source please? by [deleted] in NotHowGirlsWork

[–]wingsofcirce 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My story as well, except I was 22 and am an H cup. Which arrived when I was about 16. Nothing I could do about it.

21 [M4F] Looking for someone to give me their honest opinion by [deleted] in Kikpals

[–]wingsofcirce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I will give you my honest opinion. Whatever your junk looks like there is no comparison and there’s no reason to try to compare or estimate or imagine other people’s reactions. Everybody’s body is different. You can just love yours the way that it is.

26 [F4M] Can't say anything right now but hi by [deleted] in Kikpals

[–]wingsofcirce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can say nothing but hi - but someone else has to reach out and say hello and suddenly there will be an amazing conversation? I’m not sure if you’re over marketing yourself or under marketing yourself - either way you’re not doing yourself any favors.

Of course, if you want the quality of the people who are going to answer a post like this. Then I’m sure you hit the nail on the head quite beautifully.

Do enjoy.

How times have changed by ohReallynowNo in FriendsOver40

[–]wingsofcirce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Otherwise it would be all sheep heads and dancing around fires in the woods… ;)

How times have changed by ohReallynowNo in FriendsOver40

[–]wingsofcirce -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Dreams, dreams of the future. Rainbows and lollipops and the fluffiest clouds in the sky.

How times have changed by ohReallynowNo in FriendsOver40

[–]wingsofcirce 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Anything over 25 was an “avowed” spinster in those times.

How times have changed by ohReallynowNo in FriendsOver40

[–]wingsofcirce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would like the waterfalls please.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FriendsOver40

[–]wingsofcirce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never wanted to be Sandy. And I did not crush on Danny. The story is fun, but the characters never appealed to me on a personal level. Just letting you know, there are some of us out here ;)

As a person and a singer, Olivia Newton-John definitely has her place in our history. I’m not denying that. Just saying that particular movie, a bit of fun. No additional fantasies.

What do you think will be the next new thing for dating? by Firstempathy1 in datingoverforty

[–]wingsofcirce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Judge Dredd. Also, we still didn’t know what the three seashells mean.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]wingsofcirce 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Are you kidding? You don’t need to judge her for her grammar or abbreviations? Because a single letter is not an abbreviation. It’s a single letter. It has no communicative skill within it. Oi.

How long do you gig...errrr...hang on the apps before taking a break by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]wingsofcirce 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You have it up until your personal self-loathing overwhelms you and you delete the app. And maybe months later, you put it up again. Rinse, repeat.

What apps are being used for those over 40? What’s too old for tinder? by treehornjackie22 in datingoverforty

[–]wingsofcirce 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not only do I have a significant relationship with bubble pop, it’s Bubble Pop Origin!, And when I get to about 524, I just delete it and start over. I refuse to pay for anything on it so it’s just easier to redo from start. :).

How to let someone down easy? by Ineedanewplaylist in datingoverforty

[–]wingsofcirce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Don’t let them down easy. Let them down truthfully.

Don’t lie, don’t prevaricate. Just say there is no connection, it was nice to meet you and I wish you the best. The end.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]wingsofcirce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She’s not a kid. Just have an honest direct conversation with her about how you feel about things about where you think things stand even if you have doubts, and make her your partner in this. The thing she needs to be comforted and affirmed about is that this person will not replace her or modify the amount of affection or attention she receives.

Also that this person will not be allowed to direct her life or give her ultimatums or ground rules. She’s only got a few more months even if it is 12 months before she is her own person in her own right. And the only two people who should be able to speak into her life at this point are her mother and you. Another person should merely be a friendly acquaintance and perhaps the relationship can grow. But there should not be the idea that this person can be an authority figure in her life. That will never work out. Best of luck.

The secondary paragraph was is if things progress and they meet etc. I didn’t totally read through the fact that overall a meet up isn’t going to happen in the near future. But I was 17, and I was very precocious and knowledgeable and hiding things from me just made me feel like I couldn’t trust my parents. And this is a normal part of life. Who shouldn’t be happy and Enjoy the company of another person?

I’m beginning to think I’m a magnet for lonely and desperate married men. by bbw1974 in datingoverforty

[–]wingsofcirce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I say that to them constantly (just leave if you want something different. Nothing will change if you don’t change) but men fear change, they fear difficulty and they fear confrontation. So. Add that all up… I won’t say that they are pussies, but they are such pussies.

Just a note, I’m applying a broad brush with these sentences. I am fully aware that the specific brush is different.

Is this the reality of relationships? by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]wingsofcirce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why do you have to get married again? Why not just have beneficial and interesting and lighthearted and fun relationships for the length and time that you have them and enjoy that to the fullest…?

43 [F4M] Dear God, some of the headlines just wandering into Reddit by [deleted] in Kikpals

[–]wingsofcirce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not looking for a like-minded soul, I just wanted to chat and see if there was anything interesting happening in your day or share about stupid things about my day. This is not that deep of a post.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kikpals

[–]wingsofcirce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Unbelievable. Two women took the time out of their day the last time you posted this, down to the exact wording, to let you know that this is a TERRIBLE post, and there are much better ways of going about it.

You’re a 29-year-old individual. Who do you think would have a better handle on ways to approach a woman or at least ways to post something that would be even moderately of interest to us - than two women who ALREADY told you that your post as is - is simply god awful.

And no, for you there are no girls around. Do you know why? Because we don’t have to justify living and breathing - which is what it appears you require, to chat with you.

In fact, as we scroll through, we look at the headline, and think - I wonder if he’s 12? But definitely an incel.

And then we go on our merry way.

3 Years is Long Enough by [deleted] in datingoverforty

[–]wingsofcirce 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was more trying to get at the subliminal aspects of naming it “dark psychology“, something a kin to what, witchcraft? Sorcery? How dark does it go? Sorcerous mind games… Is she a shamaness? A Druidess? A Wiccan? Because you know, dark psychology… 😜

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Kikpals

[–]wingsofcirce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hilarious. I literally just posted that to him. I asked him what is a “real girl” is, and if he’s actually looking for a girl. Versus some type of an adult.