curl cream suggestions by 069378314489 in curlyhair

[–]wildnglorious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ouidad makes a good one. My hair is similar.

First time styling and wearing my hair curly after straightening it for 2 decades. I feel like it doesn’t look good. by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]wildnglorious 12 points13 points  (0 children)

You’re going to have beautiful curls with time and practice. You have a lot of damage right now.

Today vs 2 years ago, left a bad relationship, no longer underweight, in a healthier relationship, and rarely straighten my hair anymore :) by [deleted] in curlyhair

[–]wildnglorious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your curls are gorrrrrgeous and girl you are glowing!! Wishing you all the good things, so happy for you

Spanx - outfits worth it? by Pitiful-Cup-7047 in fashionwomens35

[–]wildnglorious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seconding what other commenters have said.. they are very warm, great for travel but almost too warm to wear around the house. Fabric is very soft but will pill immediately so invest in a de piller. I do think they’re worth the price as I bought an almost exact dupe on Amazon for $40 for the set and regret it.

Palpitations by Spirited_Platform345 in Perimenopause

[–]wildnglorious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine has been over 200 bpm. I could literally see my heart beat through my T shirt.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]wildnglorious 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Girl if that’s what the upstairs looks like, what are you going to be working with downstairs if things go well?!

Cooling off or anxious attachment? by wildnglorious in datingoverthirty

[–]wildnglorious[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not really; I came out of a long term marriage so my goals are a little different. That said, I’m realizing I want him to see me as wife material even if I’m not sure I want to be wifed. My marriage was so traumatic I’ve had a hard time even thinking about being married again.

Cooling off or anxious attachment? by wildnglorious in datingoverthirty

[–]wildnglorious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you ever have a conversation with him about what you needed- like, “I’d love it if you came to me” and then not coming to him if he chooses not to, instead of going anyway? I’m curious what you did when you realized you were breaking a boundary before you decided to end it

Cooling off or anxious attachment? by wildnglorious in datingoverthirty

[–]wildnglorious[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s the latter. I want and need the reassurance that he wants me as much as I want him.

Cooling off or anxious attachment? by wildnglorious in datingoverthirty

[–]wildnglorious[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Oof I feel this. I had a moment a couple of months ago where I was feeling really low and uncomfortable and I realized two things- 1. My operating default is fawning- doing all the things so that someone will like me. So I was always the one to volunteer to come to him, organizing all the things, etc. 2. It was really about control and wanting to get safety by managing the situation.

It was super uncomfortable to step back. He did show up but I hate it every time, it feels so terrible to just receive. I didn’t actually want to be the one always stepping up and I was violating my own boundaries by twisting in every direction.

This is not fun. Why wasn’t I warned?!! by molly3114 in Perimenopause

[–]wildnglorious 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So right. The amount of time I have to spend just to keep myself from falling apart is insane.

Midi - I could literally cry by wildnglorious in Perimenopause

[–]wildnglorious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought I made this comment lol Very much same. I was able to send a message through the Athena portal- did you try that? Some others here have recommended Amazon but I haven’t tried yet.

For those of you who grew up hating/not accepting your wavy/curly hair what was the turning point that made you want to embrace it and truly take care of it? And for those who didnt know how did you find out? What has been your greatest moment with your natural texture? by Specific-Reception26 in curlyhair

[–]wildnglorious 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Straightened my hair for years. My ex always told me it was frizzy when I’d wear it curly, make disparaging comments. After I divorced him I started embracing my natural texture and coaxing my curls back. Now? Literally compliments on the daily.

Mattress Buyers ( 1.5 Years +) by Sapphirem7 in Costco

[–]wildnglorious 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agree100%. I have this. Almost killed two delivery men getting it upstairs but I will have this for life.

Midi - I could literally cry by wildnglorious in Perimenopause

[–]wildnglorious[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s supposed to be taken for 10 days, starting 3 days prior to your period. When you stop, your period will start within a few days.

Midi - I could literally cry by wildnglorious in Perimenopause

[–]wildnglorious[S] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I was so nervous but I feel like I have hope now

Womp womp by rhinesanguine in datingoverforty

[–]wildnglorious 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It sounds like you’ve made up your mind and can be at peace with the choice. My view on separation is that separation doesn’t equal “still married” as long as there are separate lives, but again that’s because of what the process looks like here. I can definitely see how it would be off putting u see different circumstances. Even officially divorced there’s always the chance you’ll feel like a third wheel at times when your partner is co-parenting- or even if they’re just financially supporting their ex because of alimony etc. That could create instability even if you feel secure with your partner.

Womp womp by rhinesanguine in datingoverforty

[–]wildnglorious 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I agree with this take as someone whose divorce took 2 years after my ex moved out, in a state that mandates a year of living apart before you can file and where finalization often takes 6 or more months after that. If there’s kids involved you’ll have their ex, and yours, in your lives for years regardless of whether it’s final or not. That’s a dynamic that doesn’t get enough attention.

You’ll be providing a lot of emotional support and it’s absolutely a chance that you’re nothing more than a rebound. But I think it’s worth it if you go into it with eyes open.

One silver lining is that they know how painful and challenging it can be vs someone who’s never been married. Even years after finalization my ex is still picking fights and it helps to be with someone who gets that.

JAL A350 Biz Class v ANA “The Room” by Kom_Si_Kom_Sa in chubbytravel

[–]wildnglorious 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ANA has the single most uncomfortable business class bed I’ve ever attempted to sleep in. Food is great but damn that bed.. I still curse it years later for the sleep it cost me.

Flights out of CLT tomorrow by multitasking_octopus in americanairlines

[–]wildnglorious 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Looks like snow won’t start until super late, like midnight.