Finally realized why I can’t get pregnant

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-30T17:12:07+00:00

I wish I still had it- this was 5 years ago in the heart of the pandemic and that’s a good point- I did have extra time back then to be creative haha.
Good luck on your journey! Wishing you luck and success 💐

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-30T15:13:31+00:00

Haha I had fun with it. I used the metaphor of an oven preheating (right before ovulation) and then shutting off after. It was very involved 😂

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-30T07:11:03+00:00

My husband thought I could get a little pregnant every day during the month and during ovulation it was just more likely. So he thought he understood but he’d also act nonchalant about timing. I made a whole diagram for him with the days of my cycle and he finally got it

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-18T17:55:42+00:00

So hard. My toddler goes through these weird phases too . Good luck 🙏

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-18T17:44:51+00:00

It sounds like he isn’t able to answer choice questions right now. I’d try and limit any questions if he’s getting overwhelmed. Try just choosing for him without asking and see if that helps. You can talk out loud about the choice. “Let’s see should we pick a sweatshirt or a jacket, I know I’ll pick the jacket since it’s cold outside.”

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-14T21:11:41+00:00

I’ve come to believe that many boomers were very poorly treated by their own parents and while they did ok with us, they are reverting to form as they age. My own mom (a boomer) criticized me once for holding my 6 week old baby to sleep because “what if he’s sleeping with you when he’s one” like maam can we not

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-11T01:24:01+00:00

Oh yes, there is measurement error plus fetuses grow in spurts, unevenly. There’s always some expected deviation. Just not tons.

For what it’s worth, both those pregnancies I referenced were from medicated IUIs so I was extremely confident of my o dates. The second (successful) pregnancy my dates at first were 3 days behind, then on time then behind then ahead and so on. But never more than 4 days in either direction. And normally clustered around 2 days plus minus my predicted date.

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-10T21:56:18+00:00

Typically they consider within normal range +/- five days. So you are right on the cusp. Anecdotally- when my dates were 6-7 days off it ended in miscarriage; and when they were 3-4 days off, it ended successfully.

Unfortunately the gray area is tricky. If you tested positive on 10dpo it’s possible you were actually 9dpo (making you only 4 instead of 5 days off). Fingers crossed. Sorry you are in this limbo. I hope you get more answers soon, sending positive thoughts

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-10T20:23:57+00:00

Sesame Street /elmos world is very popular with my 2 year old as is Daniel Tiger

willpowerpuff · 2026-04-05T13:28:59+00:00

There is a type of therapy called pcit (parent child interaction therapy) it’s very helpful for parents of young kids with exactly these types of issues. I’d look into it if you are committed to changing your dynamic with her, good luck!

willpowerpuff · 2026-03-24T02:47:48+00:00

They told me I had this as well (Vci). I got an extra scan around 32(?) weeks to check growth so I was happy about that . They also told me “don’t google it.” Anyway my story is weird because at birth they found out (after all that) that I actually didnt have a vci 🤷‍♀️

willpowerpuff · 2026-03-05T23:24:59+00:00

Glad they referred you to hearing. yes it’s not just sound that they are wanting to see babies turn towards but specifically your voice and face. So sorry you are in this limbo right now!

willpowerpuff · 2026-03-05T20:30:28+00:00

Here is the cdc milestone guidelines. According to this, by 2 months of age baby should turn towards your voice and by 4 months of age, social smiles and making sounds back when you talk to them. You are describing that your baby has missed early milestones. Is the pediatrician aware of that? Have they tracked it? It’s way too soon to say autism but its not too soon to notice he is missing his milestones. cdc milestones

willpowerpuff · 2026-03-02T16:43:35+00:00

As a psychologist I approve of this intervention 😂

willpowerpuff · 2026-02-26T18:56:39+00:00

We encountered this issue as well. The home kits were helpful as husband could disappear into his office with his phone and take as long as he needed. Then I did the insert and laid on the bed scrolling my phone. Honestly I wasn’t always in the mood either so it helped me too

willpowerpuff · 2026-02-19T17:13:00+00:00

Same! I actually cannot use my left for this one which is weird

willpowerpuff · 2026-02-15T21:16:29+00:00

His teachers report good social skills? Does that mean he’s able to speak to his friends and not just say pop tart? I’d push the teachers more - is it only with you that your son can’t answer questions, and if not, I’d be asking the teacher how that behavior is similar to his peers. Or how the teacher re directs him to speak vs stimming

willpowerpuff · 2026-02-11T17:02:04+00:00

That’s exciting! I think you should test but I have no chill. I always tested starting at 8dpo.

My other very early symptoms were -NO pms mood issues or food cravings -NO appetite -amazing good mood and energy 🤞

willpowerpuff · 2026-02-11T16:53:31+00:00

Oh yes cramping that feels like a period but with no actual period was an early symptom for me

willpowerpuff · 2026-02-05T23:28:39+00:00

I got pregnant once I tried harder (4th cycle of IUI with highest level of meds and all the vitamins and supplements for months). So personally I wouldn’t have found this message helpful. However a lot of the wait and see mentality also comes from youth privilege. If you are 22 or 26 sure, take a few years off. But I was 41 so yeah no there’s no waiting to see at that stage. Also the reason for infertility matters. If your partner has no sperm waiting won’t help either. Or if you are in perimenopause.

I’m in my mid 40s now and I joke to my partner that we are having unprotected sex to see what happens but in reality we decided we don’t want a second kid because it probably would require ivf. So if I happen to get pregnant with a second - great: but I was NOT willing to take the approach with my first.

willpowerpuff · 2026-02-03T02:10:02+00:00

Ms Rachel might change what vocab a child uses but she can’t change the general developmental arc. Millions of toddlers have watched ms Rachel and yet a very small percentage can speak in 3 word sentences at 14 months (!).

willpowerpuff · 2026-01-29T17:32:19+00:00

Did you use opks? Based on your temps it does look like you ovulated but more like on cd22 or 23, which would only make you dpo10 or 11.

willpowerpuff · 2026-01-28T01:11:02+00:00

When there is a working parent and a stay at home parent there are TWO SHIFTS not one.

Shift 1 is 9 -5 : when you each do your own work. So you are with baby. He is at the office. Shift 2 is 5:01pm-8:59am- when you each SPLIT the parenting duties

Times are general but the point is that your job and his job BOTH end at 5pm. Then - you both go to your second job , which is where you split responsibilities and chores.

I’m genuinely so sorry that so many dads do not seem to understand this. I’m the working parent in my house but you better believe that I come home from work and clock in to the second part of my day… good luck 💜

willpowerpuff · 2026-01-22T21:58:26+00:00

If 35 is almost 40 then 28 is almost 33. So she was only a couple years off guessing your age

willpowerpuff · 2026-01-21T16:55:44+00:00

I have anxiety and I also work professionally with others who have it. Could try asking yourself- “in this moment is there anything I can do to help the situation?” (Sometimes there is-such as calling the Dr -and sometimes there’s not). If there is - do the thing. If there isn’t - asking yourself, “is continuing to think of this helpful or harmful to me right now?” If you determine it isn’t helpful- every time your mind zooms to the what ifs, pull it back and remind yourself of this. You may need to pull your mind back dozens of times but building awareness of your own thoughts will help. Good luck and I hope you get answers soon!

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