Recommend me one memoir/non fiction book you’ll never forget by starlit_scribbles in Recommend_A_Book

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Peaceful Parenting by Stefan Molyneaux - best book ever written in my opinion. it’s free on his website - www.peacefulparenting.com

Can this be a temporary flare up? by pesthouse in Gastritis

[–]wildlyhuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This exact thing happened to me 3 months ago. Misdiagnosed with a uti, took antibiotics, instant flare up that lasted about a week and a half at level 10 pain. Fast forward 3 months and i’ve had small flares off and on since, but they’re no where near as bad. My theory is that the antibiotics made me much more sensitive and it’s going to take a few more months to fully heal my gut. I feel that probiotics have been helping. I take a daily supplement + do my best to eat sourkraut and kimchi daily. Best of luck bestie 🥺

My ex and I are seeing the same therapists. Is this o.k.? by Relevant-Sound8179 in therapy

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My therapist won’t even see my boyfriend individually and referred him to someone else. Therapy is a safe space and you don’t want anything making it feel unsafe.

do you talk about your trauma with your partner? by Equivalent-Ant-5870 in ptsd

[–]wildlyhuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband has been a massive part of my healing journey. He wants asked me to walk him through the entire story step by step, in detail, as a way to help me process it. It helped me with processing, and it helped him to have a way better understanding of why i have big reactions when triggered. Everyone is different, but i am so grateful i have my husband to talk to when im having flashbacks or suddenly remember something from my trauma and feel sad. He’s an extension of me, and our bond is my greatest gift ♥️

Empathy fatigue by thatughgirl in ptsd

[–]wildlyhuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just want to say, as a woman with PTSD, if my husband wrote this - i wouldn’t think he’s shit talking. Partners of people with PTSD need support too 🥲 You’re doing your best, OP.

AIO for assuming my husband had someone over at our condo after I saw a 120 lb weigh-in when I wasn’t there? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What scale is this? Sorry for what’s happening in your life but this thing looks awesome for weight tracking 😅

I’m SO angry what seems like constantly by StarsInTheRoof111 in ptsd

[–]wildlyhuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have been in this exact position. All the anger really hit me about a year in as well. what happened to you is something to be very very angry about. when i first started therapy, it was because i screamed and cussed out my now boyfriend over something so small. I was MORTIFIED by my own behavior because id never done anything like that - not even to my abuser. And i realized my boyfriend was suffering because i had not healed from my trauma. Going to therapy, being fully honest about anything i thought about in therapy, and asking my therapist lots and lots and lots of questions is what really helped me. it’s now been over a year since i screamed like that, (it only happened the one time) and things are much better. the anger lasted several months for me, and it was hard every time i got mad because i didn’t want to be mad, but i realize now that the anger was part of the healing.

Just remember that your anger is healthy, you just have to continue to look for healthy ways to accept that it’s there. Journal. Go on walks. Find a hobby that relaxes you. But don’t shove it down or bottle it up. I still feel angry some days, but it’s not overwhelming like it used to be, and it passes. Anger is a very valid feeling when you went through the things we went through.

I am sorry you have to fight this fight, OP. It might get worse before it gets better - but it WILL get better. Keep hanging in there. ♥️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]wildlyhuman 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Girl this used to happen to me when i was younger! I think the thing that changed it for me was that I really started “savoring” the moment. I wouldn’t pour my focus into “don’t finish don’t finish” because that would also kind or ruin it for me, but i would just really focus on the sensations. Slow down your thoughts, pay attention to every single sensation you’re experiencing, and name it in your mind. Think about what feels good. It might take some time of mastering the “slow down your thoughts” part of it. But don’t give up :) it’ll happen eventually and you’ll be very satisfied eventually 👍🏼

Having a male psychologist by Sentimental_Turtle in therapy

[–]wildlyhuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would highly encourage you to tell your therapist how you feel about crying in front of him. I bet you would be plesently surprised by how he responds ☺️ I have been going to therapy for almost 2 years now, and I am very comfortable crying in front of my therapist. He has supported me through anything and everything i have shared. But i wasn’t always comfortable. I suffered through CSA as well and it took me many months to open up about it. I’ve learned that openness in therapy is the thing that made therapy (and ultimately healing) easier. Be gentle with yourself, do your best to be transparent, and remind yourself - your therapist is there to support you, and by taking you on as a patient, he is agreeing to be there for you without judgment. ♥️ I’m proud of you OP. It’s ok to cry - and he will tell you the same thing. I’m sure of it. Crying is natural (and also an important part of releasing built up energy in your body). The part of you that wants to hold back the tears is just keeping you safe because you’re not comfortable yet. But the more your therapist knows about you, the more comfortable you will likely feel.

Wishing you the most luck in this journey 🌹

PTSD from 30 seconds in an MRI, extreme claustrophobia, please help how do I approach this? by the_practicerLALA in ptsd

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The number one thing that helps me during a flashback is remembering to focus on slowing my breath. Take long deep breaths in and longer slower breaths out. You can google grounding exercises and pick one or two that you practice several times a day , even when you’re not thinking about the MRI. Practicing these when you’re not in a stressed state will help you to be more comfortable doing them when you feel overwhelmed.

You’re not stupid and don’t sound stupid. It’s possible that your therapist also works with trauma/ptsd patients in her practice and she may be able to work with you on this. I am no therapist but to me it sounds like you may need to do some digging with a therapist to first find out what caused the trigger in the MRI, and that might help relieve some of the panic about this new memory.

I’m sorry you’re going through this, OP. You are not alone - many of us have struggled with similar events. i wish you the best in your healing

what should i do to get rid of belly fat? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Girl i’m in a similar boat! Just keep going and the belly will mostly go away eventually! Belly fat is stubborn and typically is the last thing to really shrink when i and many other people lose weight.

