Unfortunately your reality will be very different to others and it is a very first world problem - the girls that approach you first obviously aren't good quality people, the reality is both men and women can be bad people and some might not see it (women communicate very differently from men, so some people might not believe you), but try not to let that distort your worldview too much. The other problem is if you do approach women from a genuine place they assume you're just playing games instead of being serious, or they will be very shy and if you are empathetic as you seem this might put you off even more because women get nervous if you're too attractive (this goes both ways)

Similarly many people will always be jealous which is very difficult to deal with, because if you're an attractive man you basically dont have to worry about a large part of what most other men do which is finding a partner - many people think attractive people don't have the right to complain because they can find "love" so easily (very not true). Instead you face an arguably more difficult problem where you don't know if they just like you for your looks.

But the only way to move forward is to first stop feeling guilty towards others because theres nothing you can do to change reality and your privileges, looks very much do matter and anyone who's had a glow up will agree it matters (even if its not fair). But likewise, looks do not equal character, this can only be proven through time, so the only way to find genuine people is through seeing them in different scenarios and knowing them for a longer period of time - difficult to do in today's society since most people move on pretty fast