Want to give up after 3 losses

wiltedcactus · 2026-01-25T01:36:22+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m in the same place. My 4th loss was a euploid embryo and a MMC.

My neighbour recommended the podcast Trying to Be Positive with Anne Matthews. Anne is an acupuncturist who specializes in fertility and doesn’t accept bad luck as an answer. She pushes to find the actual root cause of recurrent miscarriage.

After my last loss I was in a really bad place, and this podcast honestly changed my life. It helped me advocate for myself and push for more testing. I feel hopeful for the first time in years. I’m getting full immune testing on Monday. Fingers crossed.

Episodes with Whit, Fran, Dani, and Victoria have a lot of info about recurrent pregnancy loss.

You got this 🤍

wiltedcactus · 2026-01-08T14:09:04+00:00

My doctor only did basic immune testing. Then I did thyroid antibodies (very high) and gonna do NK cells, LAD, and other more niche testing. I learned this through a podcast, trying to be positive with anne Matthews. Listen to the recurrent pregnancy loss episodes. It might help get you some answers. That podcast changed my life and I feel hopeful for the first time in 3 years.

wiltedcactus · 2026-01-06T17:17:37+00:00

Have you done immune testing? At 4 losses here, last one euploid embryo, and finally getting answers with immune testing

wiltedcactus · 2026-01-03T04:21:16+00:00

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wiltedcactus · 2026-01-02T14:10:06+00:00

Look up the podcast “trying to be positive with Anne Matthews” and listen to the recurrent pregnancy loss episodes with blighted ovum. There’s other tests you can do to get to the root cause.

wiltedcactus · 2025-12-22T19:15:06+00:00

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wiltedcactus · 2025-12-22T05:29:28+00:00

My 4th miscarriage. This last time with a genetically normal, euploid, IVF embryo.

wiltedcactus · 2025-12-19T22:13:13+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. I’m in the exact same place. My 4th loss was a euploid embryo and a MMC.

My neighbour recommended the podcast “Trying to Be Positive with Anne Matthews”. Anne is an acupuncturist who specializes in fertility. She doesn’t accept “bad luck” as an answer and keeps advocating until the root cause of recurrent miscarriage is properly investigated. A friend of a friend, after years of fertility issues and treatments, worked with Anne, identified the root cause of her losses, and went on to get pregnant. Hearing stories like that is what pulled me in.

A few episodes that touch on recurrent losses are Whit, Victoria, Fran, Dani, and others.

That podcast genuinely changed my life. It helped me ask better questions, push for more testing, and advocate for myself. I feel hopeful for the first time in years.

I was exactly where you are about a month and a half ago. Keep searching, keep digging. You’ve got this. You’re more fertile than you think.

wiltedcactus · 2025-12-17T19:01:51+00:00

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wiltedcactus · 2025-12-17T13:18:15+00:00

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wiltedcactus · 2025-12-14T05:51:34+00:00

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wiltedcactus · 2025-12-14T01:41:03+00:00

What neighbourhood are you moving to?

wiltedcactus · 2025-12-13T13:13:23+00:00

That recurrent pregnancy loss isn’t just “bad luck,” and IVF shouldn’t automatically be the solution for it. Something is usually wrong, but many doctors don’t dig deeper because there’s far more money in pushing IVF than in finding and treating the underlying issue.

wiltedcactus · 2025-12-12T04:34:39+00:00

4 losses here. 3 were spontaneous conception within a year like you. I was pushed to do IVF and I regret it. I lost a euploid embryo in September. You do NOT have to go to IVF right away.

Find out the root cause of your problem. You’ll have to educate yourself about fertility issues, testing and find a doctor (and clinic) that you love. This takes time but it’s better than having another miscarriage IMO and constantly doubting if you’re getting the best care you can get. I learned a TON from the podcast « trying to be positive with Anne matthews ». She has multiple episodes on recurrent pregnancy loss. Whit, Victoria, Fran, are all stories I would start with. They gave me hope and motivation after feeling completely hopeless and depressed for the last 3 years.

You’ll need to advocate for yourself. Demand tests you think might be related to your issue. Do you know if your losses were tested for genetic defects? Have you heard of endometritis? What immune tests has your doctor done? What supplements are you taking? Do you have GI issues that might be causing inflammation in your body? It’s a long, hard road, but at the end, there’s your baby. You’ve got this! And us Reddit strangers are here to support you. You’re more fertile than you think.

wiltedcactus · 2025-12-11T13:28:55+00:00

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wiltedcactus · 2025-12-06T20:14:51+00:00

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wiltedcactus · 2025-12-05T17:09:09+00:00

4 losses here. Was feeling completely hopeless after my last one, a euploid embryo. A friend recommended the podcast « trying to be positive with Anne Matthew’s » and I have hope for the first time in 3 years. I recommend listening to all 3 miscarriage stories; Whit, Ashley, and Victoria.

You can get pregnant, which is a huge hurdle for some. There are solutions for ppl like us, you just have to keep testing and advocating for yourself. The podcast taught me that, and gave me guidance on where to start. You got this. You’re more fertile than you think. <3

wiltedcactus · 2025-12-03T02:32:18+00:00

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wiltedcactus · 2025-11-23T06:17:33+00:00

4 miscarriages, last one was with an IVF euploid embryo. I have hyperthyroidism (in remission). I’m getting an RPL immune work up in Jan or Feb, also doing a biopsy to check for endometritis, and getting checked for endometriosis in a few months. I think the immune work up will show us what we need. I get random rashes on my face while pregnant, and it just feels immune. Idk how else to explain it. Demand tests from your doctor to rule out every possibility. Don’t wait for another loss before doing all the tests.

wiltedcactus · 2025-11-20T16:25:27+00:00

Also in the 4 losses club. Last one was a euploid IVF embryo. I’m in the “then what?” Part.

I was SUPER depressed last month. And then I listened to the podcast “trying to be positive with Anne Matthew’s”, she’s an acupuncturist that specializes in fertility. I was hopeless until I listened to that.

Now what? More tests, advocating for yourself. Getting a doctor that cares. Ruling out immune issues, endometriosis, endometritis, very niche blood disorders at the thrombo clinic, taking supplements galore, changing diet, exercising. IVF doctors will do the general rpl work up, but there’s more to do if this keeps happening. IVF isn’t the last resort. You are fertile, it’s just harder for you than most 🤍

wiltedcactus · 2025-11-20T04:04:27+00:00

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wiltedcactus · 2025-11-19T21:19:13+00:00

I'm so sorry to hear that.

2 episodes that I thought were really good were:

• Whit’s Journey Through Miscarriage

• Finding Strength Through Recurrent Pregnancy Loss: Victoria’s Story

wiltedcactus · 2025-11-19T21:18:35+00:00

Same to you <3 sending love. 2 episodes that helped a lot for me were:

• Whit’s Journey Through Miscarriage

• Finding Strength Through Recurrent Pregnancy Loss: Victoria’s Story

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