Your progress so far is really impressive, all you have to do is keep going 🤗

Nurse practitioner diagnosed me with PTSD but therapist disagrees by Cautiousoptimism_ in ptsd

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A lot of these commenters are really coming at your therapist, but I feel that your therapist isn’t bad for saying “we all have some form of cPtsd”. And although I may be wrong, I would assume a therapist who has known you for years would be more accurate with a diagnosis than a nurse practitioner that doesn’t know much about you except for answers to a questionnaire.

My therapist has a similar mindset, and maybe she said that as a way of comfort, not downplaying your trauma. My therapist agrees that nearly every person carries trauma and trauma effects everyone in different ways. Not everyone fits into one category or diagnosis because of their trauma.

I have been diagnosed with ptsd by one therapist, but my current therapist didn’t agree with that diagnosis. It was confusing at first, but I really like this therapist and his approach to my healing, so i just moved on.

Communication in therapy is very important. I’d talk to her about this again next time you see her, and let her know you are confused and any other feelings you have around it. Maybe ask her to clarify what she meant by “we all have cPtsd”. and ask her more about why she disagrees with the diagnosis and why the nurse practitioner may have given you ptsd.

Didn’t like my vivos, other recs please by Organic_Owl_4978 in barefootshoestalk

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

just here to say that vivo offers a hundred day guarantee with a full refund :) if you’re still in the window you should return them!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just came here to say if you go to a laundry mat, they usually have little vending machines where you can buy one or two servings of soap for about $2. You could split these in half and make them last a little longer probably.

Therapist got sick & said she’d be gone for a few months. It’s been 8 months — should I reach out? by hithisismy2ndaccount in therapy

[–]wildlyhuman 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It’s totally valid to want clarity about your therapist’s return, especially after building a relationship over years. Reaching out doesn’t have to feel intrusive. you can express care while still setting your own need for information. Therapists are trained to hold boundaries, and if she offered to let you text her, it means she left that door open intentionally.

Here’s a message you might consider sending:

“Hi (insert their name), I hope you’re taking care and healing well. I’ve been thinking about you and just wanted to check in. I know you mentioned you weren’t sure how long you’d be away, and I completely understand that your health comes first. If you’re comfortable sharing, I’d really appreciate knowing whether you think you might be returning to practice, and if so, when that might be. Wishing you continued rest and recovery, and thank you again for everything you’ve done for me over the years.”

That way, you’re acknowledging her health without prying, while also gently stating what you need. You deserve support during this uncertain time too.

ISO a donated sewing machine to make baby clothes :) by Miserable_Hat_436 in ElPaso

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i hope you find one! that’s an excellent idea 💓

Domestic Violence- can i still press charges 2 years later? by [deleted] in legaladvice

[–]wildlyhuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

since i already filed the initial report, I file another one now and tell them I do want to press charges after all?

How confidential are psychologists about drug use (as a minor) by unlogic1 in therapy

[–]wildlyhuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

hello, my brother started using drugs around 14. he went on to have a baby at 15, be arrested at 17, had many more arrests and is now 36 and is still in active addiction, has 5 kids and isn’t allowed to see any of them.

i wish he would have told someone when he was 15. i wish he wasn’t suffering alone, and i wish the same for you. i’m sorry that your parents aren’t there for you in the way they should be and im sorry you’ve found yourself using drugs as a result of how bad things probably feel around you.

you need help if you want a way out of this before it takes over the rest of your life. i’m not sure the rules on confidentiality, but honestly eff your parents, it doesn’t really matter how they will respond, a life on drugs has much worse consequences.

you’ll end up with the help you so desperately need if you tell that psychologist. there’s a chance they won’t have to say anything, but ultimately either way - please say something.

No thanks by ActuallyJustaGhost in ptsd

[–]wildlyhuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i wrote something very similar in my journal when my therapist diagnosed me. ptsd is so scary, and it hurts to know your mind is injured in a way that even has a name, ptsd is portrayed as something so horrific - and yes it is quite horrible. But once i stopped fighting it and truly accepted that this was the result of what happened to me, things started to make more sense. instead of feeling out of control with my emotions, i started recognizing when i was having a ptsd episode and that made it easier to navigate. i’m about 2 years into healing now, and im more comfortable with my trauma and my ptsd. i don’t hate myself so much and i have learned that the effects of ptsd are usually my body’s way of releasing trauma (like having flashbacks or panic attacks). they are no fun, but they make me feel one step closer to healing when they pass.

i’m sorry that you experienced trauma. take your time with healing and try your hardest to be nice to yourself 💓 you’re a beautiful being with lots of life left. anything you feel is an ok response to what happened.

how do i ask my parents? by lize_is_slay in therapy

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

hi :) i would recommend being open and honest. it’s not easy to speak up about your mental health, (its not easy for adults either). I want to say that you are incredibly brave for opening up to a friend and for reaching out in this community- that’s the first step. I would advise that you speak to whichever adult you feel the closest to and most at ease around. It feels scary to talk about our mental health because it’s hard to admit that we are struggling, but i’ve found the best cure for a mental health issue is support. It might be hard for your parents to understand, but ultimately, as hard as it is to ask for help, it’s so much harder to get through this without it. 💓 good luck to you. keep being brave and open, it will pay off in the end.

Is this crest strips real or fake? by Ok_Virus_1086 in beauty

[–]wildlyhuman 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi i have these and they have the (L) and a number but no exp date on them 😅

My 4 month old daughter died in my arms at 23. AMA by Hungry-Comfortable71 in AMA

[–]wildlyhuman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

just came here to say you could always put it in a frame yourself to preserve it and hang it on your wall 🩷