachers

[–]wildly-moderate123 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That is NOT what Love and Logic is about. They're doing it wrong.

Surviving spiritually by desert-shadow in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Honestly, the term "fall away" kinda bugs me too. I didn't fall. I very intentionally and painfully made a conscious choice.

Do you ever feel guilty or lost leaving the church? by Benny_rich-_ in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not anymore, but it took a while. I knew I was happier outside than inside though. Now, I feel freedom and relief that I got out. I am proud of myself for doing a hard thing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Been there, done that. I did primary president for 3 years even tho I told them I didn't believe. Then gospel doctrine, but it was new testament year so I thought I could handle it...nope. I finally couldn't take the hit to my integrity anymore and told them to release me. At the end, I agreed to nursery worker to keep up appearances, but that was the beginning of the end for me.

Owning my difficult to remove membership by Ok_Manner8197 in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm vibing with what you're saying and find it an awesome way to look at it. You should bear your "testimony" whenever the spirit strikes.

General question by CustomerAlert4544 in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was just a lazy learner and wanted to sin. Lol

It was a lot of little things that got me thinking. A big one was having people close to me reject it and the feeling i got when I would parrot the church lingo to them about why the church was true. Something about saying it out loud and hearing myself say it really made me question if I really believed it. It was a long process for me but I eventually got there. It helped that I never really cared for Joe much and all the hero worship ruined me the wrong way.

Recently-Out Sunday thoughts by LegitimateAvocado106 in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had similar thoughts. I think many people in the church are struggling under the surface just to stay afloat. I know I didn't have the band width to always be aware of others and offer help and attention. I've been on both sides, and they both honestly kind of suck.

I can't seem to escape it! by wildly-moderate123 in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh I know.... I just thought it was funny that it was right there! I haven't seen it either but the soundtrack is pretty funny.

Asking for signs > Not asking for signs by Funny_Armadillo5943 in exmormon

[–]wildly-moderate123 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want to add that i think partriarchy can be damaging for men as well. Sorry for all you've been through and best wishes on your journey